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Wishful thinking is being optimistic, gut feeling is the opposite. It's something we're born with, like animals. It's there to prevent us from getting hurt when we are being very dumb.. You say he is ignoring you, so what gives you the gut feeling that he wants back? It's your wishful thinking that he wants you back, because you don't have the facts that would indicate that he wants you back. Gut feeling is usually right about bad stuff. It's there when our heart and mind are not in sync and we don't want to admit something or have a fear of something. That's when a gut feeling kicks in to help us realize and decide what to do. It's a very powerful thing. For example, if you went back together, wishful thinking would be that you're gonna live happily ever after, and gut feeling would be that you're gonna breakup again and be hurt again. I think you already know this and that your gut feeling is telling you to stay away from him, but you just don't want to admit because you thinking irrationally and you are letting your wishful thinking take control over your gut feeling. Just accept that you are being very dumb right now and hold to your gut feeling. It doesn't matter what he does or what he thinks, it's YOU who matter. I still keep tabs on my ex too but NO WAY I'm getting back together with him. It's just a habit that is very hard to quit and it takes time. Him checking you up on facebook means NOTHING.