my ex and I dated for a year and broke up in April.
we got back together in July and broke up in late October.
for whatever reason this split seems harder to get over than the first one.
our breakups were very mutual and I told her since we weren't getting along we needed time apart. she agreed.
but for whatever reason its harder for me to get over this breakup then the last one. I can't figure out why.
has anyone else run into this problem before?
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Yea, I definately have felt this.
You know what I think it is? The second time came after months of being alone, wondering about the other person and how different it would all be if you got back together. Then the second time came and went. Now it feels even more "final". Any longing, you now know, can't realistically result in you getting back together because getting back together did not work out.
There almost seems like there is no more hope left.
Maybe you will be back with her one day. Maybe it'll be 10 years from now, maybe 30! Maybe then it'll be for good. Maybe you will have the same problems and split up again! And if you never get back together than it was something you had to go through to grow.
What you're feeling, I believe, is very normal. It may feel like there won't be any amount of time that can pass for you to feel better. Rest assured, one day you're going to wake up and feel really great and only realize later that it's because you're totally over her.2