Broke up with girl through a long emotional text, but she just replied with "okay." What does that mean?

[JayVanz]

This girl and I had been talking for over a month and we seemed to get along really well and we were progressing pretty fast. She first asked me out at the gym we both work at now currently and she would talk to two mutual friends of ours and ask them about me and that's how we started talking. I've been there for her and she would be a little bit supportive of me but it did seem to kind of be about her a little bit more. I didn't spend hundreds of dollars on her or anything. We would talk like any other couple would just without the title because she wasn't ready to get into a relationship and deep down neither was I. I know she really cared about me cuz she would tell me how much she would miss me through the day and sent me things that would make me feel like she really cared. I almost broke up with her one time because she plan to move a way to study abroad but she stopped me from doing it but one thing that struck me as odd was that she said that her parents were coming that weekend and didn't want the weekend to be ruined by us breaking up. I really like this girl but a few days ago she just stopped talking to me the same out of the blue and my friend thinks that she just lost interest. She bailed on something she had been wanting to go to all week and intern went to two parties up in Chico the nights prior so she said she was worn out. At work she's very short with me so yesterday I broke up with her through a text cuz she didn't want to meet me in person. I just flat out told her that I still cared about her, told her how much she meant to me, and give specific examples, but I thought that it would be best we don't continue being together. To wish she replies "okay.." I asked one of my female friends what that could mean and she said that she would say that to a guy if she just didn't care. Is she right or could this mean something else? This is just a very confusing situation.

Updates

+1 y

She tried to avoid me. I tried to meet up with her in person to talk but she just wanted me to just text her instead. She didn't want to confront it. The only other options were to show up after she got off work unannounced out show up at her house and I'm not a stalker.

Updates

+1 y

Thank you to all who replied, good and bad comments are welcomed. My history of dating has been the same and when face with my problem I was told numerous things and maybe it was cowardice and manipulative to just break up with her through a text and to see what she says, but emotionally I was breaking down and I was having a hard time eating and sleeping. And those are things that make me human but those are also things that I shouldn't have to do when I'm with someone. I'll learn from this. TY

[Lish89]

Jay,
Can I asked what you were hoping to happen? Were you trying to get a reaction? Were you really wanting to break up with her? Were you hoping she would give you some sort of reaction? I can understanding breaking up with her over a text if she wasn't being cooperative, sometimes you just gotta do things the tough way and while you have the courage to do so. It wasn't classy and it definitely was a little cowardly but you guys were together for a month and maybe had what like four dates? If you had done this after a year, I would straight up say it was a jackass move, but I get it and ignore the comments about it. You learn and move on. Personally, I think you were hoping to see how she really felt. You had your doubts about the relationship and you played this game to gain a reaction, hoping she cared enough to talk to you. I get it... and anyone on here who hasn't done something stupid to get someone's attention is lying. We've all done it at one point to get some sort of reassurance.. wether it's in a relationship, a job or with our parents. It happens. Move on gracefully as her response shows a lack of genuine affection for you. Don't let it bruise your ego, which is what I think is really bugging you Hun.

[JayVanz]

I don't know what I expected. I just couldn't believe she just lost interest so easily. As today had progressed it's been easier. I really appreciate your comment. Thank you very much

[little_bird1]

Seems to me you didn't really wanted to breakup, you just wanted her attention and to see her reaction. You were kind of bluffing in hope she changes by being threatened by a breakup. And that being a dumper you secured you threw a ball in her court so that she might realize "what she lost" and come back.
If you were really done with her you wouldn't be here talking and sulking about it and you certainly wouldn't care about "okay".
Honestly, if you just wanted her to change you should've talk to her about it. Instead of sending her a breakup text, you should've just tell send her a text that you'd like to talk and let her get back to you when she's free. And nothing more. No texting, no calling in between, just wait to see her. And then talk. And if she never got back to you then you'd know your answer... that she ghosted you. Your breakup text was unnecessary. And silence is a clear answer sometimes; if they don't get back to you then consider the relationship done.

[JayVanz]

Thank you for this, your response gave me a new perspective on this.

[SouthernGirl23]

Exactly.. now she's probably not going to deal with him again. sending threats by dumping someone through text was completely childish. good for her not giving him the reaction he wanted.

[Benedek38]

1) I just love how you make it out like he had evil. intentions of threatening her... it's perfectly natural to ask someone a yes or no question when that thing greatly affects your life. It's not threatening - if she wants to be together, she understands that something isn't right, and might want to correct it. If she wasn't into him, he has an option to get out without any problem.

