Just broke up with my girlfriend for this reason. Why can't she "find herself" and be with me at the same time?
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Sometimes, having someone in your life (a bf/gf) can effect your decisions. Some times you are less reluctant to go after your dreams simply because they will require for you to get away from your loved one, so you choose to neglect them in order to stay with that person. That can feel suffocating at times, especially if she has a lot on her mind right now concerning her future. Maybe she wants to find out what she really wants out of life and doesn't want love to go against her better judgment. A girl when confused and feeling lost, would want to get her own time to find herself again, to realize exactly what makes her happy. If she has someone in her life that makes her happy then she will be blinded and misguided that that person is all she needs. And if things didn't go well in the future with the two of them and her only source of happiness went away, she will be broken. So maybe she wants to find happiness within herself instead of seeking it from others0