Has any girl ever taken back a guy she dumped for being too clingy?

[Anonymous]

Has any girl ever taken back a guy she dumped for being too clingy. The guy realizes his mistakes and understands why the girl broke up with him. Friends say, learn from errors and don't make them on the next chick. However, if the guy really feels strongly for ex, and wants to be with her again..what shall he do? Has any girl out there taken a guy back for this. If so, what did he do.

Similarly, any guy in my position got girlfriend back after being dumped for needy/clingy/insecure..? If so how..

Thanks.

[AbsentDreams]

I think it depends on just HOW clingy, if you've shown her that you've changed, whether or not she still has feelings for you, and how much time has passed.

I had an ex who would talk to me every minute he was awake every single day and got upset if I took more than 5 minutes to text him back (even knowing that I was at work and not allowed to text to begin with). He constantly felt insecure and was putting himself down over nothing. No matter how much we love you, we CANNOT make you truly love yourself. We can only be there to reassure you that we feel how we do and how awesome we think you are. There's a psych term: self-fulfilling prophecy. It means basically the same as "Whether you think you are or you think you aren't: you're right." If you think that you're a great person, funny to be around and nice to those around you, your personality will reflect it. However, if you have a negative self-image, that is what you're projecting to those around you. I always told him this, and eventually he realized that he was the only one who put himself down. Now, he's a lot happier and more secure.

I took him back after he became aware that its just too much and showed me that he changed. He called me and I didn't answer, but he left a thoughtful voice mail saying he knew what he had been doing, he was sorry, and wanted to talk to me about it when I had some time. Like I said, I didn't answer the call, and I also didn't text back for a couple hours. Not hearing from him in that amount of time showed me maybe he did get it, maybe he did understand.

However, I still had feelings for him so it was easier to take him back. There's no way he could make me take him back if I didn't have feelings for him. Also, time was an issue for me too. Just because a guy can change his behavior for a week or two doesn't mean it will stay that way. Eventually, I did call him back and we started talking again, but didn't get back together for a few weeks. In that time he wasn't too clingy, but wasn't distant either. You can't show her you aren't clingy overnight, it takes a little time. Also, being apart, if she still cares for you, will make her miss you. I didn't miss my ex the first two weeks, but after that I missed him more and more everyday.

Hopefully, you'll find some use in this...Good luck!

[Asker]

thank you so much for your advice. its been about 3 months since break up. and half of it has been no contact. seen her around town twice. heard she had a new guy. its long distance with him. don't know if they are still together. my case wasn't as bad as your guys. Meaning not every 5 minutes, but like every hour. I can take some stuff you mentioned and maybe try to use it. thanks a lot.

[Asker]

saw her at a club tonight. and she was still with that guy :(

[turokturok5]

this is pretty insightful. After he hadn't talked to you for that long did you ever think about contacting him. You were so use to talking to him every minute of the day and he suddenly stops talking to you at all. Did this make you miss him, think maybe he HAS changed? I was meant to go to a party where she was yesterday, she knew I was going, I didn't go, she would'd expected me to because she was there, is this going to benefit me?

[InterstellarK]

AbsentDreams, I'm in a situation much like the one you described. My ex broke up with me two nights ago, and it was for reasons of clingyness and my jealousy, all stemming from my issues of insecurity. I feel like I pushed her too far with these issues and caused her to become less attracted to me and ultimately caused her to break things off. I'm devastated, but working on improving myself to figure out how to make sure this doesn't happen again. I really want your insight on how I can rekindle the relationship. We dated for nine months, but these nine months were a very intense and extremely bonding time. After only two months I had met and stayed with her parents, and after only one month we said I love you. She was very sad to break up with me but said that I am very special to her and she loves me so much and doesn't know how to not be in a relationship with me. I know because our bond was so strong that she still has feelings for me. Do I tell her what I've learned, or just wait?

[Katyperry]

I did but its not meant to be I guess,I let myself and my ex to be together again even if every time I let him he keeps on hurting me,maybe I'm fool because I let him to be my boyfriend again.. I just love him...but he always acting weird every time were in relationship...he always dump me due to shallow reason "no time for me" even if I didn't do anything,even if I'm sweet sounds weird but after dumping me 3x he keeps on sending roses etc because now he want me back again I didn't let him because I want to shield myself from pain...

[Asker]

your case is kinda different form mine. I never even thought of dumping her. I was really nice to her and genuinely cared about her. I just got insecure because she got attention from other guys and I was scared of losing her. so I became a little clingy and even needy you could say. so she said she had mixed feelings and then one day said that she doesn't feel it anymore for me and dumped me. then she got a new guy. sucks to be me I guess.

[Katyperry]

yeah kinda different sorry if I was talking abt my situation lol... but the common of it is he really don't want what he want (about the feelings) and he keeps on talking to a lot of girls and flirting with other girls etc...

In your case I understand how you feel,but its just a matter of self awareness and try to control yourself because if you're too clingy to her it means you're trying to push her away from you...just give her time if you and her are meant to be then it will be no matter what it is.

[Asker]

i know what you mean and agree..being clingy pushes someone away. I wish I could give it time and have a second chance. but the problem is that she has a new guy she's dating. infact I saw them together today. it sucked. :(

[Katyperry]

I don't know what she really feels about you,but as a girl sometimes we just... show it to our ex that we move on already when in fact deep inside were not...somewhat like that... just take a break or space or try to be friends with her or ask her if she move on already or what and tell her that you love her there's no harm in trying :))

[AbsentDreams]

Just be careful if she has a new guy. If she's just trying to prove she's over you when she isn't, then it won't hurt your case to tell her you love her, but if she does care about him it can hurt you A LOT. I will never take an ex back that tries to come between me and someone else. There's a difference between that and waiting til I realize on my own that I made a mistake. If its gonna happen, it will happen but probably won't happen as quickly as you want it to. With me it took 4 months once.

[precious144]

A guy I dated a few years ago was clingy so I broke up with him. We met again about a year later and he told me he'd "changed" and I believed him. I didn't take him back because it didn't take me long to figure out that he hadn't changed.

[Asker]

can you give examples of how he was clingy please..so I can compare to my case. thanks.

[Anonymous]

problem is proving you are not clingy! You don't contact her etc to prove this and she may finally believe you and in the process forget about you over time.Or you hang around in a friends capacity or whatever proving your always their for her whilst also reinforcing that you are probably the same old sweet guy who'sa little clingy and not particularly attractive as a result. Your best bet is to go NC and try to forget her. She may say hi/text but don't get overly excited by it as exes sometimes get curious about your life and just want to find out how you are doing. Unless she comes out and says she wants you back or lets you know in an other obvious manner she ain't gonna come back!

[Asker]

cool thanks.

[turokturok5]

bloody women don't know what they want, I get dumped for not showing enough affection, get dumped again for showing too much affection, its a freaking joke

[Asker]

thats sucks bro.

[TylerMMA]

There is no girl that would take you back for being to clingy. Its annoying. Listen to your friends on this one. She's gone.

[Asker]

shiiittttt bro that's harsh. but maybe you're right. I messed up. hopefully I can fix the situation. above answers have given me some hope

[Anonymous]

Lay me down in sheets of nine