How do I get my ex boyfriend back?

I know this is a common question, but I believe we have a few unique circumstances. My boyfriend and I dated for over 2 years and planned on getting married. Unfortunately we had to do long distance for while and we kinda drifted apart. The last time I visited him, he told me that he still cares for me, but something inside him tells him to find what he needs in life. Technically he would be following my path in life and he didn't want that. He said he needed time to find out what he needs and wants to do in life and that maybe we can get back together. I accepted the fact that he needed this journey so we said our goodbyes and that was that.

I found out that I was pregnant about 3 weeks later and notified him. He said that he wouldn't abandon me and that he would help however he could. I asked him that when I move back "home" in around 7 months (finishing last semester of college) would he be willing to try to make things work with me, so we could possibly be a family. He said that he would have no problem dating me and seeing how things go.

I guess my question would be, do you see us actually getting back together? I still care for him and him for me, but it isn't exactly love anymore. We are willing to date and try to make things work, but I am afraid that the fact that I will be pregnant will hinder that. Will 7 months be enough time for him to figure out his life or will he resent me for bringing a child into the world that he isn't prepared for?


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  • Fidelity is an “absolute must” in a relationship.

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What Guys Said 1

  • you never even once considered an abortion?

    My guess is he is already resenting you for being pregnant. my advice is you really need to consider whether you want to screw him over just because you accepted your pregnancy. you are pretty much ruining his life by pulling him back to you trough pregnancy.

    • I do not believe in Abortion, it goes against my personal feelings and my religious beliefs. He said that a part of him thought of abortion, but another part didn't want that.

What Girls Said 1

  • ok...

    Chemistry dies out like a fire if you don’t stoke it once in awhile.

    Humans have needs – both emotional and physical. They need to be caressed, held, hugged, kissed, listened to, flirted with, and desired.

    Your relationship routine might have made your ex feel starved for whatever it was they didn’t get anymore – that very stuff that made your stomachs and hearts flutter when you first started dating. If he or she was starving, then chances are you weren’t getting everything out of the pairing that you wanted as well.

    What were you lacking in the relationship? What was missing?

    Most relationships don’t crumble because of one single issue. When one thing comes in between two people, they usually recognize it and work things out amicably – unless it’s a deal breaker like, “he wants kids and I don’t.”

    You might even see the breakup as a result from one of the above issues while your ex would pinpoint something totally different. Maybe you thought it was the fact that you spent no time together, but he thought it was the nagging you did.

    If you want to get your ex back, don’t do these things::

    - Texting your ex will push him away – fast;

    - Calling your ex multiple times a day shows neediness;

    - Telling him to get back with you telegraphs insecurity;

    - Writing letters to try to make him understand how you feel is


    -Phoning his parents and try to convince them to talk

    sense into his is a sure way to get ignored;

    -Calling the new girl in his life and telling him to leave him

    alone will instantly turn him against you

    How to get him back?

    Maybe this few tips will help you:

    - Never look desperate – work on your self, you need to shine if you want to attract him back

    - Start seeing other guys. That will wake uh her curiosity and insecurity (is possible that he has already move on!?)

    - Go out together, do stuff together, but don’t ask him to get back, just have great time together, let he see how good it was in relationship

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    All the best and good luck!


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