For many of us there is an attraction to men who are just not good for us. Our self-esteem is so low that we do not believe we deserve any better. Or, our self-esteem is so high, we believe we can "fix" even the most damaged man.
"But I Love Him"
Love seems to be the most common reason women give for staying with a cheater, yet it is difficult to understand. The question is also how a woman can continue to love a man who emotionally abuses her, and that is exactly what he is doing when he cheats. In many cases, a woman feels that she owes it to him to give him another chance and just can't let go of the emotional attachment that she feels. Sometimes this emotional attachment is mistaken for love and she feels that she cannot go through life without her man in spite of the way he treats her. We are not talking about the spouse or partner who occasionally strays, but the ones who do it consistently and openly without regard for the feelings of their partner, while still insisting that she is the most important person in his life.
She Lacks the Strength and Confidence to Walk Away
Each of us has to build our own self-worth and know that we are important to our families, our friends and our lovers. Doing so means gaining strength and self-confidence and recognizing when a relationship is not worth saving.