Ex boyfriend seems annoyed I am happy?

Ex boyfriend seems annoyed I am happy?

we're a LDR (long distance relationship). he broke up with me, he broke my heart. I didn't sleep, eat, anything.. but cry... and tried not to show him this. however, I tried winning him back every way I could think of.. from crying to leaving him completely alone; only he's never left me alone. even when I thought he didn't realize he was making a mistake, I stuck around, waiting for him to say sorry or tell me he changed his mind.. but instead, more and more I felt like I was falling into some "friendship" role or "back up girl".. I realized even though I can see it was probably going to end, I realized perhaps I didn't want to lose him as a friend either. and it didn't always work, but so far so good, we seemed to be getting along. but today when we spoke on the phone, he seemed irritated that I accepted this breakup (he caused). that I'm happy and moved on. he thinks I'm also OK with him meeting other women and I'm dating other guys.. I led him to believe that honestly. I thought it would be good for me to fall into "character".. so I can be further accepting.. and to be honest, I wanted to see his reaction. not to play games, but, ONLY to make him realize what he lost. and I thought it wasn't working.. but he hung up on me, said he would call me another time when he felt better (mentally)... and when, he said, we're "both happy".. I told him I AM happy.. he rambled a few topics that were lame attempts to make me jealous.. instead it irritated me and made me realize what a flake he is.. and I lost even more respect for him for: not respecting me moving on after HE broke up with me and I had SUCH a hard time... =(... for TRYING to make me jealous when I have no reason to be... and last, hanging up on me... what gives? he said something about thinking about things and giving it another try and maybe meeting when I'm on vacation.. but honestly.. I don't feel right now I want to go backwards.. that's what I feel like I'm doing.. and I'm a really happy person generally; and he always weighs me down, always depressing - we used to laugh and have fun, now I find it a challenge to speak to him, he's either boring or he's depressing... and then I always get to look forward to the "hang up".. even being his friend is a challenge. we work together and often NEED to be in contact, but I'm reconsidering that too. what does he want from me? is it only that he hates the idea I moved on before him? or that I'm happy? I was devastated, and he didn't care! I bawled my eyes out... lost so much weight.. but now when I'm done, he's mad at me? seriously? what do you think? yes, leaving him in the past OK, most will say. but I mean, what's going on in his head?
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ps I want to add I'm not so happy. I'm really trying to be.. and I'm trying to move on and live my life as he told me (and one time screamed at me while I sat speechless on the phone in shock).. I just thought he'd be happy that I wasn't on his case...
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anyway, he poked me today on fb, but said nothing.. wtf? and I haven't attempted to contact him. it kinda annoyed me.. the poke & then silence.. like what can I add to that? it isn't interesting to be poked by an ex that hangs up on you... ? seriously?
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thanks guys. the worst part is I got a pkg in the mailbox today, it was a gift, something that he had to search for to find; and is seasonal.. he made great efforts to find this and send it.. I felt obligated to thank him although I felt weird to.. but i
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i thought it would be rude to not say thank you. I haven't gotten a response back yet. I'm sure this was part of the reason he's upset. I haven't officially moved on, but I wanted him to believe that so he doesn't think I'm clingy. and I want to try.
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thanks for your great tips, I appreciate them. they totally make sense. hope I can keep the strength to keep going.
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just an update. he's made quite a few attempts: SMS/email/FB to contact me after I thanked him. I really haven't spoken to him, only one very very brief response early yesterday. he continued today briefly as well. I feel like I don't have anything to
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say to him? I feel like he never apologized, upped the ante, changed his ways.. but he wants to continue.. what? there isn't anything left. the crumbs he's offering I'm not interested in. this is all so lame & sad to me. just don't have more 2 say. :(
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oh crap. I started to reply to someone and had limited text. sorry. =\
Ex boyfriend seems annoyed I am happy?
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