Technically, I've never been in a relationship, so I don't have something to compare to, but I have always been my friends' "Love adviser" and I've heard it all!
I like being young and completely inexperienced for several reasons!
1. Having the bed all to yourself
No one pushing you to the side, or taking the bed sheet to their side or making the bed hot. It's aaaall yours!
2. Peace of mind
3. Not being worried about pregnancy
The number of times my bestfriend was terrified about getting pregnant because she forgot to take her pill makes me enjoy not having to worry about these things >< !
4. No drama
No jealousy , no fights, no disagreements, no drama.
5. You can focus on improving yourself
You have more "me time" you can spend on improving yourself. It could be anything, physically improving yourself, mentally improving yourself, or intellectually improving yourself etc... I think it's best to engage in a relationship when you're ready and comfortable in your life and skin.
6. More time to spend with your family and friends
It just seems that when my friends get into serious relationships they stop being as fun as they used to be and they spend way less time with their friends, until they break up and are back into the single life again.
7. No heartbreak
Self explanatory.
8. More time to look for someone special
I don't want to jump from relationship to relationship and have dozens of failed trials because I just couldn't stay single for some time and take the time to filter out bad decisions. Plus it means having less baggage which I personally prefer.
9. You can crush on as many people as you want without feeling guilty
Exciting!
10. Feeling younger and carefree
Being single usually means less responsibilities. I don't have to worry about someone else, his family, how we have to move in together and do all these adult things!
When my best-friend started her relationship with her boyfriend and moved in together , her worries and concerns completely changed. It went from wondering if that older hot dude in uni is interested in her or not and if we can still get tickets to the Uni's Gala, to arguing with her boyfriend on how they want to raise their kids and fighting because he doesn't want to let her take her future kids to church because he's atheist and thinks it's indoctrination and bla bla bla.
I feel like I still have the worries of a young adult and late teen when I hear about her adult problems, which makes me want to enjoy my careless youth as much as I can, as long as I still can, because it won't last forever.
11. The whole process of waiting and daydreaming about a future special someone can be fun
The mystery of the future is very thrilling! I like to daydream about the future man destined for me. I wonder where he's living, where he's from, what's his name, how he looks like and how our future wedding and home will look like!
Buuuut I still believe that being in a healthy relationship is the best! Having someone to share your dreams, happiness and worries with is better than having to deal with them alone!
But Being single is not that bad and can be quite enjoyable too :) Your attitude when you're single, and how you manage your time while being single by working on yourself can help you a lot in your future relationship.
So just relax and be patient, good things come to those who wait. ^_^
I've always been single, had crushes, told them and I was glad that they rejected me. They just turned out to be assholes with no respect for women. I love having my double bed to myself, I can lie slap bang in the middle like a starfish. Lol. Not having to worry about cheating is a good point because that's all people in relationships seem to do now. I'd like to have more time to improve myself and my lifestyle. Great mytake, I feel so much better about being single now.
im 26 and never been in a relationship either. im a virgin. nothing more than just crushes that never went anywhere…so if anyone out there reading this in my situation…you're not alone. :)
1) I like the bed to myself as well. It's one of my most personal spots. Don't have to worry about anything like waking up in the middle of the night and wanting to watch a little TV without disturbing him. One of the reasons is that I don't have to worry about snoring. I CANNOT sleep with snoring. I just can't. I'd have to leave the room. There's also the issue of body fluid. What if I or he accidentally pie in our dream, thinking we're on a real toilet, but we're not?
2) Peace of mind about cheating is one of my most top reasons why I'm single. A guy can say the right things, do the nicest things, look good, and everything, but there's always that one side of a person you don't know. With women being gorgeous all over the planet, it's hard to even imagine a guy can center all of his attention on just one woman, especially if the temptation is that high. There's also the issue of STDs. I don't think I'd ever want to live any longer if the partner I trusted gave me something I can't cure. It's gross.
5) I need lots of improving. I think I always will. I'll never stop learning or experiencing things. I love spending time at the gym. I love adventures, and I love a carefree life. No kids, no unexpected pregnancies, no managing a relationship with a guy. Sort of ties into #10.
6) One of the problems I see among women/girls is that once they do get a boyfriend, it does seem like they drop off the planet. They don't stay in contact with their girlfriends/best friends anymore. All the center of attention is on the guy. My sister is like that. Good Lord, she'd do anything for him. Ever since her boyfriend moved closer, it's like he yanked her away. We used to play video games together all the time, and she was the perfect partner. Now, it's always them two playing together. Guys always have time for their bros.
