Should I say happy birthday to my ex boyfriend?

[Pinky123_]

Me and my ex broke up back in august, because he wasn't happy two weeks lAter he was in another relationship which broke my heart!
Now he's still in thAt relationship and his birthdays comjng and I haven't talked to him ever since the breakup
Shall I say happy birthday?

[AnayaWilliams]

Why bother saying happy birthday to your ex? You two broke up if I were you I wouldn't say anything to him, an ex is an ex for a reason my ex broke up with me out of the blue 7 months ago. Don't say anything to him why bother talking to him. I would never say happy birthday to my ex or even say hi to him or even be friends with him. Plus my ex and I we never started off as friends we just went right too it. Let him be and just leave him alone there's no reason to wish him a happy birthday its not like that "spark" is going to come back. You have moved on haven't you, or at least I hope you have? My ex has a birthday coming up as well Nov. 18, and mine is Nov. 13 but no I wish not wish him a happy birthday I will just act like he doesn't exist like I have been doing for the past 7 months. I don't talk to mine or anything I act like he doesn't exist, try it trust me it works. Keep not talking to him, I would never stay in contact with ex. I would never be friends with one either because sometimes that's not a good idea and you could catch feelings for that person. Move on with your life and just let him be. He obviously has probably moved on from you, probably so I would just go with the flow and keep doing what you have been doing. Don't worry about him, he isn't worried about you.

[Pinky123_]

That is so true you took them words straight out my mouth and yasss I haven't talked to him ever since our break up but I don't want him thinking I'm mad at him if you know what I mean cos he'll think I still think about it! But you know what I will act like he doesn't exist that'll hurt him he's a nice guy but and ex is an ex for a reason like you said! Ofc I haven't moved on FULLY but I'm getting there and he probs has moved on so thank you for that seriously that helped a lot!!!

[AnayaWilliams]

I've fully moved on from my ex after he broke up with me out of the blue, it was hard I cried when he did and I tugged onto his shoulder but he was just like I have to get back to my friends and so he left. It all started when I broke up with me on the first week of school. No contact for 5 months and then in January 2014 he came chasing after me, he said he loved me and hugged me tight and we got back together. Something told me it was a trap, it only lasted for a month or two. I then realized after the break up that he was just leading me on and playing with my feelings and he's a player as well. It took me a while to also realize that I didn't deserve him. He chewed me up and spit me out, cheated on me, used me, lied to me, told me to go to hell, mistreated me etc. He drinks as well, I would never date someone that drinks either you can have fun drinking or we can make this work but I'm not coming second in some guy's life. Be real with me or just leave me alone.

[AnayaWilliams]

I haven't talked my ex in 7 months and he has a birthday coming up we both do in November but I'm turning 18 he's turning 17, but still he's immature for his age. He doesn't know what he wants in a relationship and doesn't know what to look for in a young women and I can't be the one to teach him that I am not a therapist. I understand what you mean but who cares just cut off contact with him. It worked for me I acted like my ex didn't exist when I broke up with him and then he came running back to me. I'm sure you'll get there it just takes time. I know I have, I'm done being taken for a granted, mistreated all that stuff. I cannot stand guys who cheat which is what my ex did to me.

[Pinky123_]

Wowwww!!! Nah that was harsh I'm not gonna lie! You definitely had a reason to move on and I would've moved on straight away just like you did if I was in your shoe! God was protecting you from evil and certainly from him he has something better in store for you just wait on it!!' My ex was the other way round he would say all the right words bu it looked as if he was telling the truth he always treated me like a queen but a year after our relationship he just start getting bored of me he told me he wanted a break we never talked for a few months! He said sorry and how we should stay friends cos we never got along as much as we used to then a month later he's got a girl! It's been hard even looking at his Twitter page nomore subtweets about me just his girl and she subtweets about him! Like wow it's crazy how boys can switch up and change right?

