Ex boyfriend seems annoyed I am happy?
we're a LDR (long distance relationship). he broke up with me, he broke my heart. I didn't sleep, eat, anything.. but cry... and tried not to show him this. however, I tried winning him back every way I could think of.. from crying to leaving him completely alone; only he's never left me alone. even when I thought he didn't realize he was making a mistake, I stuck around, waiting for him to say sorry or tell me he changed his mind.. but instead, more and more I felt like I was falling into some "friendship" role or "back up girl".. I realized even though I can see it was probably going to end, I realized perhaps I didn't want to lose him as a friend either. and it didn't always work, but so far so good, we seemed to be getting along. but today when we spoke on the phone, he seemed irritated that I accepted this breakup (he caused). that I'm happy and moved on. he thinks I'm also OK with him meeting other women and I'm dating other guys.. I led him to believe that honestly. I thought it would be good for me to fall into "character".. so I can be further accepting.. and to be honest, I wanted to see his reaction. not to play games, but, ONLY to make him realize what he lost. and I thought it wasn't working.. but he hung up on me, said he would call me another time when he felt better (mentally)... and when, he said, we're "both happy".. I told him I AM happy.. he rambled a few topics that were lame attempts to make me jealous.. instead it irritated me and made me realize what a flake he is.. and I lost even more respect for him for: not respecting me moving on after HE broke up with me and I had SUCH a hard time... =(... for TRYING to make me jealous when I have no reason to be... and last, hanging up on me... what gives? he said something about thinking about things and giving it another try and maybe meeting when I'm on vacation.. but honestly.. I don't feel right now I want to go backwards.. that's what I feel like I'm doing.. and I'm a really happy person generally; and he always weighs me down, always depressing - we used to laugh and have fun, now I find it a challenge to speak to him, he's either boring or he's depressing... and then I always get to look forward to the "hang up".. even being his friend is a challenge. we work together and often NEED to be in contact, but I'm reconsidering that too. what does he want from me? is it only that he hates the idea I moved on before him? or that I'm happy? I was devastated, and he didn't care! I bawled my eyes out... lost so much weight.. but now when I'm done, he's mad at me? seriously? what do you think? yes, leaving him in the past OK, most will say. but I mean, what's going on in his head?
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You need to cut ties with this guy. It's obvious that he's only continuing to drag you down and make you feel lousy even though the relationship is over. His continued interjection into your life will only drag out your feelings for him and your relationship. If you phase him out you will start to think about it less and less. As the expression goes, out of sight, out of mind. I understand that may be challenging given you do some sort of work together, but I'd even suggest you professionally begin to distance yourself from him as well.
As to why he's annoyed that you're "happy", you are completely right. He is angry that you are "happy" and have moved on before he has. His attempts to make you jealous and vague comments about getting back together are only there to try and make you unhappy.
You just really need to get this guy out of your life. He's too much of a negative influence.3