Anyone here have a 2 year relationship curse?

[Just_A_Girl88]

So my friend says she has a two year curse (basically after spending two years with a guy things go down hill) She says she just doesn’t feel in love like when the relationship first started so she figures its time to end the relationship once she starts to feel restless. She has a baby with the guy she’s with right now so I think she should keep trying to make it work but she wants out and is starting to flirt with other guys which will eventually lead to her cheating. Anyways my question is: Are there any Girls/Guys that also feel this way and why do you feel like this? Also do keep trying to make it work or do you just leave? I’m just curious to see what others say so thanks for reading and answering.

[Anonymous]

Wtf. Not judging you, but your friend is a shit human being. At first I thought she was just a bit immature and the type to confuse lust for love. Cause after a certain amount of time (for some it's 6 months, others 1 year, others 2wo years at maximum) the honeymoon phase finishes right? And that's when people's knowledge and understanding of real relationships actuallyy shine. So your friend doesn't know shit because once the honeymoon phase is over & it's down to your true commitment and understanding of what a bond is really like in the long-run. People like that think you're supposed to be the same as you were in the beginning, but thats not truem you're meant to grow together, of course you won't be doing the same things you were doing as when you first met them.
And you know what? That's okay, immaturity can still be fixed with encouraged growth.

But then I read that she's already started flirting with other guys while still technically in a relationship. Wow. Just wow. So the guy is punished for her lack of maturity. Why not break up and then flirt. Lots of people already could deem that emotional-cheating.

To answer your question, after two years in my relationship, I still feel so loved & full of love for my partner. Some other couples I know have also passed the 2 year mark.

[Anonymous]

my sister believes in this 2 year "curse" thing. I really don't know. It depends on the people I suppose because there are a lot of people who date longer than 2 years and make or or don't make it.

[OlderAndWiser]

There is SO MUCH wrong here!

“She says she just doesn’t feel in love like when the relationship first started. . ..” Really? After having a baby with this guy, it still doesn’t feel like their first date? Is she sure? Who would have ever expected this?

“. . . so she figures its time to end the relationship once she starts to feel restless.” Why stay and try to work on problems when y ou can just walk away? Your baby really didn’t need heir daddy, anyway!

“She has a baby with the guy she’s with right now” Why, oh why, of why did she have a baby if she can’t make a relationship last? This is Fifty Shades Of Stupid!

“she wants out and is starting to flirt with other guys” Well, that will certainly speed up the process, won’t it!

“Are there any Girls/Guys that also feel this way and why do you feel like this?” Maybe everyone doesn’t hit the wall at 2 years, but every relationship can get routine and boring if you allow that to happen. The novelty wears off and then IT’S UP TO YOU TWO TO MAKE IT WORK! Yes, relationships require work and if you aren’t willing to put in the effort, you can keep bouncing from one to another until you either stay with somebody – anybody – because it’s better than being alone, or you can let yourself go until you can’t attract anything that’s alive and worth having.

[FakeName123]

The initial honeymoon-phase lasts up to 2 years. Essentially your friend isn't in love, but has an infatuation and once it fades off she jumps to the next guy giving her that feeling. Major red-flag as a potential partner, but also as a friend. So be careful.

[RawIronhide]

Guys at least use a 2 year rule to let the other person show their true colors. It's not a curse, thats just on adverage how long it takes for people to get real. I learned this like many other men from my father so i bet its a long standing rule.

[0112358]

Honeymoon phase is often over st that point.

But sometimes it sustains long term.

But it seems like she’s unhappy with the post honeymoon relationships.

Children complicate things.

[snackeyg]

I'll take your curse. You can have my no relationship curse. lol