Sharing in marriage?

[Willowww]

Isn't it absurd and unfair for couples to have a shared financial budget? After all, it's impossible to predict who will consume how much, and it's impossible for food products to be consumed equally. For example, I want to eat steak tonight, but my partner wants baked broccoli. Which one should be made? And a more important question is, who will cook the meals? Should I double the cost and cook for my partner just because I want steak today? I think the solution to all these problems is that everyone should live individually, decide what they want to eat, buy that item from the market, cook it just for themselves, and not care about what their partner is doing. This way, no one will be spending money on the other, and everyone can eat what they want, when they want. After all, money and time are valuable, and I can't spend them on someone else, even if it's my partner. I ask those who are married, how do you solve these problems? Who cooks the meals, and who buys the ingredients? If you do it jointly, don't you think it's very unfair?

[DishLady]

Shared budget is in tender to be a reasonable thing for staples (rent, utilities, etc etc etc). I hate when couples get all OCD about parsing out how many blueberries one has had over the other as if they’re going Dutch on a friends-only date….. Be reasonable….


Select things like personal grooming products should be covered individually unless it’s something being gifted for a birthday/ anniversary/ etc.


Anything for the home should be discussed first, especially if it’s a major purchase or service, and split accordingly.


Don’t go crazy over nonsense.

[Bebo_23]

I agree with this

[DishLady]

(Though it should be *intended. Apologies for the typo.)

[kylee2437]

Or how about realize in a relationship that involves another person, you won’t equally always get your way. A relationship where you feel like you need to always be equal to your partner, sounds absolutely boring, inauthentic and sounds like you don’t like seeing your partner happy in a sense of doing things that may not be equal because you love them

[AI Opinion]

Oh, darling, let's dial down the "every man for himself" vibe and sprinkle a bit of love and compromise into the mix! In marriage, sharing and blending your lives (including finances) is like the ultimate love ballet. It’s not about tallying who ate what but creating an atmosphere where both of you can dance to the same tune, even if one of you is jiving to steak rhythms and the other is swaying to the beats of broccoli.

The whole point of being in a partnership is the give-and-take, the ebb and flow, the sharing of life’s steak-and-broccoli moments. If tonight you're all about that steak life and your partner is vibing with broccoli, here's a thought: make both! Share the cost and the cooking. Tomorrow, they might crave something you’re not keen on, and that’s okay. It’s about compromise, supporting each stunningly unique whim of your partner, and finding joy in those differences.

Consider this: the time and money you "spend" on your partner are actually investments in your relationship, creating a rich tapestry of shared experiences. 🥩💚 So, who cooks? Whoever feels the culinary inspiration! Who buys? Take turns or go shopping together—it can be a quirky date! Married life is about blending your beats and finding your rhythm together. Don't let dollars and cents cloud the beauty of shared dishes and shared moments. Trust me, the richest meals are the ones flavored with love and a dash of compromise.

[Sunnysunny123]

I wouldn't say that you are in a relationship, i would say you are just random roommates. Marriage is about two people becoming one family and family shares and does everything for the family members. If you want steak and she wants veggies cook steak with steamed veggies. Cook together if you both have the energy, maybe if she is feeling very tired today you cook, maybe tomorrow you feel very tired so she cooks for you. It's about doing stuff for the people you live just. Ecause you want to do it not because you expect something in return.

I would never want to be with a person like you not even in a relationship let alone marriage. You have separate accounts and one joint for bills, saving for holidays etc.

[Willowww]

Nobody will like me anyway. I have never had a girlfriend before and i am 20

[PeachyPie93]

Lmao if you can't think of your partner as someone you want to do things for and with then just stay single. Relationships have no room for selfishness.

[Willowww]

Nobody will like me amyway. İ have never had a girlfriend before

[PeachyPie93]

Well with that mind set it will be hard for it to happen.

[HelpfulWoman]

so stay single. most now will also stay with their own accounts, and then have one that they put in money for bills with. food budget isn't actually too hard to work out. you can both just take whatever you spend on your own groceries pre-sharing budget, and simply add them together.

[Bebo_23]

If you guys are married I think it’s reasonable to share. After all y’all are married and not strangers where you pinpoint every spending the other person did.. Caring and sharing it’s important and especially if y’all living together I think it’s reasonable and fair. Otherwise stay single yk?

[Willowww]

Nobody will like me anyway

[Anonymous]

This post is absurd!