Is it rude to give attention to your kids and not your baby mama (ex)?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I've always felt like once the relationship between two people is officially declared dead in the water and you're a parent, YOU OWE your kids your time, your loyalty, your love, your parenting, yourself but you don't owe anything to an ex other than to continue to be there for your kids. You would hope you could be cordial and what not with one another, but if you're not together, and you're still angry or bitter about it, that's your prerogative. No need to pose like you're a happy family still. My cousins parents are exs and they do not take photos together. They will take photos with the kids separately or if they must be in the same photo, they will stand on opposite sides. Plus, we don't know what the other person did here to earn this kind of ire. They could be an extremely toxic person to be around, all the more reason to keep your distance..

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

And this is why ex's shouldn't do the whole family activity thing together. I watched a lot of parents sit together for their children's activities and there usually was this veiled feeling of antagonism. I tried to do it for things like our daughter in dance shows in high school when we walked her out as parents or we sat together during graduation but to be honest it is a bit strange because of the relationship shift. It rarely works well and it is just better to realize the whole happy family unit has sailed. Just try to be decent human beings and not bad talk each other.

Phoenix98 · Accepted Answer

Ehh I mean I don't see the problem, I mean she probably just wanted to be in the pic because they're her kids.

But at the same time he's there to spend time with his kids not his ex, so I don't see a problem.

I will say this though he does have to set an example for his kids so I wouldn't be a dick to her or anything because the kids will see that and that will influence future behavior in similar scenarios or experiences if and or when they have them.

In other words suck it up for the kids sake.

demonics · Accepted Answer

Well men have done as such before... only to find out she killed the damned kids to get back at them. Too many instances to count of some jealous, bitter THOT (spitting image of the chick in the picture) killing the kids because dad doesn't want her anymore, even if SHE LEFT HIM.

ghostqueen · Answer

No, he owes his kids attention but doesn't have to kiss her ass. It's clearly ideal for two parents to be on good terms, but her being in the picture sulking is just stupid. It'd be a better memory for the kids to see a happy picture with their dad than having the obvious issues between the two parents exaggerate by her miserable presence.

Goodwifie · Answer

The kids will see their dad as an example of how to treat someone after a relationship fails.
Nope he doesn't owe her any attention but he should do it for the sake of his kids.
Not by spending time with her more so with a bit of kindness and she needs to do likewise for him in return.
Be kind to each other because you are still raising your children and like it or not you are still going to have to talk to one another.

Anonymous · Answer

The guy in the example wasn’t wrong, however it comes to a point where ”not giving your baby mama” attention goes too far. If it turns to ignoring, rudeness, passive agressiveness and conflict it’s wrong because the kids will notice this (yes, they absolutely will) and let’s just say it doesn’t have a good affect on kids to see their parents arguing or treating each other like shit.

naijagurl · Answer

It’s not rude but it’s certainly not a good thing. No matter what, the kids come first and it takes a big toll on them when they see the way their parents act around each they. The parents don’t need to be all happy and smiley all the time but they need to put their differences aside and be cordial for the sake of their kids.

Alice2398 · Answer

No not at all, if he is being a active, supportive dad why should he have any kind of relationship with the mum if he doesn't want to. Yes it would be nice for the kids to see their parents getting along but it may also confuse them. He's there for the kids not her.

Reaperbot666 · Answer

Depending on how/why you broke up. You really only need to interact with them. If it is about or for the kid’s sake. So a family picture does not need both parents in it really.

pleasestopthis · Answer

Why should he give attention to her? He's no longer his wife. As an ex she shouldn't feel entitled to his attention, having a civilized relationship with her for the sake of the kids is good enough... she shouldn't behave like a 15yo brat.

cinderelli · Answer

well yeah, he doesn't have to hold her like a wife but just treat her as a person and be nice to her. Especially when there was a time she was close to him, that's just common courtesy.

purplepoppy · Answer

I'd be more concerned about that little kid making a inappropriate gesture with his 2 fingers. But no he has a right not to want her in the photo. Should they separate and not see each other again he'll want a pic of them and not her.

nerms123 · Answer

Just be civil to the bm and she shouldn’t stay attached to him either

Keyarose · Answer

Babies come before anyone! But, I would show my kids and their mom both some attention.

Warmapplecrumble · Answer

This is why I don't understand ex's with children. That bond will always remain and destroy future relationships.

jayden888 · Answer

Give her some attention, she is the mother of your kids after all. Personally, I don't like the idea of kids having to even deal with separated parents. But it's a sad reality we live in.

AshleyMadison00 · Answer

No not at all just respect who she is and what she does

chrissynooo · Answer

You should definitely try and be kind to her and set a good example for your kids, even if she's not really playing nice.

Factshurt90 · Answer

He doesn’t owe her anything but the common decency any other 2 people share. His children remain the focus.

jgokgotit · Answer

No. The relationship is over. If I have kids and get divorced I will not pay her any attention except what I absolutely have to.

UnderHisEye · Answer

She gets attention from the child support check she demands every month because she refuses to get a job so she can get more child support

Just_someone23 · Answer

Nope kids are more important. Especially if she is the ex

AngelLily · Answer

If the baby mama to wack then it's understandable but if she's not it's better to get along with her too.

mooky06 · Answer

I don’t see that being an issue. His there to have a relationship with his kids. Not with her

fulloflife · Answer

mum and dad are the first relationship a child sees. that's wrong to neglect the mother of his kids... those sons will probally think that its ok to treat girls like that.

Anonymous · Answer

Rude? Maybe. Deserved? Most likely. You have an obligation to your kids, not your ex.

Piteka5 · Answer

There's nothing wrong with that, having a somewhat good relationship with the ex is a positive in this case tough, because it makes things easier to manage

moonpie89 · Answer

Yes. That's the type of behavior he shouldn't be showing his kids. Parents should be respectful to each other.

WTFever · Answer

Nothing wrong with it all, she's an EX. She's not his girlfriend anymore.

matthewotk · Answer

It's rude to have a baby momma in the first place. Ya weren't thinking about your kids beforehand just you nut. .

Anonymous · Answer

😂 this is so funny. No i think he did the right thing

Anonymous · Answer

No that's how my dad is he buys me expensive gifts and takes me out places but doesn't take my mom ( his ex )

Anonymous · Answer

good job get that hoe out the pic  you are too good for her my man

brbopinions · Answer

Can i get MHO for nothing, please?

PondyPand · Answer

Not if their relationship isn't good.

PrincessGrail · Answer

Not rude at all

MajesticTwelve · Answer

No. Not at all.

Buzzingbrady · Answer

Yes a little but u shood make with of them happy

fantasysick · Answer

No, but it's ride to ignore any one of them

Joshua714 · Answer

No. It 100% isn't

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

My baby mama can go head bunt a land mine

Sublime45 · Answer

Nope

Yessir12 · Answer

No he isn’t.

ChiPaPa · Answer

No. You're exes.

CoffeeWC · Answer

It's not wrong

Daviid_ · Answer

Yes.

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