So 6 months ago me and my girlfriend were great...We were dating for a year and a half and we were madly in love. We saw each other all the time, fooled around every day, we never fought...We both thought we were each others "the one"
during the end of high school I was supposed to go on a camping trip she has with her entire family every year, and then a week after that I was leaving for the marine corps. We were both REALLY exited about me going and had no problems...
but the day came that we were supposed to go camping and she was just...Cold...Didn't talk, didn't touch me, staring into space. But I thought she was just busy packing and getting ready for camping so I thought it was nothing...But a couple days in she was acting the same, so I asked her what was up and she just said she doesn't want to be "lovey dovy" around her family...Which I can understand so I let it go..
well the day we got back she started birth control, for acne control. And then 3 days after that she started talking about breaking up because she doesn't love me anymore and how she just wants to be single...I passed this off as since I was leaving for boot camp she was freaking out, and I thought she was the love of my life and didn't wanna lose her so I stayed...And she got better, but still didn't act like the girl I fell in love with anymore. So we went through 2 months of that, I tried talking to her about it and she just kept saying "I don't know what's wrong, I just don't feel the same, I can't explain it" and so I thought maybe it was the birth control..But after we broke up she got off it and still feels the same about me so I don't know...
well then she was going off to college and I stayed home to work and go to school next semester, but she started saying how we will hardly see each other and stuff, when I told her I was more then willing to visit her every weekend or every other weekend if she wanted (she was only moving 50 minutes away). But she acted like that was to much...So finally fed up after trying to fix us and her doing nothing but being cold. I broke up with her 2 days before she was supposed to leave for college...
2 weeks later I realized that I didn't care and I wanted nobody else but her, so I tried talking to her, and she said she will think about it, but later messages me saying she doesn't love me anymore. She is over me. She wants to date other guys (I was her first EVERYTHING) and that it would be a mistake if we get back together.
i tryed everything to get her back...talking to her, flowers, talking to friends...i even gave her a scrapbook of picture of us and movie tickets and cute things we got each other (it was supposed to be a gift when she left for college if she ever got lonly and I wasent there) but no luck...and I still don't know why she stopped loving me, but I told her, there will be nobody in my heart tell she comes back to me, and ill wait for as long as that takes...it's been 6 months now...
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well I've never done anything to where I need her to want to take me back, but it has been the other way around, and let me tell you, I still think it was the dumbest idea for me to take her back, she left me for another guy (claimed she didnt) two days later kissed that guy. and told me about it. then when he left her for another girl she came back to me, at this time I was with girl A. and I didn't want to be with her. I didn't tell her why I just told her no. 2 months later she tells me how she met this guy and made out with him, (while still trying to get with me) a month later I started to talk to girl B, still having feelings tho from my ex. I ended back with my ex. I never told her about girl A. she asked me if me if I'm cheating on her with girl A, I told her no. which was true. then she asked if I ever cheated on her with girl A before the break up, I told her no, which was also true, only reason girl A and I even got together was because she accused me of being with her when we dated. (I never even talked to the girl) then after she left me, I asked girl A what that was about, she told me that it might have been because she told her she thought I was cute. and it took off. for 4 days haha. but anyways, my ex and I got back together, 2 months later she calls me and was like what have you and girl A done? IM like why? she goes tell me, I'm like when are you talking about. she goes anytime in your life. I told her what we did, she broke up with me. later that night she started talking to a new guy. which she later admitted that she cheated on me with him the day before she even found out about girl A and I. and then she went to say what I did with girl A is basically cheating. keep in mind she left me for another guy kissed him then roughly a week after that girl A and I got together, we have been single for close to 2 weeks. I don't consider that cheating. since we weren't together, and if it was cheating then wouldn't her kissing him cheating? probably not in her eyes because she told me about it. after it happened. I don't know. if this helps you on your case. but I could basically right this as a question for myself haha
I think the reason that guys aren't submitting answers is that they tend to be more black and white than us girls. Especially younger men. You are either what he wants or you're not.
Whether we like to believe it or not most guys don't throw hissy fits and dump us in a fit of emotion. Normally they have thought it through and decided , for whatever reason, that we are not what they want in their lives right now.
Truth is girls when we are dumped we are dumped...it's hard to take when we are still in love with the guy. Even worse when it's your first real love or a guy you have been planning a future with but give the boys a little credit and take what he says at face value. When it's over it's over... try and take consolation in the fact that he had enough respect for you to tell you so.