Him doingnit through text was perfectlx justified by her ghosting him and leading him on. In all honesty, SHE wanted to break up, and manipulated him into asking for it, because she was too much of a coward.

[JayVanz]

@SouthernGirl23 I was more than justified for the actions I took. I spent nights being supportive and trying to be the guy I thought she needed. What would you have suggested if the person you want to talk things over with doesn't want to face you in person. It means they either don't want to face the problems or it's not worth her time. It take a pretty bold person to say I was making a threat by doing what was best for me. I do miss her, but after all of these responses I've received, maybe it was just an act. I'll never know. I have to live with it just as she does. Also, I should mention, there wasn't a reaction I was looking for, but I would have thought she cared enough to say more than "okay.." Have a good night/morning ma'am.

[SouthernGirl23]

Welp that's why you should never break up via text. the mature route wouldve been face to face. that way based on her reaction , body language, and facial expression you wouldve known. but u chose to be childish sooo.😎

[Benedek38]

@SouthernGirl23 Are you retarded? He literally said she refused to meet in person.

[SouthernGirl23]

@Benedek38 not as retarded as your mom

[SouthernGirl23]

@bene stop stalking. blocked

[Benedek38]

@SouthernGirl23 pathetic.

[SouthernGirl23]

@Jay if she ghosted you why go out your way to try and dump her when you were obviously already dumped? you tried to make yourself feel good by acting as if you rejected her yet she basically

[SouthernGirl23]

Showed you from day one that she wasn't interested. doesn't even sound like you two were dating. seems like that was in your head

[Benedek38]

@SouthernGirl23 Sounds like you simply can't admit that she was a scumbag. Laughable.

[little_bird1]

But in all honesty, "okay goodbye" is what I would say too, to anyone who dumps me. When I was younger I used to seek for closure and answers but now I understand that it doesn't matter why. I take it they already thought carefully and when they decided to end it it means they are done and there is nothing I can do or say about it that would change things. If they decided to dump me then that means that they coulnd't find a solution and ending is what they want, otherwise they would sit down and talk to me about what troubles them, they wouldn't throw a breakup ball just like that. It's like when someone tells you that someone they l9ved died, there is nothing you can say excep "my condolences". So in my opinion her"okay" was totally justified.

[SouthernGirl23]

@little_bird1 girl yasss 👏👏👏. I totally agree with u. if it's over it's over. Why try and change someones mind. they dump me I'd say the same thing. Like ok bye lol. he wanted her to cry and beg but she was way too smart and mature to do that. so now he feeling salty

[Benedek38]

" I take it they already thought carefully and when they decided to end it it means they are done and there is nothing I can do or say about it that would change things."
Except than's not what happenes. The girl ghosted the guy. He had no idea what's up. He asked for a breakup because he was desperate for input from the girl.

"otherwise they would sit down and talk to me about what troubles them"
Yeah, OP tried doing that, but the girl didn't want to meet up. Do you people seriously not know how to read?

"So in my opinion her"okay" was totally justified."
The okay might have been justified. Ghosting a boy and refusing to meet up wasn't. The guy isn't an asshole for demanding explanation.

[Benedek38]

@SouthernGirl23 "he wanted her to cry and beg"
Bitch do you even read?

[SouthernGirl23]

@Benedek I told you stop stalking me. now I'm going to tell your 2inch uncircumcised dick secret. thats why you can't get or keep a girlfriend. i blame your mom for your erectile dysfunction and small dick. she's the bitch that fucked you up. again tfoh

[SouthernGirl23]

@Benedek little boy I will break your ego, your soul, and your spirit. now your secrets out. fuck off before I post your dick to the world and tag u in the post

[Benedek38]

@SouthernGirl23

1) This is a public discussion. You don't like it, you are free to leave.

2) Actually I do have a girlfriend, but whatever hun. I know you wanted my penis so bad, so it must hurt a bit ;-P

[Benedek38]

@SouthernGirl23 And who are you calling a little boy? You're no older than me. And I wouldn't touch a crazy bitch like you with a ten feet pole, much less my dick, so I don't know why you think you have seen it. Must be confusing it with the hobo you gave head last night.

[SouthernGirl23]

@Benedek if you had a girlfriend you wouldn't be spending time stalking me little dick.😂 fuck off and stalk someone else

[SouthernGirl23]

@Benedek you act just like a little boy and have a baby sized penis. you can't accept the fact no one agrees with you, you're bitter and lonely, and a troll. you have no friends, no one loves nor acknowledges you here nor in your waking life. drink bleach. you're not it.

