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I'm not sure why but I been a magnet for taken women all of my life.

taken women have always opened up and show interest in me the most just to for me to end up heartbroken later on when they announced they were taken all along

I still remember back in high school there was a girl who was taken that always used to check me out. one day while switching classes she and her boyfriend were walking in front of me and she looked back and stared at me while they held hands. is crazy how she even announced she was pregnant with his ass around that time and her preggo belly started to become more noticeable weeks later.

a year or two later the one that almost won the title as my first girlfriend revealed that she was already taken herself just when I was getting ready to meet her. I obviously burned the bridge with her because I found out that she was trying to breadcrumb out of me

in college things were not so different. girls who would walk with their S/Os on their way to class were always the once that checked me out and showed interest in me.

till then I couldnt help but to be paranoid and ask any woman who tried to click with me if she already has an S/O. however I always heard that assuming that a woman you are interested is already taken can come off as beta behavior.

When I say “dangerous” I don’t mean a guy making some asshole remark like “fuck you cunt” or something else when a woman (politely) turns him down. Him showing some frustrated anger is NOT getting “dangerous”. It might not be appropriate and even creepy. But there is a fine line between him being sour grapes vs. being a legitimate threat.

I’m talking about a guy seriously getting physically violent, legitimately threatening violence or aggressively stalking afterwards. I’m talking in person stalking too (not stalking on social media). Like showing up at the woman’s house or at her work.

I do believe men like this exist. I make zero excuses for them and it’s twisted/wrong. But I also believe they are very rare (less than 1 out of a 1000 men). Instead women get paranoid because of ANECDOTAL evidence. They read a story online or hear of friend of a friend having a legitimately scary incident. Then they get this bogey man complex about men in general.

I say this because I think this paranoia has made women progressively worse in the last few years at tactfully rejecting men. They rather play games, ghost and of course friend zone and rationalize it to themselves out of a misplaced paranoia. When in reality all they have to say is “hey thanks for approaching me but I have to be honest I’m not interested”’. While no guy likes hearing that the reality is 99% of men out there will accept that and move on.

But why is it so hard for women to be (politely) honest? I think the so called rise of the “incel” community is partially attributed to men being frustrated about not getting direct communication from women. The game playing does more psychological damage then they realize.

Most men can take rejection especially in our mid 20s or older. We are used to sticking our necks out and taking the risk. It unfortunately comes with the territory but it is how it is.