Depends on several factors like age and stuff. It would be extremely difficult regardless, but when your 18-19 or young and dumb is a bit different than being in your 30s or so. I don't believe that once someone is a cheater they're always a cheater, though it may often pan out that way. It'd take a lot of consideration, and often times people in adulterous situations often use those instances to hang over the others heads throughout the rest of the relationship.
Yes. If I loved her with all my heart, yes. For me, I forgive. Im an asshole because I still love my ex who choked me and beat me with her charger cable, who accuses me of lying when I didn't (see my questions posted). In 2020, when you know the world maybe falling apart, (to me I seen many deaths this year with people I know personally, and people who had Covid.. AND DIED FROM COVID, and on Respirators) you do what you can to make sure if you love that person.. make sure they are with you...
It would depend on where our relationship was at the time, if we were in bad shape, then cheating is expected so yes I would take her back if I felt like we could fix the issues, however, if I thought everything was great and she cheated then no I would not.
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i was young but a girl did it to me a couple times with my so called best friend. it wasn't like some long continued relationship. it was a couple times she didn't come home that night. for some reason i remember just being kinda callas about it. thoss relationships both ran there courses. so to answer your question yes i would yes i have.
Never ever! Anyone who cheats is not worth it. The pain they put me through will never be forgotten. The lies and the games will never be forgotten. The trust is gone. As far as I’m concerned they can both fuck all the way off and I never want to see them again
@Unit1 You always are, and respect to you for that. Cheating is one of my biggest pet peeves, along with those sleazy friends with benefits relationships.
No. Because first she cheated second she's lying and the going to try to play me as stupid so I don't once that game has happen it would just be better to find someone new
No, because that’s only giving him the green light to do it again. If he’s truly changed and decided he wants to be faithful, let him do it for the next girlfriend. I don’t give second chances
No. They proved they couldn't be trusted. Why would I put myself in a situation where I constantly have to worry that my partner is dishonest and possibly going to cheat again.
No. Why? She'd be dead to me, I'd never want her again. That is an extinction level event for me. There is no way I could ever look at her again and I wouldn't try. Break up, move on.
Not a hope! Never gonna happen! They were selfish and clearly didn't respect me enough or love me so why on earth would I take someone back that basically destroyed me in ways?
thing is mostly they apologize not for cheating but for being caught. so there is a very high chance for them to keep continuing their cheating, there is nothing you can do about it than to just let him or her go. make peace with and know that, them cheating is not because you are inadequate but because of their inadequacy, unless you cheated on him or her first,, then your relatonship will always be based don that.
If he was truly sorry and wanted to make things work then yes I’d give it another chance. If he cheats again then I wouldn’t take him back but I do believe in giving people a second chance.
Wveryone deserves a chance but you have to be careful and aware of his actions. A Snake already bite you may bite you again and more painful this time. And i will leave the decision on you.
I don't believe the once a cheater always a cheater concept. But yeah, I will never trust them again. Which is one of the most important thing in a relationship.
Yep!! I 100% agree... I tried to take someone back after they cheated only bc the relationship was with in the first month n I know we never actually verbalized that we were official However, we certainly acted like it. Even told one another we weren't seeing anyone else... let me tell you, I doesn't work. All I did was imagine how he was cheating what he was doing, was paranoid everytime we weren't together. Nope! It doesn't work! There are certain things a person can do that scars your trust for them n its ok to not be able to come back to them. For your own peace of mind!
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Depends on several factors like age and stuff. It would be extremely difficult regardless, but when your 18-19 or young and dumb is a bit different than being in your 30s or so. I don't believe that once someone is a cheater they're always a cheater, though it may often pan out that way. It'd take a lot of consideration, and often times people in adulterous situations often use those instances to hang over the others heads throughout the rest of the relationship.
Yes. If I loved her with all my heart, yes. For me, I forgive. Im an asshole because I still love my ex who choked me and beat me with her charger cable, who accuses me of lying when I didn't (see my questions posted). In 2020, when you know the world maybe falling apart, (to me I seen many deaths this year with people I know personally, and people who had Covid.. AND DIED FROM COVID, and on Respirators) you do what you can to make sure if you love that person.. make sure they are with you...
