Be honest, would you ever take someone back who cheated?

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PeacefulRainDrop · Accepted Answer

I always said no not ever... one guy did I thought for sure he was the one.. I did couldnt trust him kept checking to see if he was really where he said he was.. Had suspicions about him cheating again instead of confronting him.. his brother actually told me the first time.. he came home from work early caught his brother in his bed with his girlfriend.. I was dating his brother at the time.. the 4 of us would hang out a lot... Cory wouldn't make something like that up of course Tyler lied I didn't want to believe Cory cause of how highly I thought of Tyler.. Megan didn't talk to me so I called her I just said hi she started crying.. told me her version of everything.. went to Tylet to get the story from him without saying I was talking to Megan he blamed her and she blamed him but it takes two to have sex.. so one is as guilty as the other this was years ago and she still tries to be my friend... I am nice when we run in to each other small down... but she always wants to do this or that I just say I can't have a nice day... went from rags to riches with the guy I have now..0 regrets! That experience when I was 22 helped the sting of the rest that cheated not hurt as bad.. never took a cheater back cause I know my future husband would never do that to me.. actually im thankful when they do cause I dont waste my time loving someone like that

Agape93 · Accepted Answer

Nope. You betray my trust, and that bridge is burned. You’re out of my life for good.

Browneye57 · Accepted Answer

Yes, and yes. In many cases there are extenuating circumstances, so each relationship is different, those involved are in a different place. And your question insinuates that you don't currently 'have' them, that you're 'taking them back' somehow. In most cases, especially a marriage, cheating implies the couple is still together, and one of them cheated. That's not 'taking them back'.

Some fun stats...
The main reason people cheat is they believe they are missing something in the primary relationship. So while you can't blame the victim of cheating, there is nearly always culpability for failures in the relationship. But there can be other factors, sexual abuse, mental breakdown, immaturity, a whole host of things that come to bear.
About 75-80% of LTR's endure some kind of infidelity.
About 15% of those survive and recover, even improve. The rest implode.
Cheating is pretty well split 50-50 by gender, but women are better liars so the stats are skewed to men.
75-80% divorces are initiated by women.

The bottom line is that happy couples in love don't cheat.

coachTanthony · Accepted Answer

---------------Absolutely not. If they cheated it's because they aren't happy. I am no consolation prize. You can't have your cake and eat it too with me.  ~Coach T Anthony @thedatecoach IG

Cathy7734 · Answer

I've only tried it once. I found out he cheated on me and he broke off the relationship with me. He wanted to get back together and I said yes. Within the first week, he cheated on me again.

If I knew he wasn't going to cheat on me the 2nd time I would take him back.

Screenwriter · Answer

I'm sure it has to do with the length of the relationship and its depth.

If it's not that long and not that serious, why bother? If it IS, well that's another matter all together.

And violation of trust is a GIANT matter. You have to consider that carefully. Can you heal? Do you want to? Is the person sincere? Is it forgiveable?

These are all factors that have to be weighed carefully on the life scale.

Smoke-n-Growls · Answer

Nope, never. Breach of trust on that level is irreparable for me. I don't waste time with people who aren't able to give me what I want or expect out of a committed relationship.

designer1 · Answer

Yes bc I’ve done it twice. It was emotional cheating but still hurt like hell. The first time with the first guy didn’t work out. The second time with the second guy did. I forgave him but I will never forget. Our relationship has actually gotten better somehow.

Arcreactor81 · Answer

Nuh uh. Nopety-nope.
They had the choice to not do that but chose to cheat on me anyways. That's why, since I have a choice whether or not to take them back, Imma be like:

Ex: Look, I've been really missing you latel-
Me: Pause. First say, "What's up?"
Ex: Huh?
Me: Go on
Ex: Alright... What's up?
Me: My standards, BYE.

(The internet has ruined me. Help.)

keniyaa · Answer

once a cheater always one, and I won't do the same shit with u, and break my heart all over if u can't be loyal and committed. Then stop tryna hook up with them. Like be with someone who makes u happy and have a solid relationship cuz in the end u was wrong for cheating not me. and all girls gone find out what a dirty ass player u are. For cheating its simple stay loyal df.

natured · Answer

No, I can't forgive cheating, It would mean I'm also cheating on myself for letting that person back in my life... and I don't cheat on my damn self...
SO NO i'd start a new life, it's never late to start something new

rounddablock · Answer

No and fuck no. Only extreme rare exception would be a scenario like Matt Damon in the Good Shepherd. He was estranged from his wife for 5 years doing spy work for the early CIA in WW2. When he came back home they both admitted they cheated but stayed together. But that’s a very rare scenario.

Interstate · Answer

If I was back into dating again (LOL!), it would depend on for how long, and how many times it has happened. If it was just one time, then we all make mistakes and I would be willing to overlook it. MORE than once for me is a deal breaker.

Bilal_Zahir · Answer

Yes i would. Cause everyone deserve a chance as a human being.