[SouthernGirl23]

@Benedek again leave people the fuck alone.

[Benedek38]

@SouthernGirl23 Your words are empty and meaningless to me. You are the one in the wrong here, and you are digging your own grave deeper and deeper.

[SouthernGirl23]

@Benedek yet you're still stalking me 🙄🙄🤨

[Benedek38]

@SouthernGirl23 This is an open thread. I could just ad well say you are stalking me.

[SouthernGirl23]

Still stalking 🙄🙄😆

[little_bird1]

@Benedek38 Yeah I agree her ghosting him was pathetic, I'm not justifying that. And I'm not blaming it for doing it over text, just saying that it was unnecessary since she already dumped him by ghosting him. But I get it, he needed closure and that's okay. I'm just saying that her "okay" was an alright reply too. Overall, I think they both did a very immature thing (her by ghosting and him by sending that breakup text).

[On_the_other_hand]

I sometimes say that to girls and it pisses them off bc they were expecting a detailed or emotional response. Whatever they said made me feel like they were either playing a game, which I'm not willing to play or there is a dead end and no where to go with what they said. I see it as they chose message me something negative instead of expressing ways of finding a solution. I've learned in my years to not be the one sided optimist in a relationship with someone who has sent me some doom and gloom text. Because sometimes they are looking to entertain themselves with watching you try to make it work... and manipulating you... homie don't play that. That is when I send "Ok." And I seriously mean OK... life is too short to be playing kids games.

[Nicebutnotlast]

I’d say, with whatever else is going on in her life and then you breaking up with her, she was overwhelmed and didn’t have anything to say because what is there to say when everything is falling apart? At least that’s how I’m assuming she’s probably feeling. That doesn’t mean you should stay to try to help her or anything. If the relationship is unhealthy for you, then you gotta get out of it because it’s going to be bad for both of you. But as far as the response “okay” to me that sounds like pure resignedness. As in, “okay. Of course that happened. Because everything is falling apart.” Etc.

[JayVanz]

I very much appreciate your response. I also appreciate you actually stepping into her shoes so I can look at it from a different angle. Not a lot of these thoughts are the same that people have (a lot being good), but they're helping me to better understand in case things work out between us or not. It was hard for me to be with her cuz there was complications, but I think I did what was best for me and that's all I really can do.

[depeche2015]

People are saying she didn't care or love you.. well in my opinion she did. She put "okay..." Which means she's sad. She thought you were progressing into something more. She's probably a little disappointed cause she thought you liked her more than that. I went through the same thing. Where I thought we'd be more than he just said he wasn't into me like that anymore, which disappointed me and hurt cause I liked him. When a girl puts multiple dots at th end of of her text or sentence online it usually means she's sad or bothered by something. Same thing goes for guys. It's an internet thing. Sounds like a sad sigh.. "okay.."

[ImagineSketchy]

Yeah. 1 period = sentence ending. 2 periods = typo. 3 periods = to be continued... 4 periods = a little aggressive. 5 periods = there is more but I can't quite say it right now.

[gigaguy]

From what you said I feel like you didn't even get a relationship to break up

[Engageme]

It could be her response in trying not to care. Pride. Like fine whatever. To me when I feel like there is nothing I can do, I'd say ok to pretend it didn't bother me. Doesn't mean it doesn't. However, the rest of what you describe sounds to me like maybe she wasn't invested to begin with. Maybe she could have been but was holding back for some reason.

[vishna]

She isn't feeling the relationship. You guys aren't meant to be. You just started talking a month ago, never turn down great opportunities for someone you just met. Also, breaking up with text isn't ideal but I can see why you did it considering she didn't want to meet in person.

[Anonymous]

"Freiburger
You broke up with her, so how she feels isn't your problem. She's relying on her friends for emotional support - not you. Move on.

Also: don't break up over text."

this dude is correct. you broke up with her and you expect her to come running after you? when you break up with someone you make that choice for you and your own sanity. not to get a reaction out of the other person. grow up dude

[SouthernGirl23]

Yasss girl

[Syrian_survivor]

He wants to see if she's okay, he said he still cared about her

Don't assume bad things : most guys aren't manipulative or attention whores, they're just direct

[SouthernGirl23]

@syrian dude he broke up with her. he's just mad bc he didn't get a reaction out of her. he needs to just move on. she respected his decision. The end.

