So there's this guy I've been going out with for several months now... we're not together. We're kinda fwbs. It's majorly complicated but more than anything we're really good friends who also have a lot of sexual chemistry and sometimes fuck.
Well last night we were talking on the phone and he told me about something really shitty he did that I don't wanna get into. I'll just say that it really really hurt my feelings and I felt violated (my trust especially).
I was actually about ready to cry on the phone because I was so hurt but I made up an excuse that I had to go.
Now I never wanna talk to him again tbh. But I'm afraid we're too close to end things that way... can I just stop responding to his calls/texts after all this time? Or do I have to end it officially? And how do I do that... I do NOT feel like telling him the real reason why cuz I don't wanna show him that he hurt me?
Why are some guys so emotionally retarded like, bad enough that he did it but then to tell me and sit there laughing about it? It feels like most guys are autistic..
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Let's be frank, there's no way you can be gentle about this, and you shouldn't try to either. The fact you don't want to tell us what he did sort of makes it impossible to help you really (seriously girls, stop playing that game. We can't read minds, so if you want our help, better tell the whole story right away).
I'm just going to go through possible scenarios.
He fucked someone else. Why the hell do you blame him for that. You aren't together, so you should let him find someone if that's what he want. Allthough laughing about it is realy imature. Anyway, sit down and frigin talk about it. If you can't handle him doing that then you should leave him.
He hurt you physically in some way. If it was intentional, tell him to "fuck off" or something like that. Be brutally honest with him. Don't sugarcoat anything, but don't overdo it. And fucking admit he hurt you!
If hhe's in trouble with the law, then laughing could be a reaction to stress (not joking, some actually do that). If it was accidental and he need help, talk with him and try to help him. If it was intentional, tell him flat out you can't be with (or whatever the heck you want to call your relationship) someone who does what he did. Then tell him to fuck off.
But really, i can't help you AT ALL because you insist on playing the guessing game with us, so i don't know WHAT he did. Either way, the ONLY proper way to end a relationship (wther it be a just friends, or a romantical one) is to talk about it and make sure he understand. Once that's done, you should NEVER return to it. Be polite with him, but never friendly. But really, i don't see what he could do to make you so mad at him that you just want to go.
A small coment about guys. We aren't "autistic" as you so wonderfully offencive put it, some of us are just very impulsive. This can be great if w know what's risky or not, but also it can get us in some tricky spots. ANd some of us just doesn't give two fucks, and do stupid things anyway.0