And lets face it do you really want to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't really want you? Or who has taken you back as second choice?
It's a big world out there...enjoy your memories and move on...
In my case, he broke up with me. But he wanted me back. He felt like he didn't deserve me (one of the most ANNOYING things a guy can say). And he wasn't sure what he wanted. But after breaking up, he couldn't stop thinking about me. I shut him out, and he missed me. And one day I just started texting him and we were kinda becoming friends until one day he started saying all this mess about missing me.
yeah I've been there. I'm not a guy, I'm a girl tho and one of my ex bf's wanted to get back with me. it didn't work otu because he was also seeing another girl and youknow what that means! lol and then I told that girl and he got screwed over. hahaha lol
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hmmm...high school there was a girl that asked me out and was the only girl I ever actually liked and I'm rather popular. well id like to think that. anyways we were dating for 2 years but there was a point in the relationship where there was too much sex and risk of pregnancy was too high since she didn't like to use condoms. broke it off so that our lives would be better because at that rate she'd get pregnant. She immediately went out with another guy a week after the break up with one of my friends to try to get me jealous to get me back , but I didn't bait it. Problem was, we all had the same core friends so we stayed close until the end of high school. Now we're both in college, in different universities and id say we're both relatively happy. We still stay in contact but I try not to if possible because it's been years and we still talk which is kinda weird. We've discussed our relationship in past ( during highschool ) when we were in college and reconciled over it but she's really pretty so she always has a boyfriend. I still have dreams about her which is weird and nightmares too. Might need to see a shrink about that. But honestly, probably let the love of my life go; and if we met during college there would be no doubt that id marry her. And now I have intimacy issues with other women that try to flirt with me, so I haven't been in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship since and haven't had sex since then. Mmmmm. I'm in college now though and still figuring things out so I think there's still hope though >_>
Anyways, I think love is more than being just together, it's understanding and accepting each other to the point unconditional acceptance. Your sister shouldn't have to move, he should at least meet her in the middle of things. Anyways, I understood that things would be better no doubt if we broke out for both of us and that's why I did it. However, I understand now that I couldv'e had the option to stay and just didn't see it at the time. If I could have her back I would, but she's already happy and that's about as much as I could ask for.
Oh hey BOSTON! I'm from Revere, and attend UMass Amherst btw :PYeah a few times for sure. Sometimes you just break up in the heat of the moment or you break up with them to try & get them to smarten up & realize they might loose you. Sometimes you just don't realize what you had also till after you've been without that person.
DO NOT send the book! No contact! Leave it! If there is any chance of getting him back, it can only come from him. He dumped you. Don't contact him ever again. It isn't attractive. It's ok to keep hoping for a bit, and you never know, he might call you. But if he doesn't, you'll meet soemone better. I know you don't belive it, but you will get over it a lot sooner than you think. Practice smiling at hot guys. You'll be fine. x
It Happend to me once.
She Moved Away And I broke up with her.
she moved 6hours away.
she later moved back and I knew I had loved her I just broke up with her so she could be happy out there.
i tryed to get her back but she refused saying I had my chance and that she never loved me):Yes! A couple of times. I think back on it and regret it. Sometimes you can't see the forest thou the trees. Corny, yes but it makes the point. Sometimes you miss how wonderful that girl was. On the other side I have had girls that broke up with me that was divesting. And a couple of years later it was WHAT THE HELL DID I SEE In HER!
If your in a situation like that now, don't be pushy. Find a way to once in a while get in touch, even if you make it look like just a chance meeting. "Oh hey, I hit speed dial sorry. But how are you" Get it. Good luckTo be honest I do regret, but not a particular person..
The reason you break up usually is always present, so you only miss the good moments, not the actual complete person.
At least I don't..Why did he end it? I'm curious to hear from guys too. Especially if the break up was complicated/messy.
It's a process. It happens all the time. Even though he breaks up with you or you break up with him. Somewhere inside of him he still loves you so much. If you two have had sexual intercourse then he will always come back to you. Sometimes breaking up is a phase to tell you that you two need each other. Give it time but do not lose connection.
yeah sometimes but I think later on if it did not work out then it was not meant to be
may I suggest you all get together and do an orgy? sex seems to make everybody feel better...bring toys if you want...
come on guys...I wanna know this one too!
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