On a purely physical level, do you think that short guys are unattractive?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend was getting changed yesterday and I told him he looked sexy. He looked back at me weird and said "really?" Like, he was genuinely surprised that I thought he looked sexy. I asked him why he didn't think he was and he replied with "I don't know... I just... I don't know". He doesn't like talking about his feelings haha. After more prodding he told me that although he is comfortable being short, girls think it's a "horrible trait" and that he "had to accept that girls will never find [him] physically attractive." He's not an unattractive guy, he has beautiful green eyes, a nice face and a good body (and great hair XD). I think it's so ridiculous that he actually feels that way just because he is short.

One does not come to a conclusion like that without actually experiencing it. I get that a lot of girls prefer taller guys but do you actually think that shorter guys are just physically unattractive? I'm talking purely physical attractiveness. My dad is short so maybe that's why, but I've never seen shorter men as any less attractive or less masculine. We're both about the same height (5'4/5'5), I prefer it that way. What are your thoughts?

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Do other (shorter) guys feel this way?

[Radon]

Strange enough but it is true ladies think the bigger the better, shotter guys think they are just easy to shoot ;/. Now hold on here, I'm not hateful of guys taller than myself because most of my friends are well over 6ft, but however, it is true shorter guys seems to be the last option unless they are wealthy, because I am not so tall and the type of rejections I get is far different from the rejections my fellow 6ft-ers get... I get told to fuck off or piss off the ugliest insults you name it, or plainly "your too small" (Im 5ft5/ 5ft6 ... etc, I've got to a point where I really don't like approaching girls, i just keep it friendly, i'll get thrown in the zone anyway, but its strange how guys who have no respect for females tend to shagg more than kasanova (is that how it should be?) im sure there is a better way (im just not good at the game i guess i shouldn't hate the players right) x.

[BertMacklinFBI]

I couldn't care less if I was 5'0 or 6'2. all it takes is the right girl to come along. even then I don't need a woman's opinion to feel good in life, im already rocking it.

[geekylady]

this is a great answer

[buttf4rt]

The right girl... that's not a foot taller than you

[MakeitOrDieTrying]

Sounds like a hypocritical answer, I bet you're tall lmao.

[BertMacklinFBI]

@MakeitOrDieTrying well tall can be subjective... hahaa :D to some people I guess

[kuteandkrazy]

Personally, I would prefer a guy taller than me but I would not go as far as saying that short guys are physically unattractive. And besides, i've seen many unattractive tall guys as I have seen attractive short guys. I guess it also depends on your definition of short. My definition of short is a guy shorter than me, and I'm 5"3, so I think that "short" guys will always find girl who does not find them short. Even if not everyone finds a short guy attractive, my advice is to just don't give a fuck about what they say because there are more girls out there and everyone has a different preference on physical attractiveness. One "bad" physical trait does not immediately make someone unattractive. There is so much more to attractiveness than your height.

[JHAYES317]

So you would date a 5’3” guy?

[Snow-Wolf18]

I have no preference when it comes to height. I'm more interested in his personality, sense of humor, and intelligence. It's those things that determine true attractiveness to me.

I've honestly never understood why some girls only find tall guys to be good looking. Good looks can come in a range of heights. In fact, the best looking guy I've ever known was about 5'7. I knew him well and any girl would be lucky to have him, but if she had a problem with his height and wouldn't date him for that reason alone, it's her loss. Awesome guys come in all heights.

[Eric644]

Agree!!! To many women, it's the perception that a short man is always fat, stumpy and bald, which is far from true. A good looking short guy actually upsets them because it goes against this image that they have constructed on what a short guy has to look like, well pretty much what the media and society has constructed for them. Also many women will feel threatened by this guy you mentioned because it proves that they are followers of what society tells them who they should like and they just don't want to admit it.

[MCheetah]

@Snow-Wolf18
"I've honestly never understood why some girls only find tall guys to be good looking. Good looks can come in a range of heights. In fact, the best looking guy I've ever known was about 5'7. I knew him well and any girl would be lucky to have him, but if she had a problem with his height and wouldn't date him for that reason alone, it's her loss. Awesome guys come in all heights."

This is so beautiful. 😢

[Lunatanic]

I am a short person, so I will not mind dating a guy if he was short. When you like or love someone, something like height shouldn't matter. If the guy is attractive and have a nice personality, then why not? I seen a short guy (around my 5'1 height) who is extremely good looking date a girl who is in her height range. They are both happy. So, is not about attractiveness. I think it comes to what's persived as "attractive" or a good quality trait for bringing children? That's what I remember reading in some article somewhere...