[Opinion Owner]

@Syrian_survivor Don't say most guys aren't manipulative to someone who recently got out of an abusive relationship. it's not your fault since you didn't know but you have a lot to learn yet being 17 and all.
women and men can both be evil.
though what does he expect to happen when he breaks up with someone. if he expects a response every time he breaks up with someone you got to ask why. why does he seek validation when he did the ending. She's either going to be upset or not care, he should allow her the space to move on.

[SouthernGirl23]

@Opinion owner he's 17 so he has no experience at all.. exactly, he sounds manipulative and wants her to beg. she didn't beg or cry

[Opinion Owner]

@SouthernGirl23 A lot of people these days think they know everything, once upon a time i thought i couldn't know anymore till i met my ex (covert narcissist/sociopath)
dumping a girl only to seek out a reaction is not healthy in the long run.
seems like you have your head on straight and staying that way will help you too. ^_^ x

[SouthernGirl23]

@op I went through the same think dated a sociopathic narc. they do the dumping crap for attention.

[SouthernGirl23]

@op he didn't realize he met the wrong one 🤣😂.

[Syrian_survivor]

Can you not assume? He broke up with her because he saw she wasn't that fitting for him, so he decided to end it before it got any bigger so neither of them get too hurt

We guys don't do that petty shit; break up with a girl so we see her reaction to feel wanted unless we're desperate or crazy, and this guy doesn't sound crazy at all, he just wants to make sure he didn't hurt a person he cared about, we have hearts too you know, we're not savage beasts who just wanna fuck and break hearts

He said he cared about her, so like this you're calling him a liar. whatever he's hiding, it's none of your business to assume it, answer the question asked or just leave, don't force your feminist theories down our throats

I don't give a shit if you just got out of an abusive relationship, I've been with the worst manipulative girls who were around your age (19-23 yo) who were more childish than the youngest girls I know, but I'm not gonna assume all girls are like them

[SouthernGirl23]

@syrian boy bye. if he broke up with her why post this nonsense? move tf on and be happy. you dont know crap and you sound like a walking contradictory." Men dont like drama." Ok then move on bye. she said ok leave her alone

[Syrian_survivor]

Smfh HE WANTS TO MAKE SURE SHE'S OKAY
Get it through your fucking skull

Guys like me and him, better than your insensitive ass, can't be happy if they realized or thought they hurt a person, our hearts don't allow it
I did that to my ex even though she told me to fucking kill myself, she was depressed a month after the break up and I texted her to make her feel better

[Syrian_survivor]

Girls like you force guys to be utter douches good god

[Opinion Owner]

@Syrian_survivor i think you best just keep your opinions to yourself because you are not actually giving a damn about anyone else's point of view but your own. bringing feminism into it too? good luck in life kiddo xD

[SouthernGirl23]

@op girrrl he so stoopid 🤣🤣😂😂😆

[SouthernGirl23]

@op girl follow me. you seem cool af

[Opinion Owner]

@Syrian_survivor I stopped taking you serious after you mentioned feminism. the way you word things, seems like you are a misogynist in the making.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E7NdrkKD8Vk this might be of use to you. Namaste

@SouthernGirl23 haha will do ^_^ x

[SouthernGirl23]

Yeah girl he stoopid. ill follow u back

[xkildy]

Ok so I read most of the comments. the thing is once you decide you don't want to be together you lose the right to care about her well being. you made the choice you did not care and was being selfish. then after you push her away you have the balls to try and speak with her and even ambush her at work... Dude your sick make up your mind if you want her or not.. Of course she's does not want to talk of course she's avoiding you quit trying to be nice to her its killing her faster then you could ever do by using words..

[FragileSnowflake]

These girls aren't making any sense, they don't even know how to spell stupid
@Syrian_survivor just cut it out and leave them to their childish bullshit, girls like these just close their minds after 18 and don't listen to anyone but themselves, fucking illogical I swear sometimes I hate my gender 😂😂😂

[SouthernGirl23]

@Fragile matches your fragile little ego."stoopid" is 6six9nine saying. girl get hip get some friends so you can know what's up. third, work on your grammar and proper punctuation markers. Run on sentences aren't sexy

[SouthernGirl23]

@xkildy exactly!! spoken from the words of a grown , mature yet experienced man.

[FragileSnowflake]

@SouthernGirl23
Wow a girl who listens to 6six9nine is attempting to make sense, that's funny 😂

You lost the argument the second you focus on his personal information, calling out his age means you don't have enough info to support your own argument, so you go for his young age to support it which is completely irrelevant, therefore you just lost it, good job dumbfuck 😘 and stop talking you're making me lose brain cells with each letter

[SouthernGirl23]

@Fragile wow a 19 year old virgin retard reject who has no friends. She hates girls because she's too ugly to have girlfriends and can't fit in.. aaahhh the good life drink bleach no one will miss you..