[AnayaWilliams]

He's changed big time ever since he and I met in middle school he has changed he started drinking in summer 2013 and it changed him a lot. I'm not going to come second in someone's life, either u can drink or u can have me but you can't have both. Mine used to make me feel special as in bribing me I guess you can say but then he just changed out of the blue. I had a bad dream one night when he and I were dating that he went to a party and drank to much, and his mom called me on my cell I was asleep and she told me there at the hospital. She told me he an overdose and isn't breathing and there trying to pump him and he died right in front of my eyes, I can't be with someone like that. Yes he meant a lot to me but people change. The thing is I am very mature for age unlike him I know what I want and I don't want just some boy, I want a real man, that will treat me right and not sweet talk me I'm not a toy. I want a relationship in the future that is real and serious and committed

[AnayaWilliams]

Stop looking at his Twitter page all you are doing is hurting yourself. I'm done being chewed up and settling for less than what I deserve I'm done with all that stuff. In the future I want a gentlemen that knows how to treat a young women, treat her right, love her, adore her, make time for her, communicate, etc. I don't ask for a lot in a relationship as long as you do your part and you don't cheat me on use me or play me, then were good. But if you don't know what a relationship is or how to do your part then I'm sorry but I can't help you, I'm not a therapist. I can't stand guys that cheat, I was good to him and everything, loved him, supported him, etc. All he ever did was push me away.

[Pinky123_]

Ahh sorry for the late reply and yes I can see youu were real hurt and you're just like me we are the type to take a relationship serious I'm not about that settling for less life. I want my next relationship to be my last just like you! And definitely do not get yourself an alcoholic next time make sure you do a background check for your next babes so you know where he's been and what has been doing and liek lmfao I think that'll be useful big time but real talk I'm glad in speaking to you! Checking his Twitter page ah I don't know it's addictive it's like I like the pain and it feels nice because that's the only thing im used to if you know what I mean? Ah look at us were so young stressing like were 40 smh

[AnayaWilliams]

He started drinking like in summer 2013 he told me and I told him I would tell nobody. I wanted to help somehow but assumed that I was trying to change him, and I admit maybe I was. He wanted to have a baby with me at 17, I was going to do it, but I didn't. Because honestly I'm sure he would have just gotten me pregnant and then left me. He and I go to high school together and he eats outside with his friends and I eat outside with my friend but I act like he doesn't exist. He can stare all he wants to at me but that doesn't mean I'm going to be stupid and take him back. If you aren't going to be real with me and honest with me then don't even bother trying to say you love me if you aren't trying to show me. I want a young gentlemen and I want a real serious relationship, I don't want sex until I am married. I don't ask for a lot in a relationship.

[AnayaWilliams]

But I got over mine like 7 months ago. It just took me a while to realize that he wasn't right for me after all. People change and life goes on, there's nothing I can do its in the past. He brought up something when he was breaking up with me it was way in September 2014, he brought it up in the break up. I'm like why would you bring up something from the past I thought we would leave that behind, but yeah he did. My schoolwork is what matters most I'll find me a nice young man when I go to college and knows how to treat a young women right.

[Pinky123_]

Very motivating and yeah I guess you cannot xhange somebody who doesn't wanna change themselvesa!
But very motivating reading what happened to you just makes me think this prick wasn't worth it! Like you moved on I should do the same serious!
And lmfao how he bringing that up like you even cared ahh boys will always be boys and confusin shitheads!
Focus on yourself and your education and what matters the right one will come in no time! You really deserve a good man tbh you've been though alof meaning there's someone GOOD coming your way!!

[Pinky123_]

And really and truly I think you're ex did cheat on you becaus you didn't give him what he wanted which was see!
When boys aren't satisfied they go elsewhere to find it if you know what I mean!
This generation is fucked up seriously it's rare to find a man that stays loyal to a virgin nowadays!

[AnayaWilliams]

There is no assuming why he cheated on me, some boys just aren't ready to commitment. I did my part in the relationship, most boys cheat because they are too busy looking at what they don't have they can't appreciate who they have. Plus that was like a year ago, I did nothing wrong I gave that boy everything he is the one that doesn't know what he wants in a relationship. So there is no I didn't give him what he wanted, I know how to do my part in a relationship. I have been told that I am mature and after what I have been through I have learned that he wasn't right for me. Some guys are just afraid of commitment and don't know what to look for in a girl. He's a player a flat out player I got eyes and yes I use them. So there is no I didn't give him what he wanted because I did. I'm not going to argue about it, I know what I've been there and I'm done.