[Hijuko]

Yes, so basically you're the perfect bitch who judges someone solely on his appearance and who thinks that an ugly man, even if he has a good personality, doesn't deserve anything. Sluts like you disgust me! Shut your big mouth bitch! 😉

[Kalinda]

I think short guys csn be really hot. Their bodies are usually very proportionate and coordinated not al gangly. It's just a different kind of hot :)

[Asker]

Yeah, I agree. The proportions haha. I think that's what I like too about shorter guys too :D

[Kalinda]

Yup.:)

[MCheetah]

"I've never seen shorter men as any less attractive or less masculine."

Your 5'5" boyfriend is 100% right. I'm 5'11" which is ALMOST into the "acceptable" zone for women, but I've still been given so much sh*t and heartache and depression from women implying to me, or outright telling me I'm worthless, inferior, a waste of sperm, etc, for not being tall enough, that I legit gave up pursing them. Cause f*ck that sh*t! Who needs that?

So yeah, I 100% agree with him, and he's even shorter than I am! I too accept that literally no normal, sane, biological woman will EVER find me physically attractive. Just two more inches though, and I might even have been married by now...

[Anonymous]

Short men in the main are not as desirable as tall men.

Tall men are seen as more masculine, stronger, they make a woman feel more feminine and give her a sense of protection.

Short men aren't undesirable at all but their dating pool is a lot smaller than taller men.

[Mesonfielde]

Girls tend to make the claim that "she has to be taller in high heels because fuck logic". Technically I mostly prefer girls similar to my height and I am 5'7", but I wouldn't stand a chance in the western dating world where even the 5'0" girls want a guy to be 6'5". Oh, you guys want to kiss? Let me find a statue to stand on... Like what? Same height is best for making out while standing, seriously.

[SpicedPumpkin]

This ^^
And yeah it's funny. I can't tell you how many girls I've known who are barely 5'0", who flat out say they will only date a guy who is 6' or taller. Wtf? Why? Even a short guy is taller than them. But they literally only want someone who towers over them. And I'm almost 5'8" and don't care how tall he is. I date guys who are "too short" for a girl im friends with who is literally almost a midget...

[koko124]

@SpicedPumpkin

I think it's a way of fighting one's own insecurities, maybe. It could be that girls who are very short are more attracted to very tall men to compensate for their own genes.

Meanwhile, girls who are already tall (for their gender) have less of a problem with it, because it matters less for their offspring. Being tall isn't without its pitfalls, after all: tall people die earlier (higher IGF 1 levels), and tend to have overactive pituitary glands. If everything is held constant, tallness correlates with metabolic dysfunction as well.

[SpicedPumpkin]

That's a good guess, it definitely makes sense. I would say that's probably the reason. And yes that is true, my boyfriend and I have actually talked about that before- taller people tending to have a shorter life span because of those things.

[Mesonfielde]

@SpicedPumpkin whenever I see a guy with a girl who's pretty much the same height, I feel warm and fuzzy inside :p

I love my height, by the way. But you need more luck to find a girl who doesn't obsess over the idea of the guy being at least 183 cm in the West. Here, it's not exactly 6'0", it's the "I must be shorter in heels" thing, but even then, not everyone follows the rule.

[SpicedPumpkin]

Same lol. I love it when guys are the same height as me, it's always just comfy to me. Easier to do everything when you are the same size. :) one of my exes was the exact same height as me and I loved it so much.
That's good! It's great you love it, it is sad to see some guys who are literally like angry about their heights and bitter about it- I've known a few like that. there's nothing wrong with not being ultra tall. Some girls are just shallow and stupid and some guys let it get to them.

[Eric644]

@SpicedPumpkin
awesome response!!! Yeah im 5'7 and I dated girls that are 5'10, 5'11 and they didn't care

[Secret22]

Bein short does not affect character and personality. My BF is the same height height as me, maybe a tad shorter? I find him to be very attractive and sexy and I tell him that practically every day XD and then he will say that her didn't do anything, and I'll reply, "you didn't have to do anything". I love him so much <3

[jarcher123]

I'm only 5'0 myself so any short guy is tall to me, but to be honest, although my boyfriend is 6'0, it doesn't bother me how tall they are. I don't find someone any less attractive just because they're shorter, if anything I think I'd prefer a shorter guy just because he'd be similar to me and I could reach him better haha! xo

[JHAYES317]

Really? You would date a guy an inch shorter than you?

