I'm not talking about when a girl has broken up with you, but when either you broke up with her or it was mutual. Did you try to get her back?
Guys: Have you ever regretted a break up?
I have never broken up with any women, but I remember one breaking up with me about 3 years ago. It was sort of a long-distance relationship that lasted less than a month (I live in CA while she lives in TX). We used to text each other, and we talked on the phone once. Where things went wrong was when she asked if we could talk on the phone more often, and I told her that I felt uncomfortable talking on the phone with my parents around and didn't want them hearing our conversations (this was when I used to live with them). She took it the wrong way as if I either didn't want to talk with her at all, or as if I was hiding something, so she got upset and stopped answering my texts cold turkey.
That was one of the biggest WTF moments of my life. It was a shame because I was extremely physically-attracted to her, but she appeared to have problems upstairs. Her self-esteem was low, and she always sounded miserable. She used to tell me stories about her growth disorders and how she thinks her mother tried to kill her before she was born.
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Well I am 46. I broke up with a woman for the very first time in my life almost 1 yr ago. During the last 14 months I have broke up with 3 women. I still feel like shit about all of them. But since my divorce (which I didn't want) I feel I shouldn't have to be unhappy. I was willing to be unhappy to save my marriage, but not for a stranger.
I only went on dates with 5 women when I was young. all dumped me or just didn't want to go out again.
Since my divorce 14 months ago I went out with 12 women. (I tried to date way too early and 9 were from March til end of May.
5 were just "meet for drinks" that never went any farther. I don't count those as dates.
3 I broke up with. 2 broke up with me. all but one of the others was just a mutual.. don't want to continue.
I am currently with the most amazing woman ever. I already know at just less then a month, that if she doesn't break up with me.. I will marry her one day...
I'm a lesbian and wanted to answer.. aheheheehe.. A. I break up w/girls when we start to get serious cos I'm like woah: FEELINGS. WHAT U DOIN HERE. TOO MUCH. GET OUT. BYE
Which makes not so much sense cos then I still have feelings after breakup, but now I've ruined my chances at being happy w/the feelings and I'm just left w/cold sad emptiness I'm fucking awful.
I don't know what it is.. like.. trust issues? Commitment issues? Fears of abandonment (Break-up-with-b4-broken-up-with... or: break up b4 you catch MORE feelings than you already have)
I think it's the last cos I basically panic and I'm like woahhh: abort mission. Retreat. Self-destruct
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I believe my ex is right now. I asked him if he felt he made the right decision and he couldn't answer and he tells me he misses me. We both hope to try again in the future.
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The one I can think of that I regretted for about a year straight was actually based in my own selfishness. Not that the relationship was actually good for me or her. I just didn't like the idea of being alone again. I found out how attached I was to her once it was over, regardless of what reality was. Looking back years later, I don't regret it at all, because the things I saw happening in the future and who I saw her becoming, ultimately came true. Us being/ staying together would have just resulted in both of us being miserable.
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I don't regret breaking up with this one girl I liked. It was mutual and we still talk from time to time.
It is the ones that have dumped me that have left a bitter taste in my mouth since they threw me away for some shallow reasons. They just suck because I may have made a few exceptions to things I dislike in them, and the second they disagree with something I do they throw me to the curb and then treat me like scum. Women can be real vile individuals and disinterested in working issues out. -
mostly depends on why he's broken up, but generally when a guy breaks up with a girl, it means he can't be happy in that relationship anyway, that is, no matter how many times he might try, he would end up the same place. so a wise reasonable guy would never regret a break up. the only reason a guy might try to get the girl back is for having sex, and that of course would make him an asshole
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Regret it? Not really. Did i want to? no, not at all.
But i knew it was to the best for her, we both figured out it wasn't working out.
So we decided to split before anyone got too mad at the other, and wish eachother a happy life.
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I have regretted it once.
But I did not chase her afterwards, I completely left her alone, she had moved on and was happy.. she even ended up marrying the guy, and I am not certain I would of been able to say the same -
If the guy is the one breaking up with her that it is very unlikely, girls have very little will to transform themselves into something completely different than what they are, while guys get that kind of motivation from all different sources. So is easy to see that happening to a girl, but very rarely to a guy, almost never.
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We broke up because she wanted to move to another country and attend a university there and we know one another so well, we didn't even have to negotiate some long-distance battleplan - there was going to be none of it. We're still best friends and talk shit to one another on a daily basis :)
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at first, you do. then you realize that it just one person. an there are so many more out there. things happened and that is history
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as a matter of fact no man should ever feel sad for breaking up with some woman... why? cause most women are useless and selfish and self centered controlling and gold diggers... then again most men are the same as well... in conclusion one must always say THANK GOD THAT B! T@# IS GONE
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There have been times where i feel lonely and wish i had her here, but not her, just the idea of her, just her warm body
I never have regretted it and never will, if you think like that, well usually there is no turning back so its useless -
While I may miss some of them for various reasons , no I do not regret any of the break ups of my past regardless as to whom broke up with whom
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There was a girl I dated online for about a year and even met once. I really liked her and she seemed to really like me. But after a while we knew that it wouldn't work because of the distance and us having commitments that kept each other from moving closer. So we ended up parting ways.
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I regret the way the relationship ended. I wish I would have spoke up earlier and asked for break and tell my ex I loved her as a friend (which I still do). Instead I let the negative emotions fester until she dumped me (which I actually wanted her to do at the time). However I underestimated how much it would impact me later.
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never been in a relationship, yet if i had one i'd never regret it of course! ;-)
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Never regretted a break up. Once I had second thoughts but time proved it to be the right thing.
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one yes, because it ended very abruptly, she moved back to spain after a year and a half of us going out
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I regret them when they happen, then later see why it happened and stop regretting it. Break ups happen for a reason.
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Yes... there was someone whom I totally regret breaking up with, but that was years ago, and if I could do it over I would work harder on keeping that relationship over just ending it like I had.
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If we broke up, its for a reason. I get over it pretty quickly because of that.
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Not so far. I've regretted the chance I didn't take though.
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