Bee-Hatch · Answer

No.  Mainly because I'm not weak and I've got self respect, so wouldn't put myself through that bullshit.

ButterflyHope · Answer

No.  The relationship just doesn’t feel the same & the trust is no longer there even how hard you try.

Janessa2021 · Answer

Hello no , for what? So they can see if ill keep letting then back when they do it again? No thanks

Finchie40 · Answer

No way , they didn’t value you when they cheated so what’s going to make them value you a second time?

Anonymous · Answer

In the past, he was my kid's dad. Later on he became loyal to someone else as he aged and had more children and gained some wisdom because he believes in God too. All is forgiven.☺️

ArztSchlachthof · Answer

No, that's the ultimate betrayal I'm not able to forgive. I hold my grudges like dwarves, so until death, I wouldn't be able to even talk to her.

raddisn · Answer

It depends on the relationship and how long you been together.
If its a long marriege of 35 years there can be forgiveness for the affair but if its a short relationship and you not sure its going anywhere anyway then maybe not

Anonymous · Answer

TAKE them BACK?  I will want them to die, live in misery and alone forever.

katiesmuff · Answer

No if's, and's or but's the answer was, is and always will be NO

kidvid80 · Answer

no, i would have a chat about the situation but would never take them back

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

No could not do it. huge number of personal reasons why I could never do this

exitseven · Answer

I used to think there is no way I would ever take somebody back that cheated. Now I think it might depend on the circumstances.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

I'd forgive them once. Do it to me again and they won't see me for dust.

Supernormal · Answer

These ladies sayin no, some saying yes. The ones saying no would cheat again cos they're cheats: but lie. The ones saying yes are innocent so they have room to forgive

treyb1985 · Answer

I will fuck her again if she comes back around wit that I miss u crap but to take her serious and deal with her on that level again absolutely not.. I just give em what they want this big ol pipe and keep it moving on they cheating ass ✌🏽

Coulis · Answer

N to O No. I have ZERO tolerance for cheating. Yalla bye.

Pandupillu · Answer

Depends on the circumstances and whether he has changed or not. I would be okay to give a last chance, provided he sticks to his words. Cause life is not always black and white.

SlightlyEccentric · Answer

I don't take back any of my ex's for any reason, regardless of how the relationship ended.

Medhat-M · Answer

Nope... Life is too short to waste it on shitty people

AdithyaR · Answer

Absolutely not  I'd not even acknowledge their existence

bolverk · Answer

No, If they cheat they are gone, no excuses accepted,

EssenceOfLight · Answer

No. Not into normal relationship where the base is trust and respect.

Indiepop123 · Answer

Maybe if it was once and he begged for forgiveness.

Kate200005 · Answer

No, I would never truly trust him. If he cheats once he could cheat again!

Dchrls78104 · Answer

No. For me that kind of trust, once lost, is always lost.

Guanfei · Answer

No. You cheat, you're dead to me, at the second I learn about it.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Yeah, a wife when I'm old and don't care anymore, otherwise no.

Anonymous · Answer

i been cheated on before. the person i love cheated on me numerous times. each time it hurt. i still get anxiety google searching their name not knowing what i may find

K_Constantine · Answer

I would take them back if it was an honest moment of weakness and things happened. However, if it was a well thought out decision then I would not.

Anonymous · Answer

Doubtful. If I did it would be exclusively for a complex plan of revenge where I re-established trust, gave her hope and then cheated on her

michael1469 · Answer

No, so many other real options after that shit show.

Better_off_here · Answer

i would not do that, once my trust has been broken it i am not one to take another chance on them.

Anonymous · Answer

Only if she agreed in writing to be my sex slave with no limitations.

Anonymous · Answer

i dont really know since i wasn't in that situation thank god, but i think i wouldn't since i wouldn't be able to trust that person ever again and relationship without trust is not healthy so yeaa

maxdf · Answer

No I would not I think its disloval and shows selfishness

Hanzo_Hasashi · Answer

A broken trust isn't easy to fix. Even if he takes you back it takes time to shape that trust again.

Anonymous · Answer

I reckon a lot of Girls say they wouldn't but a lot of them have. But I definitely wouldn't.

Somegirl408 · Answer

probably if i really liked them

Sheyhoney · Answer

NO. Once a cheater always a cheater 🥲

Ghostykill3r · Answer

It depends on the situation, but mostly no.

Miristheiss · Answer

No way ever. They'd be dead to me.

Dargil · Answer

Cheating is the ultimate betrayal. No.

Mac-One · Answer

That would depend on the circumstances.

JennBITx · Answer

Nope. I would be done

Pterodon · Answer

Fuck no

SynthKobra · Answer

Never in any lifetime.

AlongCameCindy · Answer

depending on the circumstances.

dray995 · Answer

No. What’d be the point of it?

FireFox001 · Answer

Never. Once a cheater, always a cheater.

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