So I recently contacted my ex and we hooked up after 6 months. We have done this before, off and on, since he broke up with me in March. It seems after we get together and spend time together, he'll "disappear" and never keep in touch. But after a few months, he'll become more open with me, like answering texts, and phone calls, and ultimately wants to hang out. I have always kept the line of communication open with him, and have always respected his space. I've read about this behavior and I'm beginning to wonder if this is how he deals with how he really feels about me. If he's confused about his feelings for me.
Has anyone done this with their exes, or has anyone experienced this type of withdrawal with their exes after spending time with them? I would think if you were completely over them and have moved on, you wouldn't be doing this. Am I right? I would appreciate your views on this!
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Hey doll, thanks for sharing. OK first & foremost, this type of behavior is called the "revolving door complex". You keep going round & round & never really get anywhere. This type of behavior can be so damaging. I've never seen a couple have this type of relationship & then all of a sudden the couple gets things right & learn how to be together the correct way. This type of behavior usually causes the relationship to be destroyed beyond repair. Reason being, you never really learn how to be together. You only learn how to be apart. I can almost guarantee with 100% certainty that he is the one who continuously leaves the relationship. Men often times do this when they're not ready to commit to anyone seriously. If you don't want to see yourself in this sort of situation forever, you need to break it off. Don't allow someone to pull you down emotionally and use you as a security blanket. Someone who truly wants you, will be there consistently, not as a convenience. Always remember that you deserve whatever it is that you desire in your life. But you teach a person how to treat you. If he feels that you will always be there, he will continue to behave in this manner. Put your foot down & demand the best from whomever you deal with. And always remember that the triangle between your legs is a goldmine & is not to ran in & out of when someone else decides they want it. Elevate yourself to the throne you deserve & I can guarantee that you'll start attracting the type of guy that walks through the door & stays. Good luck doll! :)1