Is it true that nothing has changed? I would offer that the person cheating, and getting caught, and a discussion about why all that happened could be all new events. Hopefully. It could work for a 2nd time bc learning can be achieved, could be. Things are always changing so I don't agree that nothing has changed as a statement of fact. It's absolutely true you could be setting yourself up for more risk and I wouldn't fault anyone who chose not to take someone back for cheating. However, all these things can be simultaneously true.
@billbrasky00 Everyone is CAPABLE of changing and when yu are young, you want to believe that people WILL change to make themselves better and to make their relationship with you better. You don't want to believe that your relationship isn't sufficient motivation for the change needed. As you get more experience with relationships, particularly with horribly failed relationships, you will finally accept that most people will NOT change and a second chapter in your relationship with be just like the first, except that the problems will surface much more quickly the second time around.If you want to focus on what is POSSIBLE, you can come to my house this evening and wait with me because it is possible that Martians will land in my back yard tonight. If you want to focus on what is PROBABLE, you will stay home and get some sleep.
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This is so true! I think it is mature to understand other people choices. Just because we feel a certain way, doesn't mean everyone else should do the same.
Would you be able to trust that person again?
How they handle the situation afterwards... has a lot to do with how the trust issues will go. But yes, I can and have trusted people after cheating. I’ve also cheated before too, so I understand how mistakes can be made and how that mistake doesn’t really reflect who you are or how you feel as a person. “I’m by no means saying that it’s ok or acceptable. I’m only saying that I would rather judge someone by the good they have done... instead of magnifying and focusing on the mistake they made”.
Man, you are obsessed with that cuckold nonsense...😂
@spartan55 Just being straight to the point with that.
@Unit1You always are, and respect to you for that.Cheating is one of my biggest pet peeves, along with those sleazy friends with benefits relationships.
@spartan55 I never understood friends with benefits. But it seems like it works for certain people.
@spartan55 Cheers mate!
Yep!! I 100% agree... I tried to take someone back after they cheated only bc the relationship was with in the first month n I know we never actually verbalized that we were official However, we certainly acted like it. Even told one another we weren't seeing anyone else... let me tell you, I doesn't work. All I did was imagine how he was cheating what he was doing, was paranoid everytime we weren't together. Nope! It doesn't work! There are certain things a person can do that scars your trust for them n its ok to not be able to come back to them. For your own peace of mind!
I don't believe the once a cheater always a cheater concept. But yeah, I will never trust them again. Which is one of the most important thing in a relationship.
If you can't trust them, how can you have a relationship with them?
I wouldn't. But a lot of people have gotten back to their cheating exes.
And a lot of people get cheated on again and again by the same person.