Would you ever take back a CHEATER?

[coachTanthony]

Yes they deserve another chance

Hell no

[Finchie40]

I tried once and that was my answer
To never do it again , The chemistry and connection and trust is pretty much destroyed , I cheated on a girl once as well and realized how horrible I was for doing that to someone that gave their heart to me , Cheating is a selfish choice and a cheater is 100 percent wrong, It’s not the partners fault what so ever , if you are really unhappy with someone you break up with them don’t cheat on them and try to go back to them , If you cheat end it with them right then and there they already answered their own question that they don’t truly love and Al value their partner , so it’s just a waste of time

[TheLovelyIntrovert]

No, my husband cheated on me full-blow affair my best guess is 4-6 months. The only reason he told me was that his friend's mom made him or she would tell me. He only officially ended it when she wanted him to get a place with her. He jumped ship because she has a kid and we do as well. He wasn't about to take care of two families. A couple of years after that I found out he had been sending inappropriate DMs to other women and said he had another somewhat physical affair but never went all the way... Yeah, I don't believe him. DO NOT stay with people like this. It's emotional abuse and will make you feel like a shell of a person. It took me years to find the old me and let go of the bitterness. The emotional abuse was so bad I was lashing out at strangers over every little thing. GET OUT while you can. This goes for anyone who is going through this.

[SarahS98]

And he's still husband? I would've booted him the first time he cheats. If he gave him a 2nd chance and he's still cheating (doesn't matter if sex isn't involved this time), it's time to serve him the divorce papers.

[TheLovelyIntrovert]

@SarahS98 Separated. Going to remain that way for 5 years until our daughter is 18. She is 13 but 5 mentally. I refuse to put her through any crap he might cause in court. He can do whatever he wants in his life and I will do what I want. Not everything is black and white.

[SarahS98]

Good then. You don't need toxicity in your life. I'll never understand how can anyone cheat.

[Sukaaa]

You should be very proud of yourself you are a powerful and attractive woman that is so powerful that went through hell and living

[TheLovelyIntrovert]

@Sukaaa I have to give credit to my friend on Twitter. He was there for me all the way through it. Supported me through all the horrible stuff and always listened to me whenever I needed to talk. We want to pursue a relationship. But hold off for a bit. It's sad when someone online treats me better.

[Sukaaa]

God always helps us in the hard times but still if you didn't want to do anything about it you wouldn't have and yes it is sad but better than nothing

[lilyanony1]

I don't know if I could.
I've not been in that type of situation so I think I would have to say I just don't know.
I've done things in the past I didn't think I would simply because I was angry/jealous in love

[Guy13]

Realities to Consider if i am going to reestablish a violated Relationship:

Do I have a "get out of jail free card" attitude using the cheat Card?; Can I forgive knowing I will likely never forget? ; People are fallen as am I perspective?; and Can I stay in the Present?

[Avicenna]

The only potential scenario (emphasis on „potential“) would be if we have kids together and she’d get primary custody if I left and would use that to move far away with the kids. Other than that potential scenario, hell no.

[OlderAndWiser]

Only if I wanted to be cheated on a second time.

Just no!

[Maybe_1day]

No.
I've been cheated on, after many months she came back to explain everything (That's after the break up), I've just gave a chance to hear her out as a human. She explained and said how sorry she was etc etc. I said OK. I forgive you. She asked so are we back again? I said NO. I've just forgiven you for what you've done but that's all. But no more Me and You. That was it. What I'm trying to say is, you forgive yes. Forgiving is a part of our healing process. But the damage is there. So I wouldn't wanna involve myself with such person again. I forgive, but I never forget. And the best is to forgive, tell them no more relationship with them and move on. I believe that's the best. When the trust is gone, it's never possible to place it back. So why should I live on earth with 100 doubts every single minute?

[ThinkFitness23]

Yes, but this depends on the circumstances.


A kiss with a random isn’t the same as meeting an old flame regularly for sex over a 2-3 month period.


Cheating and having an affair are not always the same thing.

[coachTanthony]

You have to ask yourself... was that kiss with a random just the beginning? Everyone starts off slow with texts and phone calls and maybe that kiss or hug. If they don't make it to actually having sex because they got caught should they then get a pass?

[cddenure]

Here’s the deal, we all make mistakes. I have never cheated, but I have been cheated on. I was cheated on by my wife twice within just a few months of each other. The first time when I caught her I blamed myself and asked her what I did to make her do it. The second time she actually can and told me what she had done, and that’s when she and I had a “come to Jesus” meeting and I laid out what would happen if it ever happened again. It has now been 17 years since that happened and I know with certainty she has not cheated on me since then. I am a manly yet passive guy, I’ll let things room off of my shoulder. I’ll give anyone a couple of chances, but after that then I’m done. Cheating is a complex issue, some people cheat because of abuse, some because of inattention, and in the case with my wife, she was sheltered as a child and teenager and never “lived” before we got married. Every cheating circumstance is different.

[Looksnicholas]

As forgiving a person as I am, in that relationship context if that were me, if that were me, hell to the No. We could be friends or on amicable terms, totally, but take them back as a partner, never ever. 😃

Politely and with human respect.

[SnowedIn]

The context matters hugely. We've been in a relationship for a few months? No. Done. It's been a few years? There's at least discussion after an anger phase. Married for 20+ years? Probably, yeah. Hurt, anger, crushing heartache? Sure. But what's been forged for that long shouldn't be thrown out. Is that how it might end? Maybe. But not necessarily.

[imjustrlly_weird]

No, I wouldn't. If they did it once, how do you know they won't do it again? How can you trust them to stay faithful? I wouldn't take that chance, but that's just me. It also depends on the type of person they are. For example, if they are manipulative. If that was the case, then I'd end it to avoid more pain in the future.

[Redhead1981]

You should not take a cheater back. The trust is gone and it will never be the same. I don't get why people cheat anyways obviously if you're interested in cheating or having an affair there are some issues in your relationship and they need to be fixed or separate and move on.

[AsaKyo]

No lmao
Would you, @coachTanthony? Hmm?

[coachTanthony]

hell no

[SarahS98]

Nope, he would become my blocked ex quickly.

[USLegionary]

No. Once she cheats she Belongs to the streets.

[RobT312]

I would depending on the situation. People aren't perfect. I cheated once and was forgiven

[DubiousIntentions]

Cheat once, shame on you. They won't be getting the chance to cheat twice so that I get shamed.

[admles]

No.

Once a cheater, always a cheater in my personal experience.

Cheating is a choice they made, so now they live with the consequences of that choice.

[sheikalana]

Only if they showed they genuinely regret what they did and prove they want to be with me. After all we're all human beings we all make mistakes and we all deserve second chances. But I don't agree with third chances.

[midnightmoon05]

I did. Again…exception to the rule.
he didn’t have good guidance. He cheated emotionally if that counts.
we had to work out his lack of experience…at the end, good things come of it.

[douride2]

I did take a cheater back once. It will never happen again.

[ManhattanMan1212]

Can I ask you a question

[douride2]

@ManhattanMan1212 You can ask. Not guaranteeing I will answer.

[Andreasucker]

I'm very open minded and I'm happy for my boyfriend to fuck other women. So there's no such thing as cheating for us

[FreyaRed]

Only if I get a lobotomy that will make me to a vegetable.