To anyone who is in the friend-zone I ask you to re-evaluate your friendship if you really are friends with the person of your desires and ask yourself these questions:
1. Have I been blind to his or her flaws since I like them?
2. Do I like this person for who they are or do I like them for the person I think they are?
3. Can we still be friends if it all goes south & will you help rebuild what you destroyed?
Many times when we like a person we tend to forget that they are humans with flaws just like we are and we tend to put them on a pedestal. We spend most of our timing trying to when them over by pleasing them and making sure they’re happy without really asking or caring about what they want.
Secondly we tend to fall for the person because we like them for who we think they are. For instance I thought I was madly in love with this girl she was perfect; she had a wonderful sense of humor, she was spontaneous and outgoing but underneath it all she was controlling and had a short temper. So be sure you really know the person you want to be with.
Third if you really care about this person like you say or think you do obviously your feeling will be deeper than just sexually intimacy, you want the best for that person even if its not you, you care whether or not if you intentionally hurt that person. It takes a lot of courage to tell someone how you feel and it really hurts to be rejected by someone you really thought liked you for you so even though you didn’t intentionally hurt will you continue to stick by that person until they feel better or will you leave to solve it on their own.
Lastly if you have no intentions on being a true friend, then do not recommend that you remain just friends if you weren’t friends to begin with just tell them you’re not interested it’ll save a lot of time and the other person’s self-esteem.
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It's not anyone's fault if they don't like someone and it's not the women'a fault the friend zoned guy can't get over it and secretly becomes resentful.
If anything the friend zoned guy is usually a fraud and the one to blame because they have motives to get together with the women who friend zoned them and get secretly mad when things aren't going their way.
If you're in the friend zone, the women doesn't like you romantically enough. You can choose to get over it or get out of her life. Don't make it complicated, likely her mind won't change.
Vice versa for guys
In a nutshell don't pretend to be a friend if that's not your intention to be and that's a lesson people who complain about the friend zone can't learn. It's so simple.
If someone is not interested in you then GET OVER IT instead of telling yourself that you are stuck in some imaginary zone that you can’t get out of. The freindzone is a choice where people choose to stay emotionally invested in someone who has no interest in them romantically. Not everyone you want is going to want you back…I thought we all learned that before high school. Get over it and move on with your manhood.
I now lol, the friend zone doesn't exist
@aamy811 riiiiight! These guys sound SO silly acting like victims talking about being stuck in some imaginary friendzone -_- It’s simple: If someone doesn’t want you get over it instead of ruminating over it and repeating to yourself that you are stuck in a “zone”. It’s so whiny and overemotional. If the girl doesn’t want you then just move the heck on with your life instead of staying attached to her emotionally. Seriously, this is why it’s good for everyone to ‘get rejected on the playground’ so we don’t grow up as adults and freak out when someone actually doesn’t want us back.
You're so damn retarded...
@notverycreativeguy First of all, abusing the liberty of language by misusing that term is disgusting and offensive to any parent, sibling, CHILD, or individual who actually does suffer from mental retardation. Or in other words: grow the fuck up and stop using serious conditions as describing words when you get flustered and butthurt. It makes you look like a dumb ass. You're nearing adulthood: learn how to expand your vocabulary.
Just because I don't condone, encourage, or promote that whiny bullshit and silly self-pity doesn't mean I'm "mentally retarded".