[Ishtar]

Not all tall guys are attractive and definitely not all short guys are unattractive. it really depends on the overall physique, such as how muscular he is, waist and shoulders ratio etc.

little Wayne is short but he has a very muscular and well proportion body. He is Hot hot hot!

[Ishtar]

little Wayne.. auto correct LOL

[Anonymous]

to be honest i think so.. dont get me wrong short can be attractive, but if a short guy that i didn't necessarly found extremly attractive asked me on a date i would have said no unless we had a lot of chemistry. Ex. Right now a guy that is the same hight as me likes me and when i first met him i considered not meeting him again based on the fact that i knew he was short hence i wasn't going to find him attractice. But i went, met him and got to know him, but he was just smaler then me in every way (weight and hight) + we had nothing in common and i just didn't feel the conection. So short guys only become less attractive to me if they are skinny aswell (i lift 6 times a week and im bulking up, so a smaller guy would just feel and look weird)

[Opinion Owner]

Im 5'5 by the way

[Eric644]

Well in order for a short guy to look proportional, they have to be a bit on the skinny side, if not they start looking stocky. Bulky short guys actually make themselves look shorter by being bulky

[Opinion Owner]

That might be true. m but skinny guys are a turn off

[Eric644]

What if the guy is skinny but muscular at the same time.

[Eric644]

And yes skinny muscular people do exist

[Opinion Owner]

The thing is that im not skinny... so if he was skinny, but musuclar it would still be a turn off. .. I dont want to be the bigger of the two of us

[JHAYES317]

So a tall guy doesn’t have to be good looking but a short guy does? That’s messed up

[julesabi98]

Personally, I would prefer men who are taller than me. But I don't need them to be 6'3 and look like models. I find men my height attractive, and often shorter guys attract me too. It really doesn't matter. And those girls that have attitudes like "you have to be taller than me" gotta stop. It's ridiculous how so many girls, not all but many, complain about guys being shallow about girls' bodies but then they're just as shallow as they expect 8 packs and 6'3 models.

[Elzie_Sky]

Please don't let him feel like this.
I find short guys soo sexy, especially when they have rockin bods.
I'm 5'6, and I'd prefer a 5'3 to 5'9 guy over a 6'3 guy.
Sadly, all the shorter guys I've asked out don't go for me, I get asked out by taller guys 6'0+. :(

[Eric644]

if they don't go for you then they are stupid!! I'm 5'7 and your height is perfect in my opinion

[JHAYES317]

5’8” - 5’9” isn’t short

[Jadekitten]

As long as he's taller than me (I'm 5'8) I'm fine. I'm not really attracted to guys who are shorter than me, but I know that I'm taller than most girls, and I don't understand why a shorter girl wouldn't be okay with a guy who's an inch or two taller than her. Tbh if you're tall you're automatically a lot more attractive in my opinion, I'm not sure why haha but most tall guys are just really attractive.

[Eric644]

height has nothing to do with attractiveness, you are just conforming to society and what the media tells you is attractive. A short guy can have the same proportions as a guy that is tall and still be good looking.

[Jadekitten]

First of all, how would you know it has nothing to do with attractiveness? When a guy is shorter than me they just aren't attractive, 1 reason being that I feel almost older than them, almost like they're a child or something, and I like when I feel guys are stronger and bigger than me - its just attractive.

[Eric644]

So even if you really liked the guy and found him to be attractive you would still reject solely because of his height, you know how shallow that sounds

[Jadekitten]

If he's short, I wouldn't find him attractive in the first place. Maybe that's shallow - oh well. Most guys are as tall or taller than me anyways.

[Eric644]

How do you know that for sure, you know not all short guys are stocky looking right, there are short men who don't look short. So what if this guy had everything you wanted in a man;charming, successful, athletic, slim build, good looking but he was an inch shorter than you, you would still not even give him a chance, agains say that is very shallow and immature

[Eric644]

"Again I say"

[Jadekitten]

First off, the likelihood of a guy being PERFECT other than being shorter than me is so unlikely that I can't accurately predict what I would do in that situation. And, once again, a man is not attractive if he's shorter than me. He just isn't. If he really was so amazing we could be friends. Being shorter than me is a deal breaker. Again, MOST guys are taller than me, or at least my height.

[Eric644]

Nope height and attractiveness are two separate things, height has no effect on how good looking someone is, but keep making excuses for being shallow. by the way there are a lot of guys that are 5''7 to 5'8

[Jadekitten]

Lol ok, you're very right, you caught me! I have absolutely no idea what I find attractive, I was just trying to cover up how horrifyingly shallow I am. You're very accurate when you say that height has nothing to do with attractiveness, completely, 100% accurate, because you, a 26 year old man who is likely shorter than me, knows what me, a 16 year old girl, looks for physically in a man! Well done!