8) That's what I want for myself. I'm not the type to like skipping from relationship to relationship. If I'm destined for someone, I'd much prefer it to be just him. Find him, marry him, love each other intensely, stay together until we die. That's it.
1. Sleeping away from your lover makes sleeping harder 2. Good relationships, people dont cheat because you have found what you are looking for 4. again good relationships dont have drama. Even so, a little jealousy and disagreements is a healthy form of interaction if in moderation. Id never want a girlfriend thats never jealous or never disagrees with me 5 when you have that person and you are in love. you can improve yourself limitlessly. You can conquer anything 6 good lovers dont prohibit you from seeing whoever you want whenever you want 7 heartbreak? Its better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all. 8 more time for someone special? I think not. She is most special to me 9 I can already crush on anyone I want, but she's my ultimate crush. Im allowed to do anything because i am an individual of my own
Dont base your opinion on what you hear and what others tell you about their own relationships. See for yourself :) and when you ever choose the right guy, go back to this post :)
1. I toss and turn a lot and would struggle sharing a bed 2. Peace of mind is good but sometimes it's hard to have peace of mind when you've been perpetually single, feeling lonely, and want to experience companionship, but feel like there's no one out there you connect with 3. Definitely agree. 4. I hate drama too. 5. I agree. Not saying you have to figure everything out with yourself before you get involved with someone, but should always be on a path of self-improvement. 6. My family are pretty far from me and I've recently felt indifferent towards my folks. My friends and I are often busy and some of them live far out. We always talk but fall out of touch at times. It makes being single feel even more lonely and miserable. 7. I felt hurt by someone I once had feelings for. It wasn't the worst thing that could've happened but I imagined true heartbreak would feel 10x worse. 8. The way things have been looking, feels like that won't ever happen. 9. Sure 10. I don't really feel any younger but rather that I'm missing out on what could be an enjoyable experience in life. 11. I've grown tired of idealizing that someones out there for me. I wish I could stop because I feel like I'll end up disappointed if I keep thinking that way.
never had a girlfriend in my life and it is the best choice I have ever made. Seeing what teens go through with these superficial relationships makes me laugh. why put so much stress on your self if you are young and should be enjoying your time? all the arguments and the ''im dont with him/her'' or they get back together every other day its just so dramatic. All logical people know most teen relationships do not work out. Parents learn the hard way from past experience but there are a few exceptions of young people who just know its a waste of time but its very rare. I have better things to do at this point than looking for women. I dont have the time or money. I for one have not found myself mentally like most young guys haven't. Many girls at a young age may except a lot for guys but being young we are still learning. Its crucial for me to better myself before I invest time in anybody else. Also, I just dont have the money at the moment because I am going to school and im planning on moving once i get my job
Agree with this 100%! It really is relaxing and less stressful. Yes, at times it can be hard when others have expectations of you. But who the heck cares! As long as your single and happy with that instead of being in a relationship and miserable. One thing I will say though, is to do whatever will bring about peace, is beneficial for everybody and most of all something you want to accomplish in life. Sometimes your single because your not ready, and that's okay too. Some thrive in relationships and others don't.
I was single from 18 to 31. And I was glad that I waited. I prayed for the RIGHT woman to come into my Life. God answered my prayers. We've been married for 24 years.
What I'm seeing today are more Men getting "burned" in Divorces and relationships. With that pain in their hearts, Men are just walking away. 70% of Men, 20 - 34, are unmarried.
If I were a young Man today I would most likely not get married. Its simply is just too dangerous to date Women.
I would turn my prayers to God for the answer.
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Anonymous
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I agree with this though coming from a guy who's dated, had sex, etc but no relationship that it gets old.
Hookups, flings, etc are fun but only while they last. Sometimes you want someone that you can do things with beyond the physical aspect.
Having said that, I'm not desperate for a relationship. I ended it with a girl recently because her clinginess and insecurities were too much for me to deal with. Then there's just been ones into me that I wasn't feeling it. While I am looking for a relationship, I'm not just gonna be in one just for the sake of it.
I've been single most of my life and I can say "amen" to most of those. I've had my share of relationships, of course, and there's lots of good to be had, but I have no trouble being alone for a lot of the reasons listed here.
