My girlfriend is a international student, I know that she still has feelings for her ex as her ex still loves her. Its been almost a year since they broke up. They have been together for 4 years and the reason for their break up wasn't really a good reason. She wanted to come to Canada for school and stay here, but he cannot come over. So she broke it off with him.
Now her ex won't stop bothering her and my girlfriend is too soft to ignore him. because she feels that she has done him wrong and that she doesn't want to hurt him. We been trying to talk this out for a couple weeks now, and I have no clue where this is going.
Sometimes it seems like she doesn't want to let him go, but she keep saying that it is over. For sure she still has feelings for him, it is understandable. But since she is with me now I want her to respect our relationship and stop talking with him and love me. I know it is hard for her to just forget and love be, but I was hoping that slowly with me she can forget him and truly love me one day.
I really love my girlfriend and want to work this thing out. But I do not know what to do. Anyone in the same situation or have some good advice on how to handle this.
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i think that you guys should break up for the time being because she does obviously have feelings for her ex and even though you may be accepting of it now eventually you'll grow tired of it and you're going to have her make a decision between the two of you. It happened to me with one of my boyfriends but I was the ex so i know how these things work. You have to let her have time to herself to decide what she wants without you being there because she is a softy and doesn't want to hurt anyone but she'll have to figure it out sometime and it'd be best for her to do it without the pressure of you or her ex (not saying that you are putting extreme pressure on her but in this situation there is obviously some pressure even if not intended.) so yeah take a break from each other and let her figure herself out0