My girlfriend dumped me 3 weeks ago. I handled the break up well (no begging or pleading). Since then I've maintained little to no contact. Yesterday she asked if we could be friends again cus it sucks not talking. I want her back soooo bad so I asked her what her intentions are by being friends. Basically she said she still has feelings for me but she needs more time to decide what she wants. So I said I think it's best we not talk for now.
Did I do the right thing? I've basically shut her up until she makes up her mind... which may be no relationship :( I feel like I should have told her I need to think. And then I could text her in like a week and start rebuilding the attraction on my terms. How is she gonna decide she wants to date me again if we're not talking? Did I just totally screw this up? Girls I really need your input on this one...
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It is totally understandable you not wanting contact after she dumped you as it's like rubbing salt in the wound. I'd say she probably missed you after you broke up so that is why she said she still has feelings for you - however I would expect that if she was unhappy she would have discussed it with you before dumping you. I usually think long and hard about what I want before breaking up with someone. If you still really care about her, you could wait a few days and then contact her for a coffee and a chat - then you can tell her how you feel - that you still want her back and so can't just be friends and you could ask how she feels now after a break, ask her what went wrong. After that, if she still just wants the friendship then you dont want to be strung along - I mean how would you feel a month from now if she gets a boyfriend and as a friend you are supposed to be happy for her.0
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