Should I let my boyfriend go to prom with another girl?

[makip]

So we've been dating for almost 2 months and prom is coming up, we are both sophomores so we can't go to prom unless you go with a junior or senior. His friend, who is a junior has no one to go with so he told me about it..he is still debating weather to go or not even if I told him that I don't want him going with some random girl I don't know..even if they are just going as friends..thats wrong, that makes me look bad right? He knows it would really upset me and if he does I'm sure breaking up with him. Am I being too mean or do you think its just wrong for him to go to prom with a chick and leave his girlfriend at home?

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+1 y

OK for the people talking about we both going or we both doing something else..that wasn't the question..its about him going with his friend!

[RelationshipMaster]

That is pure craziness! He should NOT be having concerns about another girl! It should be all about you! Even my boyfriend, who is not really the romantic type and treats me more like a friend, would NEVER dare to ask another girl to prom or any dance! He knows that pure shadiness! You need to talk to him about this. This is a no! I suggest breaking up with him because a lesson I have learned is that if he has done it once, he will do it again. When a boy does this, it means they have more concerns about other girls then you. Your his girlfriend! Not this other girl! That's basically like cheating on you. Since your his girl, you should be the one he cares about and say no to that other chick and stay with you that night. Not leave you alone! You need to address him about this and if he says "your right why would I even consider going with her", or anything of the sorts, you can still date him, just be cautious and break up with him if he ever pulls something like this again, but if he says "I don't know I still want to go with her. I don't want her to be sad" or anything of the sorts break up with him on the spot and show him no mercy. He needs to learn a lesson.

[Eiffelgirl21]

It is wrong. Wow. I have never heard of this one. What a jerk. That's like cheating. Except for kissing and stuff..but, it's still cheating. I tell you what, tell him that he can go to prom with this girl. But, since he's going out to have a good 'ol tim with out you, with another girl, you are going out with a guy..to have a good 'ol time too. See how he likes that! And, most likely he will change his mind. Good luck. <3

[14iwalko]

Hey! I 'm in the same exact boat you are don't worry! I've been dating this guy for 2 months too, and a senior asked him and were both sophmores.. he said he'd only go to prom if I said it was okay. To be honest, it hurts and I totally feel you:) tell him to make the decision, let him know clearly you will break up with him if anything happens. it all depends on trust, I trust my boyfriend completely. good luck!:)

[makip]

At least your guy said if it was OK with you :p..actually we broke up..later on you realize guys that do that even conciser that kind of thing and worst are not very good men

[Rockinroller]

He's a sophomore, so naturally he's very immature and clueless, but that doesn't excuse him from the fact that it is unacceptable for him to ask this kind of thing whether or not it's truly harmless. You need to assert yourself gently, and let him know that you don't think so little of yourself that you'll sit at home in a tee shirt watching chick flicks on prom night whilst he dances with another girl in a matching tuxedo.

If he was older, it'd be my opinion that you dump him, but honestly, he's just immature and he'll make some other mistake of similar severity soon either way. I would have done the exact same sort of thing at his age ;P Just let him know that if he goes to prom with his friend this year, he'll have to find a friend to go with next year too.

[stercor]

Each of you go with someone eligible, then pair off.

[makip]

im not going..that wasn't really the question

[stercor]

Then you can't 'let' him do anything. He's his own person.

If you think it's a 'let/not let' situation, there's a lot of learning out there.

[Just_Jenna]

You should stop being so jealous and constraining. If she's truly just a friend, then who cares. Its not like he could take you anyway. You can't tell your boyfriend who he can spend time with and if you try to, it just makes you look like a jealous shrew.

[Butterfly_kisses09]

No his friend can find a single guy to go with. It's wrong he has a girlfriend, he shouldn't be going to prom with anyone else even if they're just friends. I agree with you, you're not being mean at all.

[Anonymous]

both of you guys should just hang out that night, prom isn't that big of a deal anyway, it's just another night.

[makip]

yeah but his friend asked him cause she has no one to go with

[Opinion Owner]

she can go with a group of girlfriends, plus her problem is not his or yours. It should be just hers, if you and your boyfriend feel that you don't want to go for your own reasons then you shouldn't have to go. If she wants to go with someone, that's her problem and she should find someone who does want to go.

[Anonymous]

:o why would he even suggest this, its wrong and yes this will make you look bad, tell him to not go and if he goes anyways I personaly would leave him

[Anonymous]

But he's telling you to go with his friend don't lie about "he is leaving his girlfriendf at home".

[Anonymous]

If he's helping out his friend I don't see why not.