Domestic Abuse: Abusers Always Escalate!

[dudeinohio]

If you are in a relationship and the person starts off with verbal abuse, he/she will gradually escalate to emotional and then physical abuse, only ending when the victim is dead or the abuser is locked up.

Get away if you are in such a situation.

An abuser will start out by isolating the victim from family and friends. This removes the victim's "safety net". The abuser may start out by accusing the victim of cheating. Verbal assault and emotional attacks will ensue. This could go on for a long period of time while the abuser breaks the victim down emotionally and makes the victim dependent upon him/her.

Once the abuser has good control, abuse will develop into physical assault that will get more intense.

An abuser may apologize and say it will never happen again. Do not believe this. The next time will come and it will likely be worse, as the abuser knows he can get away with it and has the victim under his/her control.

The abuser will make the victim dependent upon them. He/she may mandate the victim have no job or transportation. The victim may be led to believe they have no place to go.

The victim will still love the abuser and be totally under their control. It is a form of mind control as well as physical control.

Any abuse victim is in serious danger. Abusers ALWAYS escalate!!!

These statements are personal opinion only; but backed up by real world experiences of others.

[Anonymous]

Please read this it will mean a lot to me and let me know. Why do they do that? :'( Is it because a part of them is deeply hurt or something specific is there in their unconcious part of mind which leads them to behave this way?
Are they hurt, broken and insecure? That's why they do this to test their lover and transfer their negative emotions to the victim?
This way the abuser is also dependent on the victim. How can the abuser HEAL their inner demon? Because something is eating me up. I'm like that since the childhood because I faced neglect, criticism, i was unloved and in relationship I was lied to and abandoned becausehe was bored.. After that i developed the bully mentality to verbally abuse my partner.

[Opinion Owner]

I noticed that whenever my partner lies to me, disappoints me and once the trust is broken I REALLY BECOME ABUSIVE. Then I break up. Generally I'm a calm person but lies, being ignored and deceptions TRIGGER ME

[mjz00]

hi, this is a useful link to help understand what is happening is real and a common behaviour technique used by abusers of certain types when there can be a threat of or actual physical abuse xx
pro.psychcentral.com/.../

[Guy13]

Very interesting Take and comments !

[Goodwifie]

The problem is that when you try to leave, this is when it becomes dangerous for the abused.