[SouthernGirl23]

@Fragile aww you're offended. 😫🤣

[FragileSnowflake]

@SoutherGirl23
Thank you, you just gave me even more reason to treat you like a child 😘
Suicidal slurs huh? That's really mature and productive of you 😂 literally all kids online do that when they're mad and have nothing to say
Even though I don't need to prove anything to you, I have friends everywhere and a boyfriend who adores me to death like I do to him, and we're getting married as soon as possible

You're also making me feel even better the more I talk to you, knowing how more intelligent I can be than a butter-faced bitch who shows her pussy online to get some attention to boost her self-esteem even though she's 4 years older than me
At least I can feel confident without shoving my tits into people's faces
It's pathetic yet hilarious 😂

Keep it up kid, I'm listening 👀❤

[SouthernGirl23]

Woo Chile she writing novels that I refuse to read. too much time on your hands. bye and blocked

[SouthernGirl23]

can't entertain losers

[Opinion Owner]

@FragileSnowflake spoken like a true idiot. thank you for showing us the face of stupid hehe <3

[Opinion Owner]

@@FragileSnowflake https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E7NdrkKD8Vk this may help you but i doubt it. the stupid in you has sunk in pretty deep. so much so i think you need an exorcism. perfect day for it ;)

[Opinion Owner]

i love that video. and i love sharing it with idiots i really do i feel honoured, feel like i am helping the community a bit hahaha xD @SouthernGirl23

[SouthernGirl23]

@op 🤣🤣😂😂😂👏

[FragileSnowflake]

Sry pink Anon but I don't talk to pussies who hide behind anonymous, try again later hun when you have the guts to speak as an actualy profile 😘
Oh, and keep that video for yourself, you need it a LOT more ❤

[FragileSnowflake]

@SouthernGirl23 aww that's too bad
Guess it's time for you to entertain thirsty boys on cam huh? 🤣

[xkildy]

@FragileSnowflake CATFIGHT , thank you ! . ladies , both you of have a great day

[Syrian_survivor]

@SouthernGirl23

Lmao drink bleach? Seriously?
You're hopeless hun hahaha, you must have a really hard life xD
Anyway I've got better things to do than talk with uneducated close-minded cunts like you, fuck off, eat a dick, and get off my fucking feed
You give such a bad image to women, blocked.

[Syrian_survivor]

@xkildy bro I understand that, but that's not the issue here

You're saying he's too nice to an extent where it's bad and hurts the girl, and that's right, I didn't say what he's doing wasn't wrong, he should just leave her be to heal up

But they're accusing him of being a lying desperate fuckboy, that's why I'm defending him, he sounds too good to be that

[xkildy]

@Syrian_survivor I will have to go back on what i said but I think you may have clicked the wrong reply button <3

[Syrian_survivor]

What does that even mean?

[xkildy]

@Syrian_survivor I did not say any of that , All I said was CATFight... and have a good day. So when i said i think you hit the wrong reply button. That's self explanatory..

[Syrian_survivor]

@xkildy I was replying to your first comment

[xkildy]

@Syrian_survivor Got ya , no worries

[Opinion Owner]

@FragileSnowflake I'm a pussy why? because i choose not to stoop to your level and instead give you some helpful info? fine, i won't help you again ^_^ spoil sport.

[SouthernGirl23]

@op 🤣🤣😂 that girl is just as fragile as her name

[Opinion Owner]

@SouthernGirl23 I know right lol she's hurling insults at us because we gave the guy some legit advice. you ask a question you get answers that's the way it works. I think she got that offended because she likes to get a reaction from the guys she breaks up with lol if he ain't crying she ain't happy.
also happy Halloween! lol x

[SouthernGirl23]

🤣🤣😂😂. same to you happy Halloween

[Syrian_survivor]

Fragile says eat a dick both of you lmao

[Opinion Owner]

@Syrian_survivor what's bad about eating dick exactly? but sure we should listen to the 19 yr old who claims to be better than us @SouthernGirl23.
DICK PARTY!! alls welcome xD

[Syrian_survivor]

Lmfao cheap whores

[Syrian_survivor]

Eat a dick means keep a dick in your mouth and stoo talking
Smh sluts are the worst

[SouthernGirl23]

🤣🤣

[Opinion Owner]

@Syrian_survivor throwing insults, classic immature move. you can always weed out the idiots if you just wait for them to show their faces.
xD this is hilarious

[coralee]

Breakups are awkward. I wouldn’t immediately jump to the conclusion that she wasn't as into it as you. Given the avoidance I would almost say she saw it coming and was attempting to delay the inevitable. Now she’s avoiding you because it’s awkward. She’ll get over it. She’s young and breakups hurt.

