No, I would not leave her because hopefully marriage was not based on looks. It will be terrible what a shallow person like that would do if their spouse ever became disfigured from an accident or if they simply age poorly.
If a spouse became lazy and started eating like a total slob then there is often a reason for it. I know if a lady is made to feel special would not care to sit around all day every day drinking beer and eating pizza. If either the male/female no longer cares about their appearance is a red flag that something somewhere in the relationship went down the tubes. One should seek to fix the possible damage that happened.
There is a reason for "for better and for worse" so if that is not one's belief then don't get married.
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You should never use kids as an excuse. It's YOUR marriage.
I don't have a problem with her putting on weight, but if it gets too far I'd let them know. Not only because she'll become unattractive, but because I care about them and it's very unhealthy. If she works at it and I can see she's putting in the work and making progress, I'll stick with her, but if she's just lazy and doesn't want to, then I'll divorce.
If I truly love him then I wouldn't leave him even if he was becoming paralyzed. I don't mind fat guys (like a 6' guys who weight 250 lbs is ok, this is considered fat in my country don't know about America though)
TooI hate seeing people I love losing weight and being all miserable on a diet. It would stress me more to see him wanting to lose weight rather than seeing him being happy and a bit fat.
I would only worry a lot if he was obese cause it's there there's lots of health issue but I think I would be the one cooking (since I want to be a housewife) so I would cook healthier meals to be sure he don't get too fat ^-^
Probably something like D. However it's not just if he gets fatter but if he stops sexually attracting me for too long and there's no solution or if there's one he isn't trying. Someone can get a little bit fat and still be sexully attractive, however if it's too much you can stop feeling desire for the person and would slowly damage the relationship.
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Ahh, the youth. When you hit 30, you both start getting fat. Before it's eat all you want, drink all you want, stay skinny. Then around 30 the pounds start accumulating and you need to work out to just stay at a weight. You get older and like my parents it isn't about weight anymore, but keeping your heart healthy.
No, and did you take into consideration that maybe someone’s wife or husband is already fat? So therefore they cannot divorce them bc they got fat, bc they already were? XD. If I cared that much, I’d just suggest going to the gym a couple times a week together, but for me. It’s not all about looks, I fall in love with both personality, and psychical features.
Depends how fat and if he takes action on losing the extra fat.
If he became morbidly obese and didn't care to do anything about it I may lose my patience at some point. However, if it was a health issue I would be more patient.
Also, everyone has weight fluctuations. If he gained a few kg that would be a big deal, he could lose the fat like he gained it.I needed to vote: 'other'. Honestly, I would be in a severe dilemma.
I absolutely dis-like overweight. If this occurs in my partner, it would be a severe strain in our relationship. But to think of a divorce because of this is quite an extreme step?I believe marriages are based on love, and commitment to each other, so leaving your spouse for that kind of a thing, then you're not love, its just lust... i personally wouldn't, because when i fell for her, i fell for her actions, her thoughts, her mind, and not just her looks, looks are just an extra, in short looks changes over the years... no matter how beautiful you are now, one day that beauty wouldn't be there anymore
It depends on the reason why. For a medical reason? I wouldn't leave. Because she can't be bothered to eat proper food and exercise and is lazy? I'm out. I've had a couple of girlfriends who did this, and I left. After that I'd only date women who were interested in keeping in shape themselves.
Yes it is a rational reason, as fatness is self inflicted and if you married someone partially for their looks you becoming fat you are no longer the person that one married you changed and therefore the person would have the right to end the relationship
I lot of men, including myself, love a softer woman. If she's happy and confident, fat is no problem at all and even kind of nice.
No, I would not divorce her but I would tell her my concern about weight if I was concerned and I would help her and support her when it comes to losing weight if she wants to. Love is way stronger than fat in my eyes and I don't want to force this on her.
I am not married but if I were...
I would send her fat ass to North Korea to join the Supreme Leader's Glorious Army. That will put her in shape in no time.No I would just use the skill and knowledge I gained as a personal trainer to get her back into shape.
Nope, not just because of weight gain. It's in the wedding vows for better or worse and I would hope more people really mean it.
Maybe not and I have no worries about my fiancée becoming fat
She is super into fitness and being activeI would not divorce, just try to encourage them to lose weight.
Only if they were gaining weight and not doing anything about it. If they were to complain about it but not change, then yes. Yes I would.
No i won't and i will help her to get back in shape
The most important is her/his soul, but being fat can be unhealthy. Plus going to gym or workout for your body is guit good for you.
I would actually like her body more lol. More of her to enjoy and all that :)
if we assume that I was married then no I wouldn't file for a divorce but I would definitely cheat on her.
If they stopped caring for themselves. Ignore advice. Use the excuse but we're married with kids as a reason to stay but refuse to work on themselves then yes.
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