My boyfriend and I broke up because he was arrested for domestic violence and I got drunk and slept with someone else. but I love him & want him back?

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my boyfriend was arrested for domestic violence, I dropped the charges and it took him a month and a half to finally contact me after that, despite many attempts to contact him. I assumed the relationship was over because a relationship is based on communication and there was absolutely none of that for a month and a half, even after I dropped the charges. he owed me an apology and a thank you.

I didn't want to move on, call me crazy or an idiot or any other name you can because I know it's foolish of me but I am madly in love with him and I can forgive him for what he did... I wanted to be with him and get back together. but after weeks of not hearing from him, I felt like I had no choice but to try to move on.

one night after the bar, I was drunk and went home with a friend of mine and we had sex. it was a foolish drunken one night stand- it meant nothing to me. I cried afterwards because I was so ashamed at what I had done. I love my ex boyfriend and I could never, ever have imagined myself with anyone else, but I was in a dark lonely place and extremely vulnerable- it just happened.

finally, my ex boyfriend calls me and says he's ready to talk. so we meet up in a coffee shop to talk and he tells me he's thought about things and wants to get back together. I was ecstatic because like I said I love him and he's my best friend. but then he asked me if I had been with anyone sexually and I couldn't lie to him (even though it's none of his business and he had NO RIGHT to ask me).. but I told him the truth. it didn't go so well...

he said I was tainted and that he could never EVER be with me again and I ruined any chance we ever had of us being together again.

to me, that is just not fair. why is he being so extreme about this? he blocked my phone number, facebook, twitter, instagram, everything. he's even blocked my friends. he said he as to forget I ever existed.

if I can forgive what he did to me, why can't he forgive me?
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he completely shut me out and didn't return my phone calls or texts until HE decided HE was ready to talk. which isn't fair because HE'S the one who messed up and got us into this mess in the first place. so why if he flipping it around on me?
My boyfriend and I broke up because he was arrested for domestic violence and I got drunk and slept with someone else. but I love him & want him back?
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