What makes people gain weight after a breakup?

[Anonymous]

What makes people gain weight after a breakup? My last girlfriend broke up with me and told me to move on and has gained a ton of weight since. It surprised me. I thought she would do the opposite because she wanted to "find a better guy."

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Many of the responses are the same. That she is depressed and needs time to get over me. It's kind of interesting because I thought she was over me. I thought she broke up with me because she didn't want me anymore. So this leads to my next question. What makes women break up with men without an explanation and then be depressed about the breakup? If this is so hard for her, why did she even push me away in the first place?

[Anonymous]

Okay so the same thing happen to me. I broke up from a four and a half your relationship. I have gained more weight then I have my whole life. Im depressed. Its hard moving on from a relationship that lasted that long. But here's why I had to. My ex was a narcissist. He could manipulate you right out of your shoes. He was sweet as pie when asking for something he wanted, but if you didn't do or get it for him. You became the problem. Everything was your fault. He was suffering because of you. He made such a big deal about everything it was easier just to give him what he wanted rather then here it. Everything revolved around him in the relationship. Nothing was about me or our kids. One night I came home from work 15 minutes late due to the oncoming nurses aide showing up late. When I walked up on the porch he was standing in the door way glaring me down. I asked him "what"? He proceeded to call me a few choice words and tell me he knew I was cheating on him. This is one example of how crappy my life was with him. Needless to say the final straw was when he stayed out partying all last summer blowing all the money on cocaine and alcohol. He wouldn't come home til 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 oclock in the morning. One morning I had to go find him. So walking away from something you put your heart into isn't always the easiest, but it was the right thing to do. Im slowly healing from all that 4 months later with the help of antidepressants. I still have anxiety and depression, but everyday is a day that im heal alittle more. Not saying this was y'alls relationship but from my prospective this is probably why shehass gained weight. A girl who would gained weight due to the stress and depression because she left you. You lost a lot dude. And the reason you dont know why she left is probably because you were'nt listen. Just remember one mans trash is another mans treasure. 😊

[Anonymous]

Feeling depressed and/or lonely, maybe? I lost 25lbs after my last serious relationship. But I had gained 40lbs while in nursing school and throughout our relationship. But I chose to focus on myself rather than dwell on the two years of my life that were completely wasted--after I picked up the broken pieces of my heart, of course. Being emotional leads to irrational thinking. Food is a huge comfort and it makes us happy. But choosing not to watch how much you eat even though you're sad will lead to lots of weight gain. Been there and done that.

[Anonymous]

I dont think she is depressed, just enjoying her freedom and drinking and partying. The lifestyle takes its tolls.

Depressed people dont eat. People who have obsessions and need to switch it to something else eat. Depressed people cannot stomach food and yes there is something about comfort eating but this isn't a case of that.

[Asker]

Well that makes me feel good about myself. Knowing that she is living it up and happier without me. At least I tried...

[Opinion Owner]

But the thing is it isn't about you, it never was. She ended it for her reasons and if it wasn't because of something you did then it was all her. Let her go, find someone who deserves you!

[xDocilexFaeriex]

That's easy, Depression!!! After an experience, no matter who breaks up with who, it's not common for someone to get stressed and depressed. This may cause them to eat to fill the void. Some people can't eat at all. It all depends on the person. She'll be OK, once she gets completely over you!!!

[Asker]

That breakup was hard on me. It took me a long time to get to the point where I wasn't sad about it anymore. I thought she didn't care abour me anymore which is why she just cut me out. She was my first love so she will always have a part of my heart.

[xDocilexFaeriex]

Awe. I feel it. She was probably trying to get you out of her head... but sometimes what one really needs is closure :)

[Asker]

I still have no idea why she left in the first place. She just said she couldn't give me what I needed even though she loved me and hated having to do this. As much as I tried to dissuade her, I was unsuccessful. This is ultimately what she wanted.

[raio81597]

People often try to fill a void by many means, she chose food, she basically is eating her emotions. Some people drink, some smoke some do drugs some shop some have empty sex, it's how they choose to fill the void of loss. I do admit there are healthier ways of doing things, however we as humans tend to go with what's easiest.

[theoverlookeddude]

For me it's usually because I go back to drinking and smoking weed. Drinking= beer belly and weed gives you the munchies. I'm a dude though. But she probably got an eating disorder.

[springocelot]

Stress eating?

Sometimes they feel that even though they love the person, there is a quality about their partner or even about themselves that can't be overcome, which they believe will be a detriment to the relationship in the long run. So they break it off. No matter the circumstance, losing a person who once was a regular part of your life is stressful.

[CœurRosé]

Many people develop binge eating disorders as a way to deal with their sadness prior to a breakup. It's really not that uncommon.

There could have been many reasons why she chose to end the relationship. Maybe she felt something was wrong but didn't know what, and she missed the release of endorphins that come with love. Give her some time, cut off all contact with her if you must. She'll be over you soon.

[Fritz81]

It could just be a different lifestyle now. She might be going out more and going out with her friends more causing her to drink and eat badly. Since she broke up with you it is hard to say, at first I would say emotional eating. Which, even though she did break up with you the adjustment back to single hood and losing someone you are close to can be hard, she was probably still upset about it and might have eaten emotionally.

[Shorty1991]

Depression and loneliness can do funny things to you. Its sounds as if she's just started binge eating to fill the void. She's not yet over you, it could take time but she will get there eventually. Its almost like giving up an addiction. My mum used to smoke and she quit in 2006. Then she replaced the smoking with eating more, which caused her to put on weight. After working out, she list that weight and went back to her normal dress size. I'm so proud of her :)

[BertMacklinFBI]

its a way to comfort themselves.

which is weird in your scenario because she is the one who did the breaking up. usually it's the person who got dumped who starts eating more food and lying in bed all day.

[paulina_g]

Emotional eating/binge eating? Also, some people take care of themselves while in a relationship because they want to look good but when they're single they lose the motivation or just don't care anymore

[Rissyanne]

Actually I lose weight... if it was a sad breakup. I lose my appetite.

[skaikrasha]

Because yummy food cures sadness. At least temporarily.

[helloitsmethere]

Ice cream. Loads and loads of ice cream.

[witch07]

Maybe because their sorrow affects their tyroid.

[Cashew72]

pouting, build up of cum in your system. :)

[takumii]

Binge eating in depression