Okay so it has been just over 2 months since my ex broke up with me. We have only spoken about 3-4 times since then. I asked him about having his belongings returned and he told me he was interested in getting them back and he would be in touch. That was now about 3 or 4 weeks ago. He has not gotten back to me about having his things returned. The other thing is, he still has my stuff, but I don't think he realizes it. What should I do? Just wait? I don't want to be the one nagging.
Truth be told, I want him to be the one initiating contact with me because I feel like I have already made my attempt to return his stuff. He just hasn't gotten back to me about it. I also don't want it to look like I am "needy" or using this as an excuse to see him.
I also still have strong feelings for him, but I am trying my best to get over him, even though a large part of me wants us to be back together.
Truth be told, I want him to be the one initiating contact with me because I feel like I have already made my attempt to return his stuff. He just hasn't gotten back to me about it. I also don't want it to look like I am "needy" or using this as an excuse to see him.
I also still have strong feelings for him, but I am trying my best to get over him, even though a large part of me wants us to be back together.
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I have another question. Guys, if your ex asked you about picking up your belongings and you did want them back, what would be your thoughts? Would you pick them up immediately or would you take your time, and why?
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Oh and there is one other thing I forgot to mention. The things he has of mine is a CD and a necklace he gave me once as a gift. It is weird to ask for these things back?
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He probably doesn't want to see you. And doesn't really care about his stuff. If the guy still cared or wanted to see you and stuff, he would come over and get his stuff back in a heart beat. As an excuse to see you. You wouldn't have to contact him so much about it.
But then he could also be using this as a way to see you again soon. Like, a way of telling you "itz not really really really over, yet".
As it sounds though in your situation, I think he just doesn't care.
I would pack all his stuff, put it in a box, and put it aside. If you can contact one of his friends to pick it up, then do so. Or you can drop it off at his place, at a time when you know he won't be home.
As for your stuff, do you really want the necklace back? ANd the CD, can't you just get a new one?
Coz it sounds like you won't be getting those back, anytime soon. If you really want it back, then ask one of his friends to get it for you. or one of your friends to get it from him.
Contacting him too much will make him think you are still stuck on him, and can't move on.
Yeah that's true. I have only contacted him once about getting his stuff though and it seemed like he really wanted them, but I guess not.
my ex did this to me, he had my stuff and even though we arranged to meet up he never turned up.
He's doing it because he still likes you. he sees the way of getting his stuff as final.
my ex admitted this to me after a few months of me asking for my stuff back.
the exchanging of stuff at the end of the relationship is the final step, and it seems he's not ready for this to happen yet.
I'd send him a text telling him he had so many weeks or a time for him to get his stuff, and then tell him if he doesn't get it before then you'll give it away, or ask him fi he wants a friend to get it.
The thought of seeing you again would be upseting to him if he hasn't seen you since.
I'm not sure how much of this gets into legalities ask him one more time to pick up his stuff or if he wants you to pack up his stuff and tell him that it will be outside your door this weekend or next. If he doesn't pick it up by (you pick a date) then it's going in the garbage.
We all have strong feeling for our ex's but (I keep telling myself this since late March) unfortunately it's just over.
(save a copy of the e mail so you have proof)
Yes I would pick up my belongings right away if I wanted them.
As far as the CD & necklace is it really worth you asking for it? Can you just let it go?