I dated this guy for a while and I was very fond of him. He seemed the same as he broke out the L word before me. Everything was going great then he decided we should break up.
I accepted it and when he asked if we could be friends I told him to talk to me later. well, he did but I told him that I wasn't ready and that I'd contact him. A few months go by and I didn't call because I didn't want to be just friends. I wasn't going to settle.
That's when he started texting me randomly about things I like and inviting me places. I steadfastly ignored all of these, but I am human, and eventually broke down and went to lunch. He brought up the break up and continued to say that he wanted to hang out and do things, but he mentioned nothing about getting back together. Needless to say that after that I still wasn't interested. We parted ways and he still continued to contact me about once a week, he even showed up at my work but didn't speak to me.
Finally, I had enough of be strung along and when he invited me somewhere via text - which is the only way he's been contacting me - I responded with "Listen, I am not in the position to be your friend. Do not contact me." I did this in hopes that it would make him man up and tell me what his intentions were, but now I'm feeling that maybe he was trying to get back together before and didn't know how to tell me? I guess it's too late to do anything about it, but I was just wondering how y'all would respond to that?
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Osho Quotes on Friendship
1. Friendship is possible between equal human beings, totally free from all bondage of society, culture, civilization, only living true to their authentic nature.
2. Only individuals can relate; personalities cannot. Personalities are like shadows. They cannot meet, they cannot merge, because they don’t exist. Personalities are fake. That’s why in the whole world people are talking of love, but there is no love. They are talking of friendship, but there is no friendship — even talking of trust. But for that a tremendously powerful individuality is needed. Personalities cannot trust; they are always afraid — afraid that their reality may be exposed, may be known.
3. Friendship can turn into enmity, and enmity can become friendship. You all know — happiness can turn into sadness, and sadness can change into happiness. Although they are polar opposites, they are almost like twins, very close. Just a slight change in circumstances and one disappears …the other was just behind it. So remember the transcendent — existence belongs to the transcendental. Don’t divide it; otherwise you will be continuously tortured by the duality.
4. In this ambitious world, friendship cannot bloom, love is almost impossible, compassion cannot exist. We have created such an ugly mess, and the root is that we think that there is something to achieve.
5. A man who seeks friendship, love, companionship, out of loneliness is not going to find it. In fact, with whomsoever he will associate he will feel cheated and he will make the other feel cheated. He will feel tired and bored, and he will make the other feel tired and bored. He will feel sucked and he will make the other feel sucked, because both will be sucking on each other’s energies. And they don’t have much in the first place. Their streams are running very thin; they are like summer streams in a desertland. You cannot take any water out of them. But if you seek friendship and love and companionship out of aloneness, you are a flooded river, a river in the rains. You can share as much as you want. And the more you share, the more you will have.
6. The proverb is: A friend in need is a friend indeed. But deep down that is greed! That is not friendship, that is not love. You want to use the other as a means, and no man is a means, every man is an end unto himself. Why are you so worried about who is a real friend?
7. The real question has to be: Am I friendly to people? Do you know what friendship is? It is the highest form of love. In love, some lust is bound to be there; in friendship, all lust disappears. In friendship nothing gross remains; it becomes absolutely subtle.
8. Friendship is absolutely human. It has something for which there is no inbuilt mechanism in your biology; it is nonbiological. Hence one rises in friendship, one does not fall in friendship. It has a spiritual dimension.
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