1. There were many red flags.
All those fights that he started over nothing? Making me feel guilty about things that were actually his fault? Or those many instances where he was acting shady and coming home late at night? Yep those were actually just foreshadowing the ultimate end to our relationship. Don't ignore your instincts.
2. He never loved me.
Being rude to me, or simply not caring about my feelings and always putting himself first. I should have known that this sort of behavior was far from love. Actions speak louder than words, just because he says he loves you doesn't mean its true.
3. If he isn't crazy about you, you're wasting your time.
He was always doing the bare minimum to get by in the relationship. It was never passionate, and never an initiation, but always nice actions as a result of my nagging. He obviously could live without me and that was obvious.
4. Never settle.
He didn't have a job, he was extremely short tempered and lazy... and there were days where I knew that I deserved more than that. Don't settle for someone who just is there in the moment.
5. Life goes on.
It hurts a lot in the beginning, but the more you're apart the more you recognize that people who were meant to be in your life, or at the very least want to be in your life would have made the effort. You'll be ok.