It would depend on where our relationship was at the time, if we were in bad shape, then cheating is expected so yes I would take her back if I felt like we could fix the issues, however, if I thought everything was great and she cheated then no I would not.
i was young but a girl did it to me a couple times with my so called best friend. it wasn't like some long continued relationship. it was a couple times she didn't come home that night. for some reason i remember just being kinda callas about it. thoss relationships both ran there courses. so to answer your question yes i would yes i have.
Never ever!
Anyone who cheats is not worth it. The pain they put me through will never be forgotten. The lies and the games will never be forgotten. The trust is gone. As far as I’m concerned they can both fuck all the way off and I never want to see them again
Hell nah.
He took me for granted, abused my vulnerability and now he can go and cry me a river. Good luck finding someone who's down for you, like I was.
I'm not a cuckold.
At most I'll use her for sex only under the illusion, that I have forgiven her.
Man, you are obsessed with that cuckold nonsense...😂
@spartan55
Just being straight to the point with that.
@Unit1
You always are, and respect to you for that.
Cheating is one of my biggest pet peeves, along with those sleazy friends with benefits relationships.
@spartan55 I never understood friends with benefits. But it seems like it works for certain people.
@spartan55
Cheers mate!
Like hell!
NOT if her perception of me REMAINS Mr.-good-enough-til-better-comes-along!
"Fool me ONCE shame on you, fool me TWICE, shame on Me."
No. Because first she cheated second she's lying and the going to try to play me as stupid so I don't once that game has happen it would just be better to find someone new
No, because that’s only giving him the green light to do it again. If he’s truly changed and decided he wants to be faithful, let him do it for the next girlfriend. I don’t give second chances
No. They proved they couldn't be trusted. Why would I put myself in a situation where I constantly have to worry that my partner is dishonest and possibly going to cheat again.
Hell no. Fool me once shame you, fool me twice shame on me.
I don't let my feelings cloud my judgement. Just like I would not expect anyone to take me back or forgive me if I cheated on them.
No.
Why?
She'd be dead to me, I'd never want her again. That is an extinction level event for me.
There is no way I could ever look at her again and I wouldn't try.
Break up, move on.
Not a hope! Never gonna happen! They were selfish and clearly didn't respect me enough or love me so why on earth would I take someone back that basically destroyed me in ways?
thing is mostly they apologize not for cheating but for being caught. so there is a very high chance for them to keep continuing their cheating, there is nothing you can do about it than to just let him or her go. make peace with and know that, them cheating is not because you are inadequate but because of their inadequacy, unless you cheated on him or her first,, then your relatonship will always be based don that.
If he was truly sorry and wanted to make things work then yes I’d give it another chance. If he cheats again then I wouldn’t take him back but I do believe in giving people a second chance.
Wveryone deserves a chance but you have to be careful and aware of his actions. A Snake already bite you may bite you again and more painful this time. And i will leave the decision on you.
No, they'll just cheat on you again. Besides I could never trust her again so it wouldn't be worth it
I don't believe the once a cheater always a cheater concept. But yeah, I will never trust them again. Which is one of the most important thing in a relationship.
If you can't trust them, how can you have a relationship with them?
I wouldn't. But a lot of people have gotten back to their cheating exes.
And a lot of people get cheated on again and again by the same person.
How would that work? Every time they are out of your sight, you would picture them fucking around on you.
At least, that was the only thing i could picture.
Yep!! I 100% agree... I tried to take someone back after they cheated only bc the relationship was with in the first month n I know we never actually verbalized that we were official However, we certainly acted like it. Even told one another we weren't seeing anyone else... let me tell you, I doesn't work. All I did was imagine how he was cheating what he was doing, was paranoid everytime we weren't together. Nope! It doesn't work! There are certain things a person can do that scars your trust for them n its ok to not be able to come back to them. For your own peace of mind!