[Eric644]

I am just saying, it doesn't matter if someone is 6'2 or 5'7 it doesn't affect their looks, two people can have the same exact build and facial structure and look exactly similar, one just being shorter than the other. In other words a short guy with a small bone structure and a slender frame will have a body that will look exactly similar to the tall guy. Height having any effect on looks is totally an illusion

[Jadekitten]

You're right... however, there's a LOT more to being attractive than just facial structure and body proportions. Usually I can tell if a guy is shorter just from a picture, just like you can tell if a guy is taller. Anyways, height DEFINITELY plays a role in how attractive a guy is. Perhaps not in a picture, but definitely in real life. It doesn't matter if two guys proportions are similar - that's not why tall guys are more attractive. It's because of their presence, and how taller guys seem stronger make me feel smaller. There's a lot more that's too hard to explain.

[Eric644]

I think you having a hard time explaining means that you are conforming to what society tells you, you just dont want to admit it. If you look at a picture of a slim built short guy, he will look like a tall guy, that is why many women are surprised to find out that certain actors are actually short when they thought for sure they were tall; like Taylor Lautner from Twilight. if someone wears heels or ifts they look exactly like the person that is 3 inches taller than them, height only gives an illusion of being more attractive. I think what you are talking about is confidence, if an attractive short guy was confident, i don't think his height should matter, height is only a number on a ruler that has no effect on somone's appearence that is only society telling girls at a young age that "your prince has to be TALL dark and handsome" when you gget wiser and realize it is just society telling you who to like, than you will realize height doesn't matter :)

[Eric644]

opps i meant Then

[Jadekitten]

Seriously... you are still trying to tell me what I find attractive in a guy. by the way, Taylor Lauchner (sp?) isn't attractive to me, and you can tell he's a little on the shorter side. Confidence is attractive, HOWEVER, being short & confident isn't gonna make someone attractive to me. I said its "too hard to explain" because it would take forever and most people can't completely explain exactly what they are attracted to. I do know, however, that I am not attracted to guys shorter than me. It's not "society", it is LITERALLY my preference.
Height is not "just a number on a ruler", just like weight isn't "just a number". It's a number that, whether it be high or low, plays a drastic role in your appearance. I simply am not attracted to men that are shorter than me. That's it. It's not society telling me what I'm attracted to, and ironically, it's not YOU telling me what I'm attracted to. It's just my preferences. No big deal. Why does it matter to you so much?

[Eric644]

it really doesn't matter to me. I just think you could be excluding a lot of good guys if you make height something more than a preference. Height is just a number on a ruler because unlike weight that number doesn't make a difference on one's appearance, a man could be 5'7 or 5'8 but could be thin and have a small frame and that man would look exactly like the guy who is 6ft, we know that height doesn't make a difference in appearance because they have done studies where they let women look at pictures of men who were slim built but short and almost always the women guessed they were tall and those women were surprised to find out they were short. I just think if you get obsessed with height you could miss out on a guy that could be good for you, you will realize when you get older that height is a silly thing to worry about

[Jadekitten]

It DOES make a difference in their appearance. It DEFINITELY does. Maybe not to YOU personally, but to ME it makes a huge difference. I'm not talking about looking at a picture, I'm talking about real people. And in real people, height plays a large role in how attractive someone is. You can keep rehashing your point as many times as you want, but that's not going to somehow convince me that I am suddenly going to be attracted to the very small population of guys that are shorter than me.

[Eric644]

I wouldn't say its a very small population, there are many men who are 5'7 to 5'9. There are many men you may think are 5'9 but once they take off their dress shoes they are 5'7 and it totally fools you because those shoes actually make them look 5'9. If a man who is slender and small boned wore shoes that added 3 inches to his height, he will look exactly like the man that is slender and 3 inches taller than him. You can keep on justifying why a man has to meet some ridiculous number on a ruler but the picture studies and dress shoes prove other wise, highly has no actual effect on actual physical appearance that is just the media fooling people into thinking it does, the media has brainwashed us into believing a prince must be TALL dark and handsome. It is society because in some countries like Russia and France more women care less about height than women from Anglo speaking countries proving it is cultural indoctrination.

[Jadekitten]

Wow, you are pretty ridiculous. I'm too tired to keep arguing with you while you try to explain to me why what I find attractive in a guy is wrong. Nice talk.

