She hinted at a ring but wants to keep options open—what’s going on?

[Anonymous]

Have dated a girl close to a month now.

On the third date she showed me two rings and asked if i could check them out. I went and sent her pics but told her i want to go with her some day for a shared memory. At that point in time i thought she wanted some commitment so i happily went alone to the store to check them out.

fourth date, i ask her about aome commitment. She said i should still date other girls and she is also looking at other guys.

Then why is she asking for a ring? It’s a 150 euro ring from Swarovski. I know it’s not that much in the grand scheme of things but no way is it normal to ask for one while not even wanting to commit.

Basically, she asked for a ring while she fully had the mindset of wanting open options.
what is happening?

[OneViewpoint]

What's happening? She's using guys to buy her trinkets she can't afford on her own. It's part greed and part a psychological game of getting you to be a doormat for her pussy.

Pro tip... you're never gonna get her pussy and she's playing 10 other guys at the same time. Keep her around if you want but she's the definition of a toxic woman. If you buy her a ring she'll escalate to designer handbags or some other bullshit trophy she can brag about to her toxic girlfriends.

Buy her a pack of chewing gum and tell her that's the limit of your interest in her. Or just ghost her.

[Asker]

Copy pasted from another reply:

Also, when i showed her the rings at the store i said i would rather go with her and she said “are you coming back empty handed there is a make up store nearby, see if you like something there”

At that time i was under the impression she wanted some commitment since she asked for a ring, so i bought some nail polishes and lipsticks for her.

And you were spot on, she indeed said “ i want a ring before we do anything sexual”

[OneViewpoint]

If you want to torture this low life, tell her you're considering a vacation in Tahiti and you'd like to take her along. Build it up. Show her brochures of an exclusive luxury resort. Tell her you've made first class reservations for two and giver her a date. A week before the trip tell her you don't want to see her any more and you've met another woman you're taking to Tahiti.

It's not like she doesn't deserve it and it's a language that she can understand. Manipulate her and dump her like she does to men. It's sorta justice. The outrage and tantrum would be hilarious to witness.

[andreasderjuengere]

One Ring to rule them All
Run, as long as you still can 😁

[MissSunshine2]

She's taking advantage of your affection for her.

[Asker]

Copy pasted from another reply:

Also, when i showed her the rings at the store i said i would rather go with her and she said “are you coming back empty handed there is a make up store nearby, see if you like something there”

At that time i was under the impression she wanted some commitment since she asked for a ring, so i bought 2 nail polishes and 2 lipsticks for her.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to decode confusing dating behavior so you don’t lose time, money, or your heart unnecessarily 😉

She’s mixing signals, but her behavior is actually pretty clear: she wants girlfriend perks without girlfriend responsibility. Asking you to check out a ring, hinting at memories, but telling you to date others is a red flag. That’s soft lovebombing plus ego boost.

She enjoys your attention, maybe your effort, maybe the idea of you buying her something shiny, but she’s not ready to emotionally invest. That 150€ ring isn’t about commitment for her, it’s about vibes and validation.

You’re treating her like a priority while she treats you like an option. That imbalance will sting later. Pull back, stop the ring mission, match her energy. If she wants an open situation, she doesn’t get committed-level gifts.

[_Jenny_]

Maybe she changed her mind

[Asker]

Here’s the thing though, after the 4th date she mentioned the ring again.

Also, when i showed her the rings at the store i said i would rather go with her and she said “are you coming back empty handed🥺 there is a make up store nearby, see if you like something there”

At that time i was under the impression she wanted some commitment since she asked for a ring, so i bought some nail polishes and lipsticks for her.

[NotSomeUserName]

She is waiting for a better offer.

[Asker]

Then why ask for a ring?

[jamesgoldman]

Swarovski is tat

[Asker]

Sorry wdym?

[jamesgoldman]

€150... I've left them in thrift trays for €2
No gold/silver and a branded slither of cut glass

[Asker]

Yea I’aware of that, its overpriced junk. But at the end it’s still a ring, which she is asking for while not even wanting commitment.

[Anonymous]

LMAO

[Asker]

Yes?

[In_Trance]

It's been a month...

[Asker]

It’s weird isn’t it? I mean a month is okay even if its not much but then asking for a ring while not wanting to commit is just weird