Obviously, you don't want to stay alone for TOO long because no matter how much you appreciate the single life, the loneliness and the instinctual need for good ol' human contact starts to itch. ;)
good things are not going to come if you love being single. so if you love being single and think so negative about love and relationships, than thats your choice. then when you get older and realize your alone, you will lose out on love and spending all that time, the best time when young with someone. so, dont start whining. or crawling back to GAG complaining. NO GUY WILL EVER LOVE OR WANT ANYTHING TO DO WITH A GIRL LIKE THIS just so ya know.
not really true, im a virgin because I can live without sex and the headache of a women. Im 19, at this point of my life I have to find myself and better myself before I get with others. Im not in a rush to not be a virgin but women is time and investments. I dont have the time or the money to be spending on a women that I may not even care about in the next month (I lost interest in people pretty quick)
I so agree with your take. I'm having all the fun in this single life. I am taking care of my health, I don't have any fear of being heart broken or being cheated on. I am waiting for that special guy and daydreaming. I never really understood before that a single life could be so exciting and peaceful.
Except that due to you beliefs and religious views some of these wouldn't at all apply to you either way lol. And some things you listed that happen when your single also happen when your in a relationship to an even greater degree ( experience ) among other things.
I have to agree with all of this. For some people a relationship is essential. For others it really is something they prefer not to bother with. In all honesty dating and relationships aren't for everyone.
Most people do so due to social norms or the fear of being alone. Not many people give second thought to the question of if they actually 'need' a partner.
I am single and never had a girlfriend and am used to it. Happiness on it's own is essential before getting into a relationship anyway.
Being single isn't bad at all. Too many people firmly believe otherwise.
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Anonymous
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Nope, i prefer being with my special girl any day... never want to leave her side. I think the single life is cool, but nothing compares to when you fall deeply in love with a girl and want to see her smile at every possible moment. The romance, the passion, the shear magic that only the two of you can see. Yes it comes with the fights and disagreements, but i enjoy being with my special girl, cuddling and holding her while we watch the stars above... ah, love can be so amazing.
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Anonymous
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Well, I started my first relationship at 28. Before that I had many crushes but it didn't lead to anything. It was a very quiet and nice time in my life, where I got to know myself quite well and discover what I wanted from life... But now I'm actually very happy and content with how everything turned out.
There are a lot of negatives to being single, too. And I think the fact that you have only been single defeats the entire mytake. You have no real, personal experiences to compare your single life to a dating life; it's so pointless of you making this mytake. You are just trying to make up for the fact that you are lonely. I'd rather hear it from someone who has been there done that than some lonely girl who hasn't even dated.
Doesn't matter. It's a whole different ballgame when you're in love. And you don't know jack about it because you have never been in the scene. Don't come around giving some sort of advice or like you know crap when you haven't even been through it.
And as a side note, everyone at some point or another will feel lonely from not having a special someone. You will thank me later when you come to feel like this, and then having to remember what I said. And I'll say it again, you don't know jack until you have personally been through it. Being in love is different, and it has a big effect on your heart, mind and body. So don't give me that bull like you know what you're talking about when you don't even know what you're missing.
Smh, you're supposed to know that not being in love and not being in a relationship are 2 complete different things, and you don't need to be this rude, take a chill pill. Someone woke up on the wrong side of the bed apparently.
No, I hate when people feel the need to make a mytake on something they have never been through. It defeats the entire mytake. Who the hell gives pros on something they have never had before? How would you even know? But you wanna get props for it? Big deal.
No, being in love and having a relationship goes hand in hand. Whatever you feel towards the person, it is on some level of attraction, chemistry, etc. Unless you just like to have pointless, meaningless relationships with people, feelings goes with having to maintain relationships.
This mytake doesn'the make sense. My main issue is that you're telling us something people obviously know from hearing people WHO HAVE BEEN through IT. It wasn't like you provided us any profound lesson from being in a relationship, it wasn't like you had overcame a problem in a relationship. This is something you're telling us from people in shittier relationships. And from what I can see, the only people who have agreed with you here are people who ALSO HAVEN'T BEEN IN A RELATIONSHIP BEFORE. I'd rather hear it from someone who has been there and can tell me like it is, not someone who knows how it is PERSONALLY. If this is something that offends you, ain't my problem you are a sensitive soul.
OMG you made a WHOLE new account just to respond because I blocked you? Damn you're a psycho. You need help. So now you're a dude instead of 26 years old female? Pathetic.
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