What is a good relationship?

[Nicolás25]

A good relationship has:

Trust: Self explanatory

Care: This means both nurturing the person with your affection but also caring for their needs

Honesty: Self explanatory

Conversation and Humor: Without these the relationship will grow stale so conversation should flow and have some good laughs.

Loyalty: Self explanatory

Same plans for the future: Kids, marriage, religion, etc. it is important to be on the same paige or near to the same paige to not have these issues slowly break apart the relationship.

Patience: At times the other person will act irrational you must be patient which brings me to my next point

Understanding: Understand each others reactions for example my girlfriend gets really cranky when sleepy she will get bitchy but I don't take it to heart because I understand that it's how she is when sleepy and that isn't her true self.

Attraction: I don't mean the person needs to be a model but simply that you find her attractive that doesn't mean you lust after her but you look at her in the morning and you're happy to see her face instead of wishing she would have kept the make up on.

Companionship: One of the biggest things is having you're SO be your companion in life the one you feel is a part of you or at least makes you feel more secure with their company.

Respect: Self explanatory

Acceptance: Along with understanding of your partner you need to accept who they are you are dating them after all you aren't dating the mental version of them you wish they were.

BONUS ROUND

Thoughtful: Spontaneously giving her flowers or picking her up to go eat after work out of the blue.

Attentive: Listening to what she says this goes along with thoughtful because if she says something like I really like this sweater at a local shop or I love ice skating you can take her on a date to the ice skating rink and or buy her the sweater.

Sex: This isn't a necessity but if you have good sex that is a definite bonus.

Communication: Although this one is a little overrated it's good to know how to use it when necessary.

What a good relationship is not:

Jealousy, overreactions, anger, grudges, passive aggressivity, guilt trips, apathy, manipulation, shallowness, stuborness, clinginess, dramatic reactions, lack of effort, controling, and insecurity.

Thanks for reading everyone I wrote this out of quick brainstorm if you can think of any other ones please comment below all opinions are welcome and have great day.

[Anonymous]

My ex just wanted to get into my pants. I feel terrible because he seemed like he really liked me before we started dating and it was pretty obvious. But as soon as we started dating he began sending me shirtless pics and asking for pics of my boobs even though I always would say no (remember what happened to Amanda Todd?). But since it was my first relationship I thought that sexual compliments were normal. And then three months later he broke up with me while I was hanging out with his friends. He was polite and said "I'm just not ready for a relationship." But he just continued talking to his friends after that and didn't even ask if I was okay or anything so I just got up and left and he didn't seem to care. The next day he seemed to be happy and normal and flirting with another girl. It hurt so much and now I don't think I will ever trust guys ever again. They are all just after sex anyways. And this guy recently confessed that he had a huge crush on me but I pushed him away because I don't like him back and he doesn't talk to me anymore and I don't care because I thought he was an obsessive creep. I highly doubt any guy would deserve me or actually want a serious relationship with me anyways. Thank god I am still a virgin.

[ThatTomGuuy]

Not every guy wants to get in your pants. He may have just wanted to do that, but there are guys out there who actually seek a serious relationship that isn't all about sex

[Opinion Owner]

Haha yeah right 😒 no other guy ever approaches me and no one would want a serious relationship with someone who's shy. They would just take advantage of that and also take advantage of me being gullible to try to get in my pants and then dump me afterwards. I'm not falling for this trap again. I'm just going to push away anyone who asks me out. (I also suffer from low self esteem and I am very sensitive.)

[Sebastian25]

Can anybody help me not be clingy? It caused me to be broken up with this truly amazing woman and it really hurts. I wish i knew before this happened but it and im hoping i can find a way to turn myself around and change for the better :) i want to this for one i hope me and her can talk and reevaluate everything sooner or later! We are friends and we text/ talk about days to one another and she even texts me when she can't sleep the other night we talked on the phone for an hour til she felt sleepy enough! She really is an amazing woman and changed how i think in a good way! I love her lots and i really hope we can work things out so any and all advice is greatly appreciated

[Nicolás25]

Here is a pretty good article man I hope it helps I can only imagine how much it hurts to loose someone for doing something that you don't mean to although she sounds like she might still like you she just wants you to not be clingy
https://m.wikihow.com/Give-Each-Other-Space

[Sebastian25]

