My nudes = ruin my future military career?

[Anonymous]

So I broke up with this guy a while ago. He was immature and I let him down nicely but he ended up getting pissed. (For immature reasons) so I stopped talking to him. We literally hung out twice. Anyway I did send him some nude pictures because I trusted him at the time (we hung out twice but I've known him since high school) and so it was just a fun fling over text.

Just today some guy named Micah added me on Snapchat and he got pissed when I said no thanks I'm not interested in hanging out. He said "oh well I have your nudes anyways" and described them. I'm soooo pissed. Don't give me a speech about "oh you shouldn't have sent them" because I'm not the only one okay.

I honestly don't even give a shit and I don't know if he'd do anything with them he seems like a lowlife. I'm just worried if anything HAPPENED it would affect my military career. Like isn't leaking nude pics illegal? Help me out please

[Bullet-Dodger-Abadox]

If you were 18 when sending them, then you can't do anything about it because you willingly sent them to him.

Maybe use better judgment in the future. You say do give you crap about shouldn't have sent them but you should know there's risks when sending pictures over the internet.

[matchrestore]

The likelihood of it affecting your military career is pretty small. The military is taking an active stance against sharing nude photos of others without their permission, and I doubt it would ever affect how you move up in the ranks.

[Asker]

Thank you

[Asker]

I ended up fixing the situation so I'm pretty sure it'll end up okay

[LeeKenz]

It is illegal but you shouldn’t have any huge consequences in the military as long as someone like a commanding officer or whatever sees them or gets word of it

[ChronicThinker]

Well, they can't impact you if your face isn't in them, but I would bring it up to local police. Unfortunately, though you'll likely need more evidence.

[walla99z]

I guess you shouldn't be sending nudes. What's wrong with this new generation when I was younger men had to actually work to see you naked.

[Slim57]

You're only 26 though lol

[walla99z]

Old enough to know that if somebody sees you naked they should have gone through courting and earned it. These girls are just sending nudes so these boys can accumulate collections.

[Slim57]

Ah okay true enough I agree

[Pink2000]

Sending nudes has serious consequences for minors and they most definitely can have a serious impact on your future military career.

[Asker]

How so? If he doesn't post them anywhere

[Pink2000]

If he does post them

[weaponsdude]

I think you're good. He's likely not as immature as you think him to be. You trusted him for a reason. Anybody can make some shit up about having nude pics of you. If you've taken enough if them like many women have, then I can talk about the one of you holding your boob up and licking the nipple. Remember that one? I am just saying...

[andreasderjuengere]

Anything we do may have consequences. Some 'mistakes' we do will indeed close certain doors. That's the way it is. I had closed doors myself and learned to live with it. It is not the end of the world and there are always alternatives; which can turn out to be the even better choices. Often, not hiding facts (of any relevant kind) will make them 'negotiable'.
Give it a try and see your present range of options.

[ryancg]

It depends, the military can be pretty strict about sexual conduct. It would look bad on the military if your nudes are floating out there in cyberspace for everyone to see if the douchebags in question decided to post them all over the net. The military tends to like people who have more respect for themselves.

[hi_im_nek]

Guys we've all had our "times", can't blame it on the girl she was having fun and felt like doing it. Now about your military career, I guess only if this dude (or anybody who's gotten them) is enough of a d*ck to try and ruin your future job, would be a problem. I sugest having a talk with the guy, I understand that it's hard since you stated that he's immature, but for the sake of your future just try to calm the dude down.

[Anonymous]

he is a dumb ass lol

what I really wonder from men is
what do you get out of sending out nudes of girls

whats the point what are you trying to do brag lol

NO ONE FUCKING CARES
literally no one cares
90% of the people have nudes on their phones

ohh and alpha males do not exist do not test me on that trust me lol

[WalterRadio]

"isn't leaking nude pics illegal?
You could take him to court for copyright infringement. You might get $10 out of it.

If you don't want your pictures to be public, then don't let anyone have them.

[FreePrometheus]

Well. It all depends on the circumstances. That sounds like revenge porn, in which case you shouldn't be at fault. It's in the newspaper the DoD is having to deal with a lot of this in recent years

[Blinken]

Is it CID that does internal investigations? Go talk to them. See if they can help.

[hellacray]

You hung out with him twice and you sent him nudes... stupid is probably the nicest way I could put it.

You're right you are not the only one. I suppose if everyone jumped off a cliff you'll probably just follow.

[Asker]

Okay, I've known him 6+ years. Thanks though

[hellacray]

You've known him for 6 years, but only hung out twice...

What did you guys meet online or something?

[Asker]

Oh my god it's called moving away losing touch then finding each other again. Maybe it was more than hanging out twice. Do you know how to give advice or to just be a dick

[Asker]

Due to my stressful situation you're not helping

[hellacray]

Sure I am. I'm teaching you to not be stupid giving away nudes especially to someone you barely hang out with.

In case in the future you find someone bugging you to send nudes.

[Asker]

I'm not taking any tips from you. I learn from my own mistakes thanks. And stop acting all high and mighty because you look down on people who are into nudes. Jfc. I can tell on your account that you just can't stand girls who send nudes so I'm assuming you're feeding your ego arguing with me. I'm not going to continue

[hellacray]

Acting? I am high and mighty.

Yes I can't stand girls that send nudes you are right. You wanna know why?

Cause they always end up getting leaked and then they end up in your situation.

It's like drugs just say no.

[Landshrk0068]

yes, it is illegal without your consent to post them.

[Iron_Man]

That's a big problem everybody on this site learn a lesson from this girl. Yes it can give your career a problem

[LegateLanius]

There is always a risk sending pictures on the internet. Unfortunately, once its out, its gone.

[munky40]

Yes it is illegal and don't worry you won't have major impacts like getting kicked out of the military for sharing nudes.

[1nittol3arn]

Hmm. Have you tried to speak with a lawyer about That? A lawyer would be the best option honestly.

[yolobo]

You should fuck his life as much as possible. Revenge

[lsaiah]

That's your problem and it's your fault too lol