[Eric644]

So if you met a great guy but once he took off his dress shoes he ended up being like half an inch shorter than you, you would still be so hung up on that and you would reject him!!! Wow, go ahead its your loss

[JHAYES317]

So you’re find a tall ugly guy more attractive than a short handsome guy?

[Vtastic]

On a physical level, no I do no think short guys are unattractive. I have seen short guys who are very good-looking and have a nice physique.

But in my past, I have dated guys who were often about my height (5'5) or taller. I would not mind being with a short guy so long as he is not intimidated by me wearing heels. From previous experiences, I went out with this one guy who would tell me to take off my heels and just wear flats because I would appear taller than him. Hence, the reason I often prefer someone who is taller.

But short guys can be attractive!

[Eric644]

What a jerk!!! I wouldn't care. I don't mind taller girls

[JHAYES317]

That’s because other people will make fun of him for being shorter than his girl…most guys don’t actually care about their girls wearing heels in of itself

[lemonlimetime]

I don't find it weird. Of course if I could choose I'd choose to make my man tall, but it honestly doesn't make him any less attractive to me. My one friend is extremely short and i think it actually makes him look cuter :) but I really don't see it that bad, since it's something you can't really change.

[JHAYES317]

Yeah but if you are so attracted to height wouldn’t you feel like you were settling if you dated a short man?

[CupKate6]

Being an incredibly tiny 5'0, I don't care at all about height, as even a pretty small guy will probably be quite a bit taller than me. So maybe it's easy for me to say that, but then again, I currently like a 6'3 guy, and I've got over THAT height thing, so surely girls can get over her guy being only an inch taller?

[JHAYES317]

What do you mean got over that height thing? Girls already like tall guts there’s nothing to get over. If you dated a guy who was 4’10”, now THAT would be something worth mentioning.

[purpleballoons456]

That is so cute! I don't blame him for feeling that way though because many girls place an emphasis on height. No, I don't think short guys are unattractive. There are plenty of attractive short guys. However, I would prefer to date a person who's taller rather than shorter. At least my height or a few inches taller and I'm not one of those girls who likes the 6 foot guys. That's too tall. lol

[JHAYES317]

So a guy an inch shorter than you is unattractive?

[xobrowneyedbeauty]

i do not go for guys shorter than me but i also don't find someone unattractive purely based on height. is there something innately physically appealing about a guy who's 6'2"? sure. but i could find a guy who is 5'4" attractive but i probably wouldn't get together with him. to be fair, i'm also on the tall-ish side. i'm 5'7" my ex was about 5'6" and my current boyfriend is about 5'8" so i don't care that much. 3 inches could be a lot though but it doesn't mean i would think he's not attractive.

[JHAYES317]

You don’t go for guys shorter than you yet your ex was an inch shorter the logic doesn’t add up

[dutchpride92]

Height was never important to me whatsoever. My husband happens to be tall, but I would've been just as attracted to him if he were 5'3". Before we got together, every guy I liked was around 5'7" or shorter. But I fell in love with my husband for so many things, that I couldn't care less how tall or short he is. Chemistry is much more important than height, hair/eye color or weight.

[Hidden_P]

Physically they are still attractive to me. However, I just prefer taller men (6ft +)

It's just a thing for me - I'm 5.5 and I'm small and fat. I've always been "full" (a little fuller after Christmas...) but because I'm not that tall and extra weight, I prefer someone bigger because subconsciously I think they're stronger. Like if I sat on a little dude's lap, he'd snap.

[JHAYES317]

There are plenty of tall weak af dudes out there…

[biracialQT]

I've seen many attractive short guys in my life. Short guys aren't per definition unatractive. For example Gary Rojas (a famous viner) he's short but he is hot!
The thing is to teen girls like myself, image means everything. I'm tall myself and my mind is brain washed, guys that are shorter then me, are automatically off limits in my mind.

[Eric644]

you need to stop caring about society and do what makes you happy, if you like a short guy, go for him, you don't have to explain jack shit to your girlfriends when they tell you "eww... he isn't tall"

[Gonetowardthewind]

@Eric644 dude seriously you need to to quit being a jealous manlet and realize women have preferences

[JHAYES317]

You’re 27…

[kairon156]

it's nice to know some girls can find short guys hot.

Other than my height I know I'm good looking (been told in the past), though it's not something I think about often I've accepted being short as apart of who I am which among other reasons is why I enjoy being single.

PS: I'm 5'1

[SupMuggle]

I for one think that height shouldn't matter, it's more of the personality. Besides short guys can be cute and sexy! XD and also he's closer to you as well :3 so easier for a sneaky kiss if you know what I mean ;D and it's not like anybody can help their height anyways.