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I think the answer is a very clear "no" but I have a bias. I am aware of two women who cheated on me, but I have never cheated on anyone. I know how much those experiences hurt me and I can't fathom how someone can love me but, at the same time, inflict such immense pain. The first time it happened, she confessed to me and told me that she loved me. The second time, there was no confession and I only learned about it later, when we were in the process of a divorce. But at the time she was cheating, she was still claiming to love me.

My best guess is that what those women called "love" was not the same thing that I call love. Both of them were somewhat self-centered and I have guessed that their version of love was based upon loving the way that I treated them but not really loving me. I will never know that those two women felt, so I am asking this question in general.

Can someone cheat on their partner while also loving their partner? If so, is it the same love that non-cheaters feel in a relationship. When you answer, you can answer anonymously, but please do indicate whether you have ever cheated or been the victim of cheating, or both.

ex broke up with me not because l did anything bad, I was good. But she felt resistance and that we would clash. She was a little dismissive/mean at the end. She did say we could be friends.

I unfollowed her and told her not to contact me again as I was hurt. It has been 7 weeks with nil contact between us. It was a shorter relationship but we met each others parents, stayed overnight and she is literally the most beautiful girl in the the world.

Message: (I will start the conversation asking how she is)

I do understand there’s a good chance you may have moved on. Looking back on our relationship, I thought what we had was special and unique! Despite how it ended, I would like to try one last time to reach out to you as I thought what we shared was genuinely meaningful!

It would be nice to meet and catch up with you again!

I respect your decision if this is simply not what you would want.

Stupid questions meaning asking stuff thinking everything is black and white, things that have no relevance, stuff that doesn't make sense