Was with my ex for 2 years. We had a really intense relationship and had a pretty amazing emotional/intellectual connection. When we went long distance he ended it as he met someone else. We had a very messy breakup and did not stay friends though he had wanted to I couldn't do it. Fast forward a few years later and my guy friend who he is also close with, tells me that he said some shitty things about me here and there but that he's no longer with the girl that he left me for and that they dated less than a year. He said he hadn't dated anyone else after that. Anyway I don't get why he would be saying things about me still and it was years ago? Also he wasn't that type of guy, he was pretty quiet and a bit nerdy, it really bothered me when my friend told me this as I have gotten past all that crap and was considering reaching out. Why would he be doing that?
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For all the ladies out there I'll will give a glimpse to a handbook that all men get once they turn 21. Man Law #3 "You can Never be friends with an ex." The only exception to this rule is if you haven't talked to your ex in a minimum of 10 years and she is still single and without a child.
There are of course a lot of studies and research that proves the above Law to in fact be a Law (so please no feminist trolling). This is a quick and dirty list but by no means is just limited to 10. livingthecollegelife.com/.../
Now to answer your question, yes guys talk shit about their exes, But GALS also talk shit about their exes and in fact if you compiled who talks more shit about each other, women or men? Women would win by a large margin.
Why do men talk shit about their exes?
*That is how they get over the relationship. They vocalize all the flaws of the girl (mostly with their trusted best friend over copious amounts of alcohol) and justify that list as the reason why the relationship broke up/why it didn't/wont work out.
*A MAJORITY of men will only talk about their exe's for a short time (6 month's max) and then never breach the subject. A small Minority of men will still hash over the same girl year after year after year--yes we ALL have that friend. In this small instance, the man/woman is obviously not over that girl and she had a lasting impact on him. If this be the case, it is not healthy and refuse to discuss their exes when you hang out with them. This emasculate trait does not need to be encouraged.0