[AnayaWilliams]

Who cares virgin or no virgin, I don't care if I'm a virgin so what, girls in high school at my school be getting pregnant don't know how to keep there legs closed. I would never have a baby at some 17 years old, I don't like guys that use women as sex toys, I'm not a sex toy. I'll just wait till marriage, I know how to keep my legs closed. Well I know what I want so, yeah. Plus I'm turning 18 next month and would like to date older men in the future. I didn't do anything to that boy, if you were there you would've saw. It was right there on my screen I am not blind. I can't put words in that boys head, I can't tell him out a relationship is supposed to go and I won't. If he don't know he better look it up or something. I'm not nobody's therapist. If you don't know then I'm sorry we can't work this out. And another thing I learned is you have to get to know a person before you decide that you want them in your life for the rest of your life.

[AnayaWilliams]

If you were in my shoes the day it happened you would see how it feels. Its like being shot, or a slap in the face, or someone pulling the rug out right from underneath. Why would you cheat? If you are unhappy then just leave. I know how to do my part in a relationship he doesn't. He makes up dumb excuses, he flirts with other girls, etc. That boy talking about he wanted to have a baby with me like I'm really going to open up my legs, think again. A lot of times they say oh I'll help you. Yeah right, next thing you know he done left bought to go have sex with another girl. I'm waiting till marriage to lose my virginity. I am not trying to juggle a baby on top over everything else. And yes you should, when guys cheat they can't appreciate who they have. And who puts up with them and is always there to support them, and all they do is treat there partner like some doormat and rub there feet on them. I am not a doormat I am a young women that deserves better in a relationship.

[Pinky123_]

Yasssss omg I'm turning 18 December 5th ahhh it seemed like e done a lot of damage and yasss seriously keep your virggingty you don't wanna be called second hand or 'used' your virginoty is valuable! But yeah someone will appreciate us one day init 💕

[AnayaWilliams]

I'm keeping mine until marriage and I am not dating again until I go to college. My junior year I took a break from dating because I've had enough of getting hurt and I want to date older guys in the future since I am getting old myself. I've healed already so I'm just going on with my life and focusing on my schoolwork. I don't have time somebody that won't make time for me. I know how valuable virginity is I wouldn't just lose it to just anyone I think girls lose it for stupid reasons and then moments later they regret it once they find out there pregnant.

[callmelilkay]

If I were you, I wouldn't say happy birthday to him. If he hasn't even tried to talk to you after the break up there's really no point in contacting him. Also, how would you feel if you were in a relationship & their ex texted them? I would just leave him alone, he's an ex for a reason.

[Pinky123_]

True say thanks

[BabeBarlow91]

Leave it alone. You are just preparing yourself for more heartache. It's hard but you need to forget about him and move forward with your own life. He's done with you and moved on with a new girl. I don't mean to sound harsh but you needed it straight on this question.

[Pinky123_]

Lol he did wanna stay friends but I broke his heart that's why he jumped into another rship quick so obviously it's gonna make me feel guilty everytome but like you said move on with life

[Axel101]

Hmm, me and my ex broke up in March, she congratulated me on my Bday in May.. but we were still talking, now I don't ever talk to her again (last time was like 6-7 weeks ago) and her Bday is coming up too (November 18th). I don't plan on congratulating her, she broke up with me and she obviously doesn't care wether I do or don't talk to her so I'm just going to let things be the way they are.

[Pinky123_]

True were on the same boat I guess! He broke up with me so I won't say it thanksss

[Axel101]

No problem, glad I could help :)

[amani2010]

hey! stop being evil minded, yes you have to say happy birthday to him you had something with him when you used to love him and share happy times together, to say happy birthday to him, it won't add you anything or win gold, silver and bronze, just be kind to him one day he may look out for you, be nice and kind.

[Pinky123_]

Thanksss

[amani2010]

just be nice and kind dont listen to loosers who give you negative feedbacks be positive your welcomed.

[Anonymous]

He does not care about you, at all. Leave him alone and in peace. Breakup means breakup and not that he wants you to ruin his birthday while he is with someone new.

[Pinky123_]

Loool at all you know! He did wanna stay friends but I declined but thanks

[Kiwifun]

No! Forget him... he isn't thinking about you

[GalaxyHotChoc]

Nah I wouldn't bother.

[jmmmfi]

Hell no you shouldn't tell him to eat a dick n die

[GalaxyHotChoc]

LOLL

[Nezia]

Of course nahhh...

[Pinky123_]

Why not? I haven't even talked to him and he didn't make no effort to talk to me after the breakup! Do you think his rebound relationship will last? He jumped into it straight after our breakup like wtf

[Nezia]

The problem is why u still care about him?
so what if u dun talk to ur ex.. he clearly shows u that he doesn't care.. nd dun want u anymore..