Why can’t I get over my ex girlfriend?

[JazMclean83]

So I don’t know what I’m doing but I honestly don’t think I’m going to be able to get over her. We just celebrated our anniversary and then out of nowhere I got a message from her saying that she was having trouble with the relationship. It’s been so hard to get an answer from her apart from her saying that it’s not what she wants anymore and using my bipolar against me saying I am still getting to grips with it all, I’m so gutted and I feel like I have lost my best friend and girlfriend at the same time 🤷‍♂️ Now she has decided to unfollow me on media and she doesn’t answer my message saying that I’m just trying to get some closer to be able to get my head back on track? I’m not sure what I’m supposed to do for the best as I’ve been in a dark place for a while now and I don’t want to be 😢

[aWes0MeNeSs]

I'm really sorry you are going through this. The things that have helped me when I've been in dark places in my life are to find ways to keep busy, do NOT look at the other person's social media, and try your best to keep them off of your mind (this is going to be extremely hard, especially at first). Spend time with family and friends, work on your hobbies, and focus on work as well. Anything to keep your mind from wandering. Don't try to check up on or contact them, as it just keeps the wound from healing and delays the process of moving on.

It sounds like this is pretty recent and in the early stages, so unfortunately it will hurt for awhile and she'll be on your mind a lot at first. You'll need to grieve the relationship and process your feelings before you start to pick up the pieces and move forward.

The unfortunate thing is that we don't always get closure when people leave our lives. It really sucks and makes you over-analyze every possibility of why they chose to leave and what you could've possibly done wrong, but it's very likely in a lot of cases where it's blindsiding and seems like everything was fine before, that the other person has an internal struggle of sorts. You may never know exactly why she wanted to leave, but you will still eventually be able to move on and someday may even look back and realize it was a good thing.

If she is using something against you that is out of your control (i. e. having bipolar disorder) and trying to blame you for the end of the relationship, it sounds like you might be better off without her, anyway. While it's true that some people aren't equipped to handle being in a relationship with someone like that, it's pretty low of her to act as if it is your fault. Just the fact that she is so vague and that this seems to be out of nowhere may suggest that there is someone else in the picture, I'm sorry to say (though that isn't to say I know 100% for a fact there is, but it seems similar to other breakups I've known of in which this was the case).

Anyway, I'm really sorry you're going through this and I know it hurts badly. I hope you're able to find happiness and peace again soon.

[unknown17550697]

Sorry, you had to go through that I understand sudden breakups are hard to deal with. Right now I think the best thing you could do is focus on bettering your mental health and focus on uplifting yourself. I went through this a couple of years ago and trust me it was hard but I got through it and so can you.

Here are a few tips to get over your breakup.

1) many people will tell you to keep yourself busy during the day, find hobbies etc yes that's great for a short period but the minute you have some alone time all negative thoughts and self-doubting thoughts creep into your head. Instead set goals for yourself, when I was going through my breakup I remember that I set my goals to get high grades in school to get into my dream uni which I got into. Your goals do not have to be school orientated but they can be anything that you're passionate about.

2) try something different every day/when you can. I know it can be difficult to try something different and get out there but try to enjoy life. You only get one life so live it.

3) don't view breakups as something negative. There's always something to be learnt from breakups. Either positives or negatives can be learnt.

The more you try to contact her the more she is going to push you away. So the best you can do at this moment is accept the situation face on and move up from now on.

[TommyMountainFigure]

I get how you're feeling. Most of us reading your question has been through some horrible relationship experience at some point in our lives.
You have to keep telling yourself one hard cold unmitigated fact. "Nobody owes us anything, merely because we feel emotionally attached to them, they are with us only because they want to be"
And the response to that is. Why would I want someone to be with me who doesn't want to be with me?
If you keep replaying those words over and over, it kind of puts things into perspective.

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry but she doesn’t seem like a good person. I believe in a love that grows rather than sudden love in first sight bullshit. She doesn’t care because she is a chicken head who falls into love easily follows her “heart” and her butt instead of her brain.


I’m sure she found someone else and you do the same too. But this time be careful. Also if you have bad habits try to fix them. You don’t have to change but see what can you upgrade so you can bring the best out there when you meet your next women.
Trust me she did good she left she is a hoe

[Anonymous]

She most likely met someone else and that's it.
It's what women do. They cheat and then give you a million different excuses of why the breakup is your fault.
Just move on, she's probably not that great man.
Sorry.

[xXstrangermae]

Because your still in love human

[JazMclean83]

Oh yeah that’s true I’m deeply in love with her, I just can’t believe that she would be like that when we were in a really good place and we were just starting to get out and about with covid restrictions ending 🤷‍♂️

[xXstrangermae]

It's ok over time you'll get over that human (?), human

[Dragonstarterplus]

Time to let it go and find a new girl

[Iron_Man]

Don’t just sit in the corner go after the girl

[JazMclean83]

I’ve been doing that since we broke up and offered to do anything for it to work. Now I think she is seeing someone else in the area it’s like a nightmare to see her with someone which means I am not going to get her back 🤷‍♂️

[Iron_Man]

It’s time for you to move on and find yourself a better girl that’s more compatible for you the quicker you do that the quicker the pain will start leaving

[In_Trance]

Because you really don't want to