Thank you i really think that article changed my perspective and im glad i read it! It really made me notice how controlling i was! I know how terrible that mustve been but what do i do now do i just wait for her to text me instead of me texting her? What shows her i want to give her space but i dont want her to move on :/ i love her lots and she broke up with me and what if she moves on ill be even more broken? :/

[Nicolás25]

One of the things I mention is communication in my take what you need to do now is apologize for putting her through that just mention it like before she hangs up the phone slip it in like hey Brittney I just wanted to say that I'm sorry for being controlling when we were together and not letting you be I've been working on it and I hope you can forgive me then just give her time and have patience maybe take her out on a coffee date and show her the new you

[lePoivre]

Sex is kind of necessary in a romantic relationship so I'd have to say that if you're not enjoying the sex, you need to figure out a way to fix it or find someone else. It's more than just a "bonus." I unfortunately came to this realization yesterday 😞 I didn't break up with my boyfriend, but I've decided that unless he puts forth the effort to make me happy in bed, I have to leave him. I can't stay in a relationship where sexual enjoyment is one-sided. It sucks though because I love and admire him when we're not between the sheets.

[Nicolás25]

Sexin a relationship is a necessity but GOOD/AMAZING sex is a bonus most people are OK with their partner being OK at sex but there does need to be some effort

[lePoivre]

Alright, that makes sense. Thank you for clarifying.

[stardust101]

I agree with ALL that you mentioned (except for one thing) so I will just add to it. First of all, Doesn't everyone have insecurities? A good relationship is learning to face each other's insecurities and to build one another up, not walk away when the going gets tough. Determination to handle the others weaknesses makes the relationship strong without making each feel bad for those weaknesses and using those weaknesses against one another would just kill all of the other positive things you just mentioned.

[Nicolás25]

Yes I should explain the type of inserities i speak of are the ones that harm the relationship like your insecure if the other person actually loves you so you are always checking up on them and if they don't answer the phone because they were asleep you get mad because in your mind he is cheating on you with a prettier girl

[MichelleJustAsking]

I just heard a quote that I think sums it up: "One where 2 independent people make a deal that they will help each other become the best version of themselves."

I think if you are focused on helping someone be the best they can be and always treat them in a manner that is within their best interests (regardless of how you may be feeling about them at the moment since feelings are fickle and often rooted around selfishness), it's kind of the umbrella that everything else falls under.

If someone isn't treating you like a queen/king and helping you become the best version of yourself... and isn't a positive force in your life, then it's not a good relationship.

[notgoodwithnames]

Good Take.
For me, the perfect guy is the one who can see right through me and understand my emotions and care enough to actually do this or try to understand me.
I will do the same, because i am able to know when someody seems unhappy or uncomfortable.

[Kamir2]

Thanks this just helped me realize where things went wrong in the relationship

[Nicolás25]

Glad to help mind sharing what went wrong?

[Kamir2]

I was being too clingy, and we kind of lack intimacy, mainly because we both we're nervous

[Nicolás25]

Sorry to hear that man here is an article that might help
https://m.wikihow.com/Give-Each-Other-Space

[Kamir2]

Yeah, i realized that all she wanted all this time, but i kept being needy, now she says she lost feelings for me

[Kamir2]

And i tried to rush things, and tried to make her commit too early

[Anonymous]

"Sex: This isn't a necessity but if you have good sex that is a definite bonus."

You totally lost me there. Good sex is the cornerstone of a healthy romantic relationship. Without it the relationship cannot reach its potential.

[Nicolás25]

Sorry I have been getting criticism for this I meant to say good/great sex but sex isdefinetly a necessity in a good relationship

[Opinion Owner]

No worries bro. Aside from that this is a great take.

[Michelle892]

Great mytake! I think the most important thing in any relationship is to love the person for who they are and not what they do for you

[Anonymous]

I agree for the most part. However, heated arguments should not be the end of the world. Even siblings and best friends fight and argue and disagree on light and serious subjects. Why not couples?

[Anonymous]

Thank you for your personal opinion. It differs from mine and my cousin's to a noticeable degree.

[Nicolás25]

Thats fine this is what a good relationship looks like to me at least

[Opinion Owner]

Exactly. Your title should say "What is a good relationship, according to me"

[Bards]

A good relationship is laughing 90% of the time

[pinkbubble]

I liked it :)