Break up’s can be incredibly tough. One day you may think you are completely over that special person and then out of no where, something reminds them of you and the feelings of dread return like the relationship ended yesterday. The heart can be pretty tricky and you can’t always be sure that you have healed completely. You may think your last relationship is in the past, but are you really over it?
Here are 5 signs that you are not over your ex.
1. You can’t look at pictures of them without feeling a lump in your throat or seeing red.
When you are trying to get over your ex, social media can become your number 1 enemy. One minute you are scrolling through Instagram, commenting on your best friends selfie and then all of a sudden, boom, there goes a picture of your ex, looking like they are having the time of their life. If your first emotion is anger or hurt, you may not be over this person. To save yourself some heartache, stop following them so you don’t have to be reminded of the past every time they take a picture.
2. You can’t stop stalking their every move.
Another horrible thing about social media, is that, unless you stop following your ex, you can find them in an instant and pretty much follow their every move. Seeing them flirting on someone else’s comments, or knowing that they have been at the club every weekend is only going to make you green with envy. Again, figure out ways to prevent yourself from following them and block yourself from being a straight up stalker.
3. You can’t stop obsessing about what happened.
The funny thing about breakups are that the things that end your relationship, is really just the last straw, not the actual cause of the breakup. If all of your best friends have heard the break up story 10 times, it’s time for you to give it a rest. Yes, it’s important to lean on your friends in your time of need, but when you lean too much you become too heavy of a burden. Make a deal that you won’t talk about “you know who” for an entire month.
4. You still think it’s all the other person’s fault.
There are no relationship’s where one person was right and the other person was all wrong. The biggest sign of growth -and that you have moved on from your ex- is that you can see what you did wrong in the relationship. Even if your only fault was staying with a jerk for too long, even that is a fault within yourself- because you stayed with the jerk. If all you want to do is point the finger, you are not fully over the relationship and you won’t be until you self reflect.
5. You are still communicating with them
There is nothing more foolish in thinking that you can break up with someone today and start being friends with them the next day. If you are still in contact with your ex, texting them, calling them, sending them smoke signals, ANYTHING, you won’t be able to get over them. Time is the best medicine for a break up. I am not saying the two of you can’t be friends, eventually, but give each other time to heal first.