[Anonymous]

''I just flat out told her that I still cared about her, told her how much she meant to me, and give specific examples, but I thought that it would be best we don't continue being together. ''

Why do guys do this crap? this is feminine energy sent down a text. You don't post long winded emotional bs, you get to the point. Your problem is you care too much. Most women care about what you can provide them with, how you make them feel, or some other aspect but it's rarely about you, it's all about them.

''but emotionally I was breaking down and I was having a hard time eating and sleeping.''

You are investing too much. Did they earn this? did they prove themselves to you? or did you just go through the motions because they happened to be female?

[NearlyNapping]

I think the answer is in your update.

" She didn't want to confront it."

I think the "okay" is just easier than talking about. You can't break up with someone you weren't really in a relationship with. It's hard to judge how she feels about you, but it seems like it wasn't going anywhere. So a real relationship never developed. Maybe she just didn't want the drama of an emotional "breakup" after a little casual dating.

[courtney06]

thanks you're one of the few people who didn't leave a rude comment for this guy.

[prettynormal]

Well... I was going to say that she would be hurt and that’s was her reaction, just to avoid conflict... but after reading your explanation, most likely she just lost interest and she is literally “okay” with you guys breaking up.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you're starting to like her while she was getting ready to start meeting someone else...
One month is a really short time. It's not relationship time, it's time for dating and figuring out if it's relationship worthy. Most people don't get that involved and emotionally attached in just one month.

Still, basically you weren't meant to be and considering her coward attitude and the negative effect she was having on you, I think you did the right thing in breaking up with her.

[nofunkgiven]

U broke up with her over text. That's unacceptable unless you're in some kind of a long distance relationship where u can't do it in person. So what else did u expect her to say?

Also it doesn't seem to me she's so much into this anyway. Like u said, she's a bit self centred

[JayVanz]

It was kinda long distance and we only ever saw each other at work. She and I had an agreement to act professional around our other co-workers so I couldn't talk to her there. I also couldn't go to her apartment unannounced either so it was tricky and I just ran with my only other option.

[nofunkgiven]

I don't know then it seems she has lost interest a while ago but it's pretty hurtful to answer a message like that.
U will have to move on

[JayVanz]

Thank you, I appreciate you time in writing a response.

[xkildy]

What do you want her to say , do you want her to beg for you? do you need her approval to break up? you already thought this though right. you both made the choice to not be dating , or wait did you just ask selfish like and come up with this idea of your own. !!

[HitGirl_007]

She’s hurt and you doing through text was a doggy move what else was she supposed to say. Or she was obviously over you and doesn’t give a shot. Either way you broke it off with her so you shouldn’t care unless you we’re playing games and if you were that’s not cool.

But time to move on!

[1truekhaleesi]

Your friends explanation is right. I would only say that if I didn't care enough to fight for it. Given that communication was poor before this happened, she seemed to have already lost interest.

[sassygirl13]

You were not on the same page since the beginning or during getting to know each other she found many things that makes her loose intrest.

Move on and take it easy next time

[infp_libra_78]

Sounds like you felt the need to just be done with her? I wouldn't break up by text because as you learned... okay can mean literally anything or nothing. She didn't want to talk in the first place, so it means nothing.

Would have been better to ask just to see every, then go from there. If she never wanted to see you, after weeks, you are broken up by default- and you know she lost interest.

Unfortunately you made a power play which didn't get you any actual info.

[Ellie-V]

The real question is why do you care? You broke up with her. Move on 👀

[SouthernGirl23]

Yasss 😂🤣🤣

[Syrian_survivor]

THIS

[anametouse]

Amen. Not even religious but amen

[JayVanz]

Because I really cared about this girl when I was with her. Not everyone drops someone like that and just say "oh well, not my problem." I've had to type that out so many times now.

