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I’m curious whether Democrats think democratic socialism is actually popular enough to win nationally, or whether it only works in deep-blue districts. My view is that running a democratic socialist would expose how far left the party has moved and would be a major general-election liability.

It's impossible to forget them once you have grasped. But i heard about them MORE than a 100 times. And still kept forgetting.

No cognitive issues. But it was a defense mechanism. There is no way that to study it as extensively as i did and keep forgetting it is just a coincidence with me also fearing to be changed. Wanting to be changed but there is a huge reason why i became this way, to survive.

Both of my clinger-pusher parents are fearful-avoidant because of their pretty bad traumas growing up, till this day they get scared when complimented, for example.

And i learnt that the most widespread recommendations are very harmful, like; "it's no use overthinking" or "love your parents" These spoken excuses always push the anxiety further down so tightly it overflows out as irrationality.

i rarely see my parents and when i do i cannot bring myself to tell them:

Forgiving should come naturally, not through ideology. Just like breathwork never worked for me until opening up my emotions triggered the breathing changes naturally. It is ok to look like you're possesed for days while pouring out the repressed anxiety.

They still press it down with either "we blamed them, they wronged us, now forgive and move on" (my dad) or "they suck, let's revenge forever" (my mom).

Last time i told mom "i have had this bad habit forever, it is finally going away!" she rudely acknowledged and dismissed it in one same sentence.

I think everyone who refuses to investigate this topic and to persist until trauma psychology becomes as clear as adding 1+1, is afraid of finding out they have issues - even if they know they do - because we developed our issues as a means to survive. letting go of daddy issues frightens us to death, it has been our survival strategy.

The tragedy is that 40% of all adults have UNRESOLVED infancy anxiety issues and seek relationships to cope with them instead of fixing their body's repressed panic.

ex broke up with me not because l did anything bad, I was good. But she felt resistance and that we would clash. She was a little dismissive/mean at the end. She did say we could be friends.

I unfollowed her and told her not to contact me again as I was hurt. It has been 7 weeks with nil contact between us. It was a shorter relationship but we met each others parents, stayed overnight and she is literally the most beautiful girl in the the world.

Message: (I will start the conversation asking how she is)

I do understand there’s a good chance you may have moved on. Looking back on our relationship, I thought what we had was special and unique! Despite how it ended, I would like to try one last time to reach out to you as I thought what we shared was genuinely meaningful!

It would be nice to meet and catch up with you again!

I respect your decision if this is simply not what you would want.

My ex broke up with me. It wasn’t a nasty breakup. Although she was a bit mean/dismissive at the very end. Nothing bad happened. I met her parents she met mine. Marriage talks despite a shorter 4 month relationship

I stopped contacting her and removed her off of socials. I have spent the last 6 weeks really depressed. I lost a connection and literally the most beautiful girl in the world 😭😭

I’m a guy I can lose my pride/dignity for a girl I like? Who cares?

I won’t beg her or send her an essay. But reach out check how she is and explain how I think what we had was really special. But also be like I understand if she has moved on.

No pressure or desperation in the message.

Reasons for breaking up, guy didn’t make her feel special enough, feels resistance inside.

Girl was a bit mean and dismissive to the guy at the end.

Shoukd you ever wait for the dust to settle and then try again despite being rejected once? If you really like the girl. Or do you lose self respect and dignity?