So there's this guy I've been going out with for several months now... we're not together. We're kinda fwbs. It's majorly complicated but more than anything we're really good friends who also have a lot of sexual chemistry and sometimes fuck.
Well last night we were talking on the phone and he told me about something really shitty he did that I don't wanna get into. I'll just say that it really really hurt my feelings and I felt violated (my trust especially).
I was actually about ready to cry on the phone because I was so hurt but I made up an excuse that I had to go.
Now I never wanna talk to him again tbh. But I'm afraid we're too close to end things that way... can I just stop responding to his calls/texts after all this time? Or do I have to end it officially? And how do I do that... I do NOT feel like telling him the real reason why cuz I don't wanna show him that he hurt me?
Why are some guys so emotionally retarded like, bad enough that he did it but then to tell me and sit there laughing about it? It feels like most guys are autistic..
Most Helpful Guy
Well Batman is an autistic , antisocial git with a dead parents complex lol
anyway , if you want to just end it with him.
Invite him out to somewhere public , tell him be there or not be there , we are ending this , if he waffles , don't care , don't drag it out , no explaining.
At the site , tell him plainly and simply "you crossed the line , I am not taking this shit , across that line there is no forgiveness , you can go fuck yourself" then just walk off , don't look back , don't sympathize , just go.0
Most Helpful Girl
I am just throwing out a 'Second guess' gut feeling here, but if it has anything to do with 'Someone else,' Text him this: Hope she was worth it. Goodbye, my friend.
Don't answer anymore text messages, don't Contact him yourself to Anything, and if you really do not want 'history repeating itself' with him, Block him from your phone, your life...
You say you were 'Close friends,' 'fwb', and may have had like a 'pinkie swear' scenario going on where it was just the two of us...
But whatever it is, maybe I am off balance here, it's 'Trust' with any 'Friend,' with or without benefits as far as I am concerned. And if he crossed any bud boundaries, no matter what your story, then he is not even a 'Bestie,' but instead a fair weather friend who has seen his final days with someone who deserves better.
No, you can't trust him and with this in mind, Ignore him at all costs or end up paying the price later on.
Of course after you calm down and start to feel you want to talk to him of Why you 'had to go,' then yes, open lines of Convo are the most important factor in Any relationship. And if you feel you may want to talk to him of This 'Something really shitty,' then it's your choice, your call, but with 'The talk' my motto Then would be: Sh*t or get off the pot... You both would have to come to some compromises and the Trust theory would have to be Earned again, Not Expected...
Good luck. xx0