[anametouse]

And not everyone drops someone they care about. Don't feed us bullshit

[SouthernGirl23]

@anametpuse amen 👏👏😁

[Syrian_survivor]

@JayVanz everyone seems to be missing the point here
I'm sorry you have to go through this :/

[JayVanz]

You just proved my point. "Not everyone," suggesting that there are cases of it. I'm entitled to my statement due to the fact I was actually was going through it, and your only getting a portion of the story. Keep in mind, it's easy for people to make an assumption, but in the end, that's all you can do in this situation cause you didn't live it out like I did. I'm sorry to see that there are people that just don't take people's feelings into consideration when doing things.

[Ellie-V]

If you’re going to wash your hands of someone, do it thoroughly—otherwise don’t call it a “breakup”

[JayVanz]

And I have. I don't text her, call her, or anything. Doesn't mean she is just deleted from my mind like a file on the computer. Takes time to forgive and forget.

[anametouse]

Yes not everyone, which means you fit the minority that are assholes. Gud point

[Syrian_survivor]

@anametouse
keep assuming, see where that leads

[anametouse]

Leads to good judgement. You should try it sometime

[Syrian_survivor]

False judgement
Which is one of the major factors of war

[anametouse]

Who said we are talking about war? Calm down

[Syrian_survivor]

I'm saying how it's a bad thing on a larger scale haha

It might seem like good judgement to you

But it seems as false judgement for others because they're the ones getting misjudged

[SouthernGirl23]

@anametouse his name is "Syrian survivor " 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂

[anametouse]

@SouthernGirl23 haha I noticed that. Shouldn't be surprised he brought up war lol

[SouthernGirl23]

🤣🤣

[Syrian_survivor]

@SouthernGirl23 why are you so obsessed?
I'm trying to have a discussion but you're just there being a troll :|

[Syrian_survivor]

I'm taken so just drop your attempts 🤷

[anametouse]

Um. Finding irony in the situation isn't trolling my dude

[SouthernGirl23]

@anametouse his head is all screwed up🤦‍♂️

[anametouse]

@SouthernGirl23 must have been the war that fucked his head hahahhaha

[FragileSnowflake]

Wtf is up with people on this site

[Syrian_survivor]

@FragileSnowflake
I don't know man nobody seems to know what "civilized discussion" means
Guess this isn't the right place to find smart people to talk to

[FragileSnowflake]

@Syrian_survivor I've got your back 😊

[anametouse]

2 v 2 lets go m8

[Syrian_survivor]

@FragileSnowflake awh thank you 😄❤

[Syrian_survivor]

@anametouse
Words r pointless
Do u game?

[anametouse]

I only game with those who have good judgement

[SouthernGirl23]

@anametouse rtfol 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂lmfao. that's what I'm thinking and @Fragile got knocked in the head while with him

[FragileSnowflake]

@SouthernGirl23 you seem to have hit your head on the keyboard for using all those emojis

[Syrian_survivor]

HAHAHAHA that was amazing 👌

[SouthernGirl23]

@Fragile womp womp.. when people try to be funny and yet... fail🤣😂😫

[Syrian_survivor]

@SouthernGirl23 Eat a dick and put some clothes on you fucking whore

[anametouse]

Damn syrian. I thought you had some class with your banter... I guess not. It's like reading texts from a "nice guy" who got rejected

[FragileSnowflake]

@Syrian_survivor
Oh god, only way to talk with them right? 😂

[anametouse]

Well unlike you southerngirl isn't fragile so I doubt she would cry over this

[SouthernGirl23]

@anametouse 🤣😂 @Fragile would definitely cry. dude is nuts. sounds like he's having Syrian war flash backs😆

[SouthernGirl23]

Backs

[Syrian_survivor]

@anametouse sry bruh I'm not gonna talk classy with a girl who encourages suicide, hate, racism, sexism, and misogyny
A girl like her doesn't deserve any of my banter and should just rot and be forgotten

[Syrian_survivor]

@FragileSnowflake does tho 👀

[Ellie-V]

Damn... can you people just chill out? 😂

[anametouse]

Sure, if you say please

[Ellie-V]

Nah, I’m good.
Carry on.

[FragileSnowflake]

@Syrian_survivor
Follow me back hun, we need to PM 👀

[anametouse]

Ok cool. Syrian survivor suck my ass

[Syrian_survivor]

@FragileSnowflake sure thing ❤

[Syrian_survivor]

@anametouse k

[JayVanz]

Everyone just needs to realize that you don't have to have the last word. Your conversation/argument is not doing you any good. I appreciate for the ones sticking up for me very much, but I made this to get all sides and some aren't always going to agree with what I did and some may not even read what I actually said, but that's what I took into consideration when I wrote my question. I don't want to see anymore of this pointless bickering.

