Why my husband touched another women?

[Anonymous]

I been married for 10 years and I don't think he ever cheated,we went to a topless club with some new friends, they are very friendly people wanting us to play in there life style, we told them no we don't play, they are not very attractive. Well we were having fun and drinking then I looked down I saw her hand on my husbands leg and his on hers, I was very mad he said she was just pulling herself over in the booth and he sat his hand down not realizing. But she never moved her hand and he didn't move it for her, why would this happen should? Do you think he wanted her.

[tex151]

you freaked out because your friend touched your husbands leg? Are you serious wow your taking this way to far, do you honestly think other women don't touch your husbands leg? It was a leg now if it was his dick well that's a different story, so what. Sure it could have been flirty on the womans part but once again its a leg she touched. What do you think happens when he goes to a strip club with his friends or a bar with his friends, well the strippers are going to touch his leg, he's going to put his face in her breasts, she's going to grind all over his crotch its called a lap dance for you who don't know . Same goes for women in bars there going to touch his arm, his leg , so what's the problem as long as he doesn't cheat, do you consider those forms of cheating?

[Asker]

I was upset to see him touch her, These friends are not long time friends and they been trying to get us in there hot tub so I don't think it was innocent I think she was making a move. we do not go out to the bars with out each other.

[Irisheyez]

It could have been an accident seeing as how you were right there.so why would he do that purposely when he knew you were right there and could see.

Another thing is maybe he is actually interested in playing in their lifestyle and is to ashamed or afraid to hint at it to you and wanted your reaction from the situation.

It's really hard to say but I'd probably be a little more angry at the woman. Knowing how you both felt about it and still laying her hand on your hubby's leg. Granted just remember.it's only a hand and a leg. Not innocent by any means but not enough to stay angry at your husband or the friend. Just throw out a warning and move on.

[Asker]

Thanks, I Told him first a leg then what, I don't trust this girl and thought he new better, He knows I don't like the touchy thing, I told him it was not acceptable and it better not happen again.

[Celeste21]

I think he did, if the situation were reversed there would have been a totally different reaction. The fact that he didn't remove her hand just shows that he was flirting. At least you know that the person he is going home to is you though. If you don't see it as innocent flirting you should tell him so, and have a conversation about what's acceptable "friendliness" and what's not.

[Asker]

Thanks,

He said he was waiting for to move and then she didn't, then was going move his hand.

the first time we talked he said he didn't realize his hand was on her. do you think he was cought up in the moment? I said were you trying to get her hopes up or what he said he was uncomfortable with her, I don't know what to think. we talked about the swinger life and he said no way as I agreed, but he does like to see two chicks together he thinks it hot.

[Celeste21]

I think he is definitely lying but doesn't want to make you uncomfortable with him in his fantasies. I also think that he is uncomfortable with you doing the same with another guy, so says he is against the swinger thing, when in reality it's just he only wants that behavior to be acceptable for himself....

[Asker]

Even if she is not attractive? and a bigger women. he said she is the last person he wants to touch.

[Celeste21]

Hmm, maybe it might actually be an accident... however, if your husband is not a shallow person her size may not matter much to him. Especially when it comes to sex. Men can easily have sex with people and not equate with love or attraction....

[girls101]

it could have been a accident if he loves you he would tell you the truth

Hope it works