Why are some days harder than the rest after a breakup?

[Anonymous]

Some days I feel like I'm over it , and somedays it hits me harder. It's definitely not as hard as the begining. But somedays I find myself struggling with how mean he was to me after he claimed to have loved me more than anything. Somedays I don't care he was rude. Will there come a day it doesn't bother me anymore? Has anyone been through something like this?

[DaveJord]

I think well over 90% of people have been through this at one time or another. I mean in grade school at 10 to 14 years old, Ihad serious crushes on girls and had to get over them on a yearly basis. At 47 years old, I have been single for three years... in those three years... I had to go through this with my wife of 24 years. Like how in the hell does someone that you loved more than anything in the world become so hateful. Then there were the online women, like they are heartless and terrible.

So no you never forget the hurt they caused you. Like you never want to forget either, because trust me that reminder keeps you honest to yourself not to make those mistakes again. But yes, over time you do not only get over it, but you are also thankful for the life experience.