[Pizza_lover159]

You got what you wanted.. why complain now? What do you want? Her to beg you just for your ego? Probably you do. You broke it up , now leave her alone.

[Benedek38]

Oh, grow the fuck up. She bailed on him, he never had a choice. The "breaking up" was unevitable. She owes him an apology or an explanation on why the hell she suddenly lost interest.

[JayVanz]

@Benedek38 I appreciate you sticking up for me, but I disagree; she owes me nothing. Yes I miss her, and it's hard to accept after all the things she said to me led to her losing interest, but it's what happened. I'm trying to think positivly and move on. My ego is hurt, but I'd be pretty stoked if I could go through life with not feeling emotional pain.

[Benedek38]

But she DEFINITELY owes you an explanation. She lead you on, and then she dropped you. The least she can say after tricking you for a month is "sorry, it didn't work out". Wouldn't you in her situation?

I am not saying you should expect something, I am saying that's what she would do if she was a good person.

[SugarMeSweet]

@Benedek38 i didn't get an explanation to why my ex abused me. i can't FORCE him to tell me either. No one HAS to do ANYTHING for ANYONE.
it's how you chose to react to it that counts. in this case, moving on because she doesn't care enough to fight for it. it's really That simple.

[Pizza_lover159]

@benek38 you should grow the fuck up. No one has to explain nothing. If he wanted to stay with her he wouldn't text her "lets break up". What would make you feel good? Her to beg like a dog when he broke up with her over a god damn text.

[Benedek38]

@SugarMeSweet
"i didn't get an explanation to why my ex abused me."
And nobody. defends his decision. He is probably a dickhead.

" i can't FORCE him to tell me either. No one HAS to do ANYTHING for ANYONE."
Where did I say she should be forced? I said that's what good, honest people do.

You are all defending an asshole of a person (her). YOU have to grow up. And i don't give a shit about your abusive husband, don't beg for victim points. You chose to marry a dickhead.

[SugarMeSweet]

@Benedek38 i love how you tell me to grow up when you assume i married him, then say i'm begging for victim points hahahahaha xD i actually thought your response was alright up until that bit. you sir need to get that stick out of your ass because you sound fucking stupid xD

[Benedek38]

@SugarMeSweet
"i love how you tell me to grow up when you assume i married him"
I apologize, for some reason I genuinely thought I read "my ex husband". I was building on those premises. It was negligence in reading and understanding on myvpart, I didn't assume you must be married, in fact I was surprised why you are already a divorcee at 26 of age.

"then say i'm begging for victim points"
That doesn't actually contradict itself.

"i actually thought your response was alright up until that bit."
Hm... once again, I apologize. I thought the comment below yours (written by pizza_lover159) was written by you, which is a significantly less pleasant comment to read. I was once again mistaken. Sorry for that.

[SugarMeSweet]

@Benedek38 Oh god here we go, watch out people it's Mr grumpy and his obviously perfect opinions. xD the fk haha

[SugarMeSweet]

i'm not reading it if it's just to insult me because i honestly dealt with the worst possible human on the planet and he's in prison now. i don't need sympathy, i blame myself somewhat anyway without others believing so. even the most smartest of girls can't see past a sociopaths manipulation. i'm not the only one who's dealt with one. i have good support, i just use my experience to help/give others a kick up the ass. what's the harm in that?
it's why i'm done here. thanks but no thanks

[Benedek38]

@SugarMeSweet I guess that's what you get for apologizing for your mistakes... maybe read the reply next time. I never claimed to be perfect, I just admitted. that I completely. misunderstood your reply.

[medanne]

I don't think she doesn't care at all, but she definitely doesn't care as much as you do. I'm sorry; you do sound like a nice guy. Good luck... In the end, she's the one losing the most.

[FragileSnowflake]

I know right? 😍😍

[JayVanz]

I appreciate your comment. It's been a whole day now since it happened and it's helping to read these comments. I didn't want to do what I did, but I knew if I didn't it'd just be harder.

[Anonymous]

Well had this happened several months or years into dating I’d say she’s probably just unsure of how to respond and just said what she could at the time but after reading your description I can almost guarantee she just wasn’t feeling this as much as you thought she did. You just gotta dust yourself off and keep trucking my dude. This girls got other plans that just don’t include you. That’s life sometimes. Try again elsewhere.

[CassieIsTrans]

It means you done fucked up but you surprised her and he doesn't know what to say, because she likes you, but she's also a little guarded about how she feels.