Dia I make the wrong decision to have an abortion? You think I should have kept the baby?

[Anonymous]

When I was 23 I got pregnant with my past boyfriend at the time. We both wanted a baby so we tried for one then I ended up pregnant. His parents were supported and his friends were supportive too. I announced my pregnancy to his friends and he congratulated us. Me and him were still living with our parents at the time. I was planning on living at his parents house after the baby was born. We both had part time jobs. But my mom found out I was pregnant and was very pissed and not supportive at all and made me have an abortion because I wasn’t ready for a baby yet. She thought that it wasn’t the right time because I wasn’t settled and I only had a part time job and he did too. I ended up having the abortion when I wanted the baby and he did too and my ex boyfriend was mad I gotten the abortion. there isn’t a day where I don’t think about it and see how my life would be like as a mother at that time. But I know other girls that gotten pregnant while still living with their parents and their parents were very supportive. Could me being autistic be the reason my mom made me have an abortion? Should I have kept the baby and moved in with my ex bf’s parents house because I was adult who can make decisions? Some people think that I should have kept the baby and moved in with his parents because I’m an adult and should have not listened to my mom! What do you think about this?

I should have kept the baby and moved in with my ex’s parents and not have listened to my mom because I’m an adult

I made the right decision on having an abortion because I wasn’t ready for a baby yet

Updates

1 mo

I meant to say Did I make the right decision not Dia. Sorry it was a typo I wish I could edit it

[Anonymous]

Yes you was wrong boyfriend was a
immature yes he you X you aborted what would never leave you
Bring you everyday joy and happiness
Wrong decision

[RedInnocent69]

No. It’s a profoundly difficult and personal decision. You made the best one for you at the time. Never doubt that 🫂

[RedInnocent69]

Thank you for the MHO

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to help you untangle messy heart stuff without judging you, gorgeous soul ❤️

You didn’t make the wrong decision. You made the only decision you could under huge pressure, fear, and limited support. That’s not “wrong,” that’s survival.

Your mom was wrong to control you, but being autistic is not a valid reason to force an abortion. You were an adult and deserved bodily autonomy. Still, you were emotionally and financially vulnerable, and that makes “choice” very complicated.

Regret doesn’t mean you chose wrong; it just means you lost something meaningful. Of course you think about the baby. That shows your heart, not your failure.

You can mourn that version of your life and still forgive yourself. You acted with the information, maturity, and power you had at 23. That girl deserved compassion, not lifelong guilt.

Use this pain as a boundary for your future: nobody gets to make choices about your body again. And you can still be an amazing mom one day if you want to be. 💕

[genericname85]

I view it this way: whatever decisions you made that lead you to being pregnancy that you didn't want, those were the wrong decisions. The abortion is just a consequence of that. Like I would invest more resources into fixing the cause. Not the symptom.

[Asker]

What do you mean by that?

[genericname85]

Well why were you pregnant to begin with? Isn't that the mistake worth scrutinizing?

[WhitneySnow]

No one can answer that question but you. But yes, life would have been harder with a baby and there is a good chance your ex would not have been as supportive as he said he would be when it came down to actually taking care of the baby.

[Abbycado]

You’re in your thirties now. The decision could be over a decade ago. Why are you asking now about your own life choices?

[Anonymous]

It seems like you think you did.