How often do married couples have sex?

[Anonymous]

MARRIED? guys and girls how often do you have sex? I am married for two years and we have sex like 1time every two months.. How often do you think you should or how often do you want to? I would like to have sex at least 1 time a week. But reality is that we do it 1 time a quarter!! FML

[andreafs1]

Wow... I mean, sex is a VERY important part of a relationship.

There is no estimate of how often married couples should have sex, this number depends on the desire both partners have, but I think its healthy to perform it at least once or twice a week.

Before getting married, how often did you guys have sex? Did this start before you got married of after?

I think that there might be something going on with her, since you DO want to have sex more often. Is there something bothering her? Does she work too much? Is she worried about something?
Is she pregnant? Did she give birth recently? Because hormonal changes and the whole post-natal experience might create some sort of "repulsion" to sex for a couple of months or maybe even a year.

First of all you should try talking to her and try to find out what could possibly be blocking her sexual desire. Also it is important for you to tell her how you feel, and that you wish you had more sex. It is very important and HEALTHY for couples to have sex. It keeps things fun, stress/tension-free, makes you happy and feel satisfied. Also it is a great demonstration of affection, chemistry and desire between two human beings, isn't those the main reasons why you got married?

You should try to spice things up, like try teasing her while at home and see if she gets turned on. Try to give yourselves a more private time every day, because maybe you are not synchronized with your lifestyles and this could be causing the problem. Try making things more romantic so she feels confortable and cozy. It's always good to light some candles, put some soothing music and make the whole sexual act a more passionate and intimate situation.

Nobody likes monotonous sex, so if you keep things fun and sexy it will always have a better outcome.

[Turtleluv]

Wow I'm sorry. Even while my, now ex husband, was cheating we had sex at least once a week. I need it at least once a week but more is nice.

I'm really sorry. I know that sex is very important in a relationship. I wish people who didn't want it understood how important the physical connection is. It's not just about sex and cumming. This is one reason people start having affairs. My ex and I just got married too young and wanted different things out of life. We pushed each other away emotionally but still had sex lol.

Anyway I'm guessing you've tried talking to her about this?

[Asker]

Yes we discuss it and we will get together once and thats it. It has gotten to the point where I do not even make advances towards her. I am sad. It is sad

[Turtleluv]

https://www.creators.com/advice/annies-mailbox.html

Obviously you aren't a 13 year old girl lol, but read the second advise seeker. Another married man wanting sex...

[Anonymous]

I'm not married, but most of my friends say 3 days a week minus when there are little babies under 6-8 months.

[Tractorbeam]

It's like this: You'll get more sex in the first year of marriage than you get in the whole of the remaining marriage put together.
Once in 2 months seems pretty low after only 2 years. It's not unusual to be still getting it a few times a week at 2 years. When it gets to 4 years, 50% of women have switched it off almost completely (which is pretty close to your case). This might explain why www.macleans.ca/culture/books/the-two-year-itch/

Women were never meant to function in a long term relationship. Only a small percentage of them can stay physically attracted to the same man for as long as 20 years. I've seen women who wanted sex every day or more in the beginning get it down to almost nothing within 3 years.

As much as some women on this site hate me with a passion for saying this, I find the best option is to trade women in when they reach their use-by date. That way, I can continue to have a sex life, and those women will too ( because they can still find other men attractive, if they start a new relationship ). You can both then start the honeymoon period all over again, and keep doing it for the rest of your lives (with more trade-ins).

[yaddayaddayadda02]

I'm married 15 years and have sex 2-3 times a week.

[Asker]

What os your secret?

[yaddayaddayadda02]

I made it known that if the relationship is going to last, our sex life would be satisfying. What are your wife's reasons for no more sex?

[Blakes80]

Sounds about right, me and my partner are down to a shag every 2 weeks and a bj every other month and we've been together 3 n a half years now, gradually its just got worse and worse. I am resigned to it now; get a hobby or game u can play loads, take up overtime at work and smoke&drink shit tonnes, i hardly even notice my sex drive now so it's whatever as long as the woman can live with the deserved guilt of making her man so sexually docile so that they don't have to put out, its all sweet. Men like sex, women like attention, if u aren't getting what u need as a man it's only fair to withhold what she wants too.

[ryanontario]

not that often I'd suspect , I mean once your married and have kids the sex life starts to suffer in many cases and becomes less of a priority

[katydollxx]

less and less as time goes on

[beachbleached0720]

We have sex every day