Guys, a girl you really cared for dumped you, but later comes back asking for forgiveness. Do you take her back?

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What would you say?

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Accepted Answer

Nope. I hope he’ll never return, because I won’t accept him.

He was a tech guy, working in the sales, he was hyper futuristic and plus, very smart and persuasive. He once told me, he was from future and he came back to see me because he lost me in future, I died earlier than him and that the time with me was the happiest time in his life. So, he kept coming to me to feel the biggest love of his life again and again.

And that in his time he’s old now, and before he died he wanted to visit the memory of me.

I like to think that somewhere in future he’ll travel back to my memory and appreciated the unconditional love I had for him.

But he’ll never have me again. He had me once and lost me. I hope he’ll be happy with what he found.

Daniela1982 · Accepted Answer

I thought Dave Edmund's version was the original. But it turns out that Gale Storm (My Little Margie) did it a lot earlier, in 1955.

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Before I make any commitment to a relationship, I sit down with the girl and I have this conversation:

"You can leave this relationship at any time - you have free will, and I will never try to forcibly stop you, though I may ask you to reconsider your decision. But know this: once you walk out that door, there's no way back in. It's an exit-only door that might as well vanish once you step through it. So, before you use it, make very sure you are making the right decision, because there are no second chances."

I will not allow her to do the" break up and make up" game, nor will I be held hostage by a threat of her leaving. If she doesn't want to be with me, it's better for both of us that she leaves.

caring__1 · Accepted Answer

I never have, but that doesn't mean it wouldn't be possible. When I determine who I want to be with, I look at patterns. She can't undo what she did in the past, but I might reconsider if I'm impressed with what she has learned and how she has changed. Just saying "I'm sorry" generally implies she feels the loss, but it shows me nothing that might convince me she has truly been affected by how her past choices impacted others. I wouldn't even consider this option if I felt she was still only thinking about herself.

Pinay_ako · Answer

Nah. So he can dump me twice? 🤣 fuck no

lightbulb27 · Answer

kinda depends where I'm at, the reasons, and what's changed. sometimes people grow and I've seen that, which means can get to a new place... yea!! some are needy and the "new one" didn't pan out so they run back for safety, to repeat. Blech !

Might need to sign a contract, like the natives did...

"Ten Bears... I love you so much and trust you with my life... Josey, I'll honor you and yours for life... you got my word (eventhough my word was crapola before... I've changed since y'all winged me with a 45cal round... I kinda woke up ya know?). "

https://www.youtube.com/embed/ou3mDl2nZoQ

The other question is she hormonally in a good place, medications/drugs, and her personality/emotional stability. I don't trust Ten Bears when he's been drinking moonshine all week, he's got his fingers crossed, or when he's living on meds from his moon doctor.

iron_ninjs · Answer

No.
My ex broke up with me, because she wanted to get back with her ex. I tried to fight for her, but she said she loved her ex more. After a month, she wanted to get back together because her ex was threatening her ( like he did when they were together before). She said she made a mistake, and wants to try again. A said no, because I knew, and told her, that her ex is going to do the same shit he did when they were together the first time. I fought for her the first time. I really loved her, and she broke my heart saying she loved her ex more, even tho we were together for two years.

ManOnFire · Answer

I would forgive her, but probably not take her back. She most likely is only coming back because no one else wants her, and she wants something from me. I don't let women recycle me, as a recycled relationship is also doomed to fail. And if she dumped me the first time there's a good chance she'll do it again if what she feels is a better man or opportunity comes along.

Shamalien · Answer

depends. Probably not. I would have taken a bullet for her and I feel like a fucking idiot once I realized how little she valued us. I realize it was an unfair situation and her life was a mess, but I tried to help and she did not evolve fast enough. If she had agreed to speak with me post breakup and give me some closure, one phone call, I would be more forgiving, but she broke my heart in a very confusing way and then made it seem like I was the one who broke her heart, so I don't know. Basically, she can go kick rocks. I’d rather be alone.

BlackJeep · Answer

Maybe if she asks for forgiveness a day or two later. But when someone breaks up with me I consider it over and I move on. There is always someone better out there than the person who dumped you.

exitseven · Answer

This is a complicated question. It depends on how much I cared for her, how she dumped me and how much time has gone by. Also what was she doing after she dumped me and was I dating somebody else.

Sparkie460 · Answer

It would depend on my current situation, how long she's been gone, my feelings for her, her current situation, and what the terms were when she broke up with me. I'd take the time and talk with her about everything if we split on good terms.

Alex8736 · Answer

If she left you for someone else out of nowhere and then got dumped by the other person I wouldn't even want to hear anything due to fact of why would you treat someone like a priority when they treat you as an option

Drewtate · Answer

An ex of mine did this. She came back because her new guy didn't work out. I took her back for a while truthfully because I honestly did miss & care for her but also because I needed rent paid and wanted sex buy after that betrayal there was never any way that I would ever get serious with her again.

Inbox · Answer

Generally speaking, if it didn't work out the first time, then it won't work out for a second time, but that's my experience and observations from other friends, family, etc. You should talk to @WilmaReportu if you want to understand an extremist POV - she'll report any one when getting constructive criticism.

EricSummer · Answer

If she had someone else already it's time to move on.

However, if she was alone and had time to think about things, I would likely give her a chance, depending on the situation. I mean it says in the question that I really cared for her. That's not easily discarded.

blueonblack22 · Answer

You made your decision. Stick with it. I wish you the best  From my observations women get more second chances from men than vice versa. It’s bullshit. Guys need to start get tougher.

slatyb · Answer

Depends on the rain for the breakup and why she thinks it won't end the same way. There was something she thought she wanted but want getting. What was it and why does she now think she can live without it?

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Depends on circumstances. I could forgive my ex for leaving, but will never forgive her for her opinions on a fathers role in a childs life when we'd fallen pregnant. She immediately made it clear I was a secondary parent (we were only weeks into pregnancy, she ended relationship as soon as she found out. Miscarried a few weeks later).
We obviously have different views some major subjects

qwert1234 · Answer

Depends.

Why is she coming back to me? What changed?

Did her first choice did not work? Treat her poorly? Left her?

Is she pregnant and he left her?

I don't want to be a second/alternative choice. I do not want extra baggage.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

Depends on the circumstances really. Although that does sound a bit flaky, to dump someone and them come back. Usually when it is over, it is time to move on.

bolverk · Answer

"Do you take her back?" Not a bloody chance in hell! Once bitten twice shy! She had her chance and blew it, no second chances. this song sums it up.

Dan_cColt · Answer

Nah because if she didn't like me then for being myself.. then why would she like me now when I'm still myself? I get people change, but it's like a contract you can't renew once you opt out 🤷‍♂️

Kinkyhubby · Answer

Mostly likely not. It would depend on how good the relationship was, how long we were dating, how close we were, and the reason she dumpme in the 1st, was it because she went away to college, family issue, or was it to screw around with some guy, who then dumped her.

Adam1978 · Answer

No I don't want a Rollercoaster relationship. A breakup is permanent, you should never do that out of a whim.

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

I think it does not make sense to take her back or even for her to expect that I would take her back.

Sharkstealth · Answer

On 2 different occasions a girl I liked chose somebody else and after getting pregnant and the guy leaving her came back for me which I of course had no part of. Not exactly the same but similiar.

rienna888 · Answer

I know a lot of people say they won’t but they actually will take them back if they really love them and think about them 24/7. I know I would take them back if I really love them.

RingOfFire · Answer

Too many variables to answer. All depends on the circumstances and the depth of the relationship.

Billlewis · Answer

If I really wanted to be with her, I'd probably be grateful if she decided to continue seeing me.

Unit1 · Answer

So I can get dumped again? Get outta my face.

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

ID TELL HER TO FUCK OFF CUZ SHE'LL JUST DO THE SAME THING AGAIN.

BeMuse · Answer

It would be next to impossible for her to even start a conversation. Not likely she could even get that far.

Malwi93 · Answer

NOPE  (applies to men also)

JesseP1nk · Answer

Nope. To me it smell "I had this other guy, but that did not work out, so i take you back while i find someone else again"

In_Trance · Answer

Lol no chance

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Never, ever, take a woman back. She left to go fuck some Chad Thundercock, then he dumped her and she came running back. The next time a Chad comes along she will bounce again. Tell that bitch to hit the road.

Mallic00 · Answer

"You decided to dump me because you thought you could do better, now you come crawling back because you realize I'm the best you can do. Why on earth would I get back together with someone who clearly just views me as her backup plan?"

Anonymous · Answer

My pride says get the f out but I dont know what would I do in that situation... If she really makes me crazy even I would think about trying... I don't know

Staximus · Answer

If I wasn't good enough for her then, why am I now? What's to stop her from leaving me again? She better have a good answer.

TaureanBull81 · Answer

I'd only take her back if she rode me gard to orgasm 😏

SolitarySolace · Answer

No. We broke up for a reason. Go to the dude you cheated on me with.

John_Doesnt · Answer

A real Chad would have found a new woman by then.

TooHot2Care · Answer

Tbh, I'd probably have replaced her already...

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

I walk away. Then realize that I allowed her in to my house and may or may not have gotten one last bang in before telling her to leave.

Anonymous · Answer

When I was younger I probably would have said yes. But now that I'm older hell no.

heavymetalbrotha · Answer

Nah and honestly if they do it's a chance to do them dirty and waste time.

dae07102 · Answer

Hear her out and if you agree then try to mend it. If not, tell her to move on.

Juxtapose · Answer

Maybe if she shows a great sign of sincerity I will believe I am not just a backup for her.

kylecoffey73 · Answer

it depends on how many times she has done it. If she betrayed then i would never let her back into my life

Rohaan2020 · Answer

Depends on the reason… but mostly i won’t accept her

Anonymous · Answer

I have. We were happy I thought. Now im not sure.

Cheerfull009 · Answer

I will accept her, I am open hearted person

spartan55 · Answer

I'd tell that bitch to kick rocks

inhua · Answer

you can't unburn bridges

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

Tell her to go pound sand!

SnowedIn · Answer

Maybe. Lot of different considerations. Maybe.

crossdressingrihno · Answer

Never take them back.

magiusX26 · Answer

hell no. "you" had your chance and wasted it.

Reorx · Answer

No. I don't play games.

Wise4myage · Answer

Id tell her to fuck herself.

mommymommymommy · Answer

Likely not. Desp. move

shades777 · Answer

i keep her as a side piece

CT_CD · Answer

Sure, babe, let's try again.

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