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So, I am a second-generation immigrant from a very traditional and conservative country, now living in one of the most liberal Western countries in the world. I am very grateful to be living here as the quality of life and opportunities are just a lot better; however, needless to say, the cultural differences are immense.

One of the things that always bothered me growing up was this "rush" to lose your virginity, especially as a guy. My friends would drag me along to clubs and stuff, and I'm not a bad-looking guy by any means, and opportunities for me to have "one-night stands" have presented themselves, but I never really had any interest in this.

Call me corny, but the idea of being intimate with someone I do not have a very strong emotional connection with, someone who couldn't be my wife in the future, did not appeal to me.

Guys talk about this stuff, and I am open about this in my friend group as I don't feel like lying about it, but I find myself being the subject of "virgin" jokes quite often, especially considering my age (which isn't an abnormal thing in my home country).

Now, I know it's all in good fun and I know they have no malicious intent, but I can't help but wonder if this would be a problem for potential future mates. So my question to you girls is, if a guy you were dating in his mid to late twenties said he was a virgin, would you immediately associate that with negative attributes? Would this be a problem or perhaps not your first choice, would you be indifferent or heck even prefer it?

https://www.maxim.com/maxim-man/men-who-have-girlfriends-are-hotter-2018-1/

So after reading a few articles like this one apparently women find taken men more attractive because "When a man is chosen as potential partner by someone, it tends to mean he is “higher quality” than all the other dudes who are single. Clearly, he has some endearing qualities that appealed to his girlfriend, which makes other women around take notice and want to be with him as well."

This article quotes from a study: https://www.nature.com/articles/s41598-018-19770-8 which finds that men who have girlfriends receive something called an “attractiveness boost” and are suddenly perceived as hotter than they’d normally be.

“Women in our study found men’s faces more attractive if other women had given that face high ratings. But the same goes for pictures of abstract artworks... Women appear to copy the mate preferences of other women, but this might simply be because humans have a general tendency to be influenced by the opinions of others.”

So in any case, girls have you found taken men more attractive than single men? And guys have you noticed women noticing you more when you are taken?

I gotta say that in my last relationship i definitely noticed women being friendlier with me. i don't know if thats attraction or maybe im 'safer' to talk to now? i dunno man lol. human behavior is interesting and confusing at the same time.

Keep in mind im just talking about attraction. im not talking about if you'd actually do anything about the attraction such as cheating or something. JUST attraction.

Heavily inspired by this question here, would you be considered attractive enough for the modern woman? All of these traits, are the bare minimum women require, the 80th percentile. Meaning, better than four out of five men. You need at least seven out of ten of them to "pass" the "dateable" test for modern women.

1. HEIGHT: Are you at least 6'0"/183 cm tall, barefoot in the evening?

2. INCOME: Do you earn at least $90,000 USD a year?

3. CAREER: Do you have a professional, well-respected career? (Doctor, lawyer, scientist, engineer, etc.)

4. SEX APPEAL: Is your penis at least 7"/17.5 cm in length or longer?

5. PHYSIQUE: Are you in good athletic shape? As in, not overweight.

6. SOCIAL SKILLS: Do you have at least three good friends and/or one really close best friend?

7. CHARISMA: Do you consider yourself a good communicator, skilled at speaking to others, or someone who "has game" at charming women?

8. LIFESTYLE: Are you someone who completely avoids such vices as adult movies, recreational drugs, fast food, online video games, gambling, or couch-potato habits?

9. CONFIDENCE: Do you really like who you are as a person, proud of who you are, or have a high opinion of yourself?

10. QUALITY OF LIFE: Would you consider yourself to be a well-adjusted and happy person with no signs of mental illness, anxiety, or depression?