My boyfriend and I got In a fight... he pushed me so I slapped him... he’s now saying he wants to break up what should I do?

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My boyfriend and I have been fighting lately due to the fact that he hasn't been completely honest or loyal to me lately... tonight we got into a fight about him lying to me about how long he was going to be out and where he was going to be... when I started to express how I felt to him he ignored me completely and stared at his phone. I told him to put his phone away so we could talk but nothing... so I started getting a little angry and asked him again to please put his phone away and listen to me, if he didn’t want to talk that was fine but at least listen to what I had to say... he then looked up for a second and says “if you’re just going to bitch I’m going to sleep” he then pulled his hat down over his face which pretty much told me that I wasn’t important enough to listen to... I walked to the bathroom and cried. When I came out he was putting his jacket on and he said I cannot stay here with a crazy b**** and started to walk out so I stood at the door asking why we couldn’t just sit and talk... it turned into a bigger deal... and he ended up pushing me out of the way so I slapped him... I would never close a fist on him no matter what but I did slap him and now he is saying that he doesn’t want to be with someone insane or abusive like me... what should I do?

Darklydarkened · Accepted Answer

First of, if a man feels the need to lie you about how long he'll be out, that relationship is already dead, just hadn't been buried yet.

Second, if he doesn't want to talk, that is quite synony doesn't want to listen to you as well.

Third, if he wanted to go, and made it clear thst he doesn't want to suffer your yammering, standing at the door and keep asking why doesn't he talk is literally asking for indecency.

What did you expected him to say, he either doesn't value your opinion or cheating or probably thinking you overreact to his outdoor activities and doesn't feel like explaining himself to you.

If he'd slapped you, what would you think of him?

GingerGuy · Accepted Answer

Why did you slap him? I understand your frustration of you wanting him to listen to what you had to say, but what you're not realizing and he did is that you two were getting too upset to talk. So he needed to get away from you for a while until you both calm down so you can talk calmly and rationally. What you should've done is let him go until you both calmed down, then talked (keep this in mind for the future). As far as him and now goes, I'd feel the same way he does, I wouldn't want to be with someone that's abusive either. All you can TRY, is talking to him, apologizing and explaining. But he may have his mind made up I don't know? Depends how much he cares for you etc.

Fitness-Fanatic · Accepted Answer

I couldn't be in that type of relationship. It's a toxic relationships.

It's better to end a toxic relationship, because it'll eventually become an abusive relationship. Neither of you have self-control over your emotions. He was leaving , but you stood in his way so he had every right to push you out the way. You slapped him when all he wanted to do was leave the house. You are both emotionally and mentally immature , so the relationship will never be a healthy happy relationship

pixie_xoxo · Accepted Answer

Because he's lying, and especially because he laid a hand on you like that, I'd say dump his ass. No guy should lay a hand on a girl - even to move them out the way. He called you a bitch. That's unacceptable! Dump his ass. Find yourself a guy who calls you his princess/queen. Not someone who thinks it's okay to call you a bitch. If he can't even sit and have a conversation and he chooses to ignore you like that then it means he's too immature to be in a relationship.

Wonderer89 · Accepted Answer

You accept that he doesn’t want to be with you and that the relationship is over.
Just because you don’t have the self respect to walk away from toxic behaviour doesn’t mean he doesn’t. You tried to prevent him leaving a situation he didn’t want to be in, and then you hit him. No one should have to tolerate that kind of behaviour and he is choosing not to

dsaar · Answer

Well sounds like you both aren't in a healthy relationship. If you don't trust him and he's calling you names and isn't willing to be honest with you, it is probably better to part ways. You are also both starting to be too physically pushy/hurtful to each other which can easily escalate later... it's probably best that you both end it. Unless you have a good reason to stay together (which doesn't really seem to be since you both don't seem to care for each other much or about the relationship) then I would suggest you move on and find someone you would actually like to be with and have an actual relationship with that has mutual trust.

andryhtn · Answer

no, your react is normal for a girl..
no one ever in this world, a girl want to be called bitch or something like that

there are something fishy right there
you boyfriend hiding something

go break with him, you need someone who can respect your relationship

marijajr · Answer

It's his fault! He deserved that slap! You don't say "crazy bitch" to a girl you love. I am sorry to say that, but I don't think he loves anymore, maybe it's just some phase or something but he looks cold at this point, and maybe distance for a little bit could be good idea

Erxes · Answer

I would personally be annoyed too if someone made such a big deal of how long im going to be outside (wouldnt lie where id go tho). I often dont know how much time i plan to spend outside. Why stop him leaving like that? And i can't find a reason to justify the slap.

razotor · Answer

This isn't going to work out. The physicality is wrong on both fronts. If he comes to you and apologizes... then you should do the same... but if he doesn't, this is a done deal.

CiscoHatchin · Answer

I definitely don't know what he's going through, or what his intentions are. It's clearly you're doing that because you care about him, which is priceless, he could have been understanding and talked or did anything sweet, but he doesn't appreciate that, and that tells me that he doesn't really deserve you. It's clearly hard for you to dump him because you love him and stuff, still, you should do it and move on, he's just not the right guy.

Tushnim · Answer

You shouldn't have given him the opening onto a moral high ground. Anyway, I say good riddance. He doesn't want to talk to you or hang out around you. So why are you bothered that he is breaking up?

Wollu · Answer

Don’t try to be a control freak or mother. Violence is a no go. No matter what, it will escalate one day. You don’t want this. You have no right to interfere with his personal time. If you do it, be aware you will not have a good standing.

Bittu009 · Answer

I really don't know y would u think he was not being honest n then u acted on it very much n u didn't even let his anger go down. So for now I just have to wait for him.
If u really love him hold him in ur arms n if u don't better move on

Geo481K95 · Answer

If he really cares then this would not have happened, let go, u'll surely find someone else, make sure he treats u right.

leifleoden · Answer

Accept it, he physically assaulted you stay away. Also, don't physically assault your next boyfriend.

LXC9098 · Answer

Leave the relationship. Come out and live single for a year. Realize your self then start a new...

WhoDatGuy · Answer

This sounds like it's going down the toilet anyway. Walk away

emperorstone · Answer

Over reacting is normal u just need to understand each other if he doesn't want you no more fuck him and move on

ChronicThinker · Answer

Not loyal and getting physical... yeah, break up.

Apoorv_2812 · Answer

Give him time... he'll be back

Britski123 · Answer

He don’t wanna b wit ya Just accept it

railwayman · Answer

Fuck him... he seems like a waste of oxygen anyway

Celtero · Answer

Break up.

LeoZay · Answer

Let him walk..

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