Why does my ex get irritated when he sees me happy or In a good mood?

[Anonymous]

The entire time I dated my ex I was constantly depressed and unhappy I felt like I wasn’t good enough to be treated good and I constantly had to worry about what he was doing behind my back. He broke up with me the end of last year but contacted me almost 2 months ago and asked to be friends. I agreed to be friends because it seemed like he changed and matured a little bit. I have finally started to feel like myself again I’m not as depressed as I use to be I have my days where I’m really happy and I’m just in a good mood if I’m smiling too much or laughing at a movie/show or something on my phone he seems bothered by my happiness does he enjoy me being miserable and unhappy?

[quaranta]

I don't think he enjoys that, but maybe he is feeling like a failure because while you were with him you were depressed and now without him you feel much better, so he understands he failed as a boyfriend but gets irritated because he is maybe taking it personally, like if you're doing it almost "on purpose" to make him feel wrong. Or maybe there is not even this part and he just feels miserable only.
Either way he will move on from this. For sure he didn't change of a single detail after just one year, at most he learnt how to force some corrections on his behaviours, and especially what is changed is the circumstance (single, broke up from a relationship, maybe new friends etc), but the source of his bad traits is for sure the exact same, one year is a useless time to think someone is actually changed. So if in the past he was triggered about something from you, he can still be triggered by the same type of things. Maybe he just forces his way to express it in a more indirect and modest way. Just don't try triggering him on purpose, let him elaborate his stuff, he will move on and find another girl sooner or later. Keep a distant friendship, more like an acquaintance. If you date someone who makes you even happier and he monitors your life and is already upset at seeing how you're better without him, then let alone if you are even better with another guy. Double humiliation. So keep some healthy distance